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Post by Orbs on Aug 24, 2024 12:27:03 GMT
In irish we say Tá brón orm Which basically means sadness is upon me or on me. Because emotions don't define us as people and they're not a permanent state either. So rather than say "I'm depressed" as we would in English. I prefer to think of the irish wording and that the emotions and feelings are upon me but they do not define me and they won't always be there. The best way to find happiness is to give happiness. There is nothing more joyful that putting a smile on someone's face especially an unexpecting strangers. If you can make one stranger smile a day then you've got a purpose. Or better still get a dog and make him smile every day  I like to imagine that's what a few of my jocular posts do for people on here. You’re the only reason I log on. (And Strava to see your .75 of a mile walk) |
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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 24, 2024 13:13:24 GMT
49m elevation gain in those metres baby.
Always go for the 2000m a month target, quality over quantity.
I'll be putting in the miles before 2 weeks in the lakes in November, need to get some practice in up those hills.
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Aug 28, 2024 0:16:00 GMT
Thx for the advice. I need to slow down. Im doing too much.Im making silly mistakes. i was on 5 hours sleep last night then got up early to photograph. I work full time. I do shifts for the RSPB and photograph. I definitely need a rest. I also need to stop comparing my life to others around me. I feel like im failing but i shouldn't have that mind set. I've nothing coming up but i will make plans. Im not going to give up on getting out of this mindset im sadly in at the moment. It’s an all too familiar tale for me personally, I feel your pain mate. You must take a break and arrange so time for yourself. Even things like DIY projects and visiting places you’ve never been to help, certainly help me. Try not to catastrophize and get some quality sleep. These are the main things I can recommend. Good advice mate. Life passes us by so quickly at the best of times so it's important we try our best to not speed up that process. I'm definitely guilty of cramming too much in at times. Then I suddenly snap of it and I book a flight somewhere. Or if not flying, just take some time out on your own by doing a weekend away somewhere in the UK. Taking some time away on your own is great to recharge and reset the mind ☺️ In terms of comparing yourself to others, you don't need to. The majority of those we compare ourselves are experiencing so many of their own issues that we don't even know about, and if we did, we wouldn't compare ourselves with them! It's your life, your story, not anyone else's and your contentment has to be priority number one. Do what YOU want to do. Never compromise on that 🙏 |
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 28, 2024 16:17:23 GMT
It’s an all too familiar tale for me personally, I feel your pain mate. You must take a break and arrange so time for yourself. Even things like DIY projects and visiting places you’ve never been to help, certainly help me. Try not to catastrophize and get some quality sleep. These are the main things I can recommend. Good advice mate. Life passes us by so quickly at the best of times so it's important we try our best to not speed up that process. I'm definitely guilty of cramming too much in at times. Then I suddenly snap of it and I book a flight somewhere. Or if not flying, just take some time out on your own by doing a weekend away somewhere in the UK. Taking some time away on your own is great to recharge and reset the mind ☺️ In terms of comparing yourself to others, you don't need to. The majority of those we compare ourselves are experiencing so many of their own issues that we don't even know about, and if we did, we wouldn't compare ourselves with them! It's your life, your story, not anyone else's and your contentment has to be priority number one. Do what YOU want to do. Never compromise on that 🙏 Spot on mate 👍 |
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Post by alsagerstokie on Aug 28, 2024 17:59:49 GMT
Great advice guys cheers.
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Post by flea79 on Sept 2, 2024 17:12:08 GMT
Health anxiety is terrible
Spent all day today worrying that the pain in my back on the left side was the first sign of kidney failure, then I remembered that I walked into a door handle yesterday and it was that!
Bloody fool
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Post by alsagerstokie on Sept 2, 2024 17:48:19 GMT
Health anxiety is terrible Spent all day today worrying that the pain in my back on the left side was the first sign of kidney failure, then I remembered that I walked into a door handle yesterday and it was that! Bloody fool As someone else who suffers with this no matter what situation keep talking about it. Hope the pain eases. A tough couple of days for me. Daft as it seems yesterday made me feel pretty down because the sky was overcast rain came in early evening. Dark by 7:45. I miss what spring summer we did get already. |
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Post by Wizbit on Sept 2, 2024 18:15:22 GMT
Health anxiety is terrible Spent all day today worrying that the pain in my back on the left side was the first sign of kidney failure, then I remembered that I walked into a door handle yesterday and it was that! Bloody fool As someone else who suffers with this no matter what situation keep talking about it. Hope the pain eases. A tough couple of days for me. Daft as it seems yesterday made me feel pretty down because the sky was overcast rain came in early evening. Dark by 7:45. I miss what spring summer we did get already. I never knew this thread existed as I don't come on here often but I too suffer massive health anxiety, I was a nay sayer mental health doesn't exist 25 years OK then suffered a heart attack at 35 and my whole world changed forever, I've been through periods not being able to leave the house and I now know all too well it's real very real, I'm generally OK but I still have periods where any symptoms are the beginning of another heart attack but I get through somehow, I've always functioned at work but give me a week off and I really struggle, I joined the fit potters cohorts and they were excellent and really helped me and I've found a walking football group that is run by Vale ( yes I know lol) but it id excellent, it's an hour commute for me but that hour a week is really precious to me.... If any one is ever struggling and wants a chat feel free never suffer in silence whoever you are just remember you are amazing you are important |
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Sept 2, 2024 18:17:03 GMT
As someone else who suffers with this no matter what situation keep talking about it. Hope the pain eases. A tough couple of days for me. Daft as it seems yesterday made me feel pretty down because the sky was overcast rain came in early evening. Dark by 7:45. I miss what spring summer we did get already. I never knew this thread existed as I don't come on here often but I too suffer massive health anxiety, I was a nay sayer mental health doesn't exist 25 years OK then suffered a heart attack at 35 and my whole world changed forever, I've been through periods not being able to leave the house and I now know all too well it's real very real, I'm generally OK but I still have periods where any symptoms are the beginning of another heart attack but I get through somehow, I've always functioned at work but give me a week off and I really struggle, I joined the fit potters cohorts and they were excellent and really helped me and I've found a walking football group that is run by Vale ( yes I know lol) but it id excellent, it's an hour commute for me but that hour a week is really precious to me.... If any one is ever struggling and wants a chat feel free never suffer in silence whoever you are just remember you are amazing you are important Well said mate, you’ve certainly been through the ringer and come out of the other side👍🏻 |
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Post by Wizbit on Sept 2, 2024 19:06:05 GMT
I never knew this thread existed as I don't come on here often but I too suffer massive health anxiety, I was a nay sayer mental health doesn't exist 25 years OK then suffered a heart attack at 35 and my whole world changed forever, I've been through periods not being able to leave the house and I now know all too well it's real very real, I'm generally OK but I still have periods where any symptoms are the beginning of another heart attack but I get through somehow, I've always functioned at work but give me a week off and I really struggle, I joined the fit potters cohorts and they were excellent and really helped me and I've found a walking football group that is run by Vale ( yes I know lol) but it id excellent, it's an hour commute for me but that hour a week is really precious to me.... If any one is ever struggling and wants a chat feel free never suffer in silence whoever you are just remember you are amazing you are important Well said mate, you’ve certainly been through the ringer and come out of the other side👍🏻 Cheers buddy |
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Post by musik on Sept 3, 2024 13:19:16 GMT
Surgeon on Tuesday for examination and decision. The pain is huge and function low.
Nerve entrapment. New symptoms arise all the time. Spasms lately. And the back of the hands pain is unhuman. Neither described as symptoms from doctors or in books.
I will try to move my body as much as possible.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Sept 3, 2024 16:02:01 GMT
Surgeon on Tuesday for examination and decision. The pain is huge and function low. Nerve entrapment. New symptoms arise all the time. Spasms lately. And the back of the hands pain is unhuman. Neither described as symptoms from doctors or in books. I will try to move my body as much as possible. I hope after you have been for your appointment that they come up with a plan that will ease your suffering Musik. All the best mate 👍 |
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Post by mickeythemaestro on Sept 3, 2024 17:14:17 GMT
Surgeon on Tuesday for examination and decision. The pain is huge and function low. Nerve entrapment. New symptoms arise all the time. Spasms lately. And the back of the hands pain is unhuman. Neither described as symptoms from doctors or in books. I will try to move my body as much as possible. Good luck Musik 👍 🙏 |
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Post by chuffedstokie on Sept 4, 2024 10:19:35 GMT
Surgeon on Tuesday for examination and decision. The pain is huge and function low. Nerve entrapment. New symptoms arise all the time. Spasms lately. And the back of the hands pain is unhuman. Neither described as symptoms from doctors or in books. I will try to move my body as much as possible. Hope all gets sorted out soon musik, take care. |
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Post by Orbs on Sept 4, 2024 11:04:06 GMT
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Post by flea79 on Sept 4, 2024 11:50:09 GMT
dear god, what a world we live in such misery and suffering suffered by so many when as a group we all have so much, im not on about money here, im thinking time, love compassion, if everybody could remove the head from the bottom and just give a few minutes a day (in kind of the way we do on this thread) then such things might no be so common awful awful story love to his parents |
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Post by mattador78 on Sept 7, 2024 20:17:09 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10
Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Sept 7, 2024 20:22:30 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10 Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering. Don’t beat yourself up mate, if your kid says you’re a dickhead for suggesting you’ve been a bad dad then I would take heed. Nobody is perfect and things happen where you reflect on things you may have done differently in life but at the end of the day you’ve made those choices with your and your kids best interests at heart. I really hope there’s a positive outcome to your daughters tests and remember, if it’s not the news you want to hear, be there and support her with everything you e got. It’ll go a long way towards ultimate recovery. All the best mate |
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Post by mattador78 on Sept 7, 2024 20:31:19 GMT
Don’t beat yourself up mate, if your kid says you’re a dickhead for suggesting you’ve been a bad dad then I would take heed. Nobody is perfect and things happen where you reflect on things you may have done differently in life but at the end of the day you’ve made those choices with your and your kids best interests at heart. I really hope there’s a positive outcome to your daughters tests and remember, if it’s not the news you want to hear, be there and support her with everything you e got. It’ll go a long way towards ultimate recovery. All the best mate Ta it’s a thought rattling around that’s all I know I’ve done right by my kids it’s just I suppose the helplessness gives you time to think about things you don’t need to |
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Sept 7, 2024 21:03:12 GMT
Ta it’s a thought rattling around that’s all I know I’ve done right by my kids it’s just I suppose the helplessness gives you time to think about things you don’t need to Yep that’s right, everyone does it in situations similar to yours. You’re a good man. |
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Sept 7, 2024 21:52:47 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10 Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering. All I can say mate is I may be able to at least comfort you on the cancer side of things as I have been there not to long ago and at the time not so much older than your daughter albeit a different type. If you want or need to message me mate I'm here. What I will say is your support will mean absolutely everything to her because it did for me from my family and in the many dark times I faced, alot of the time my family were my brightest light. |
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Post by mattador78 on Sept 8, 2024 8:15:24 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10 Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering. All I can say mate is I may be able to at least comfort you on the cancer side of things as I have been there not to long ago and at the time not so much older than your daughter albeit a different type. If you want or need to message me mate I'm here. What I will say is your support will mean absolutely everything to her because it did for me from my family and in the many dark times I faced, alot of the time my family were my brightest light. Glad to hear you are doing well and your advice is heard. One question for yourself and you family is the waiting the hardest thing to deal with as that’s what I’m struggling with at the minute. The appointments diagnosis and treatment so far I’m good with and can take on. The waiting for the next answer though is the bit killing me. |
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Sept 8, 2024 10:39:46 GMT
All I can say mate is I may be able to at least comfort you on the cancer side of things as I have been there not to long ago and at the time not so much older than your daughter albeit a different type. If you want or need to message me mate I'm here. What I will say is your support will mean absolutely everything to her because it did for me from my family and in the many dark times I faced, alot of the time my family were my brightest light. Glad to hear you are doing well and your advice is heard. One question for yourself and you family is the waiting the hardest thing to deal with as that’s what I’m struggling with at the minute. The appointments diagnosis and treatment so far I’m good with and can take on. The waiting for the next answer though is the bit killing me. The waiting is the hardest bit mate because once you have the answers you know what you are facing and that's better than the not knowing. I hope everything works out mate for your daughter and just remember that the doctors and nurses are absolutely brilliant at what they do. |
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Post by Orbs on Sept 8, 2024 10:57:29 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10 Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering. I reckon everyone looks back and thinks could I have done more? Should I have done x, y or z? You’re definitely not on your own with that one. Like you say you’re thinking about that now when your daughter has already told you that you were a great dad. Really, you can either think about the past (which is actually a totally waste of time) or focus all your time and energy on supporting your daughter. My advice would be forget about the ifs and buts of the past and now is the time to concentrate on your daughter therefore cementing your legendary dad status. Hope all goes well on Monday. I’m sure it will 👍🏽 |
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Post by hamsta2 on Sept 8, 2024 16:44:11 GMT
So had mri scan. Now got an appt Oct 1st with orthopaedic dept. Can’t see my scan results yet I have an appt to discuss next steps. I’ve now been told that the consultant won’t release the results to me until after my appt as he doesn’t want to worry or scare me. That’s ok then 🤨. Knees still needing ops but I’ve been told they’re not touching them or my other stenosis until this problem ( whatever it is ) has been addressed. Ho Hum.
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Sept 8, 2024 22:04:11 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10 Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering. I reckon everyone looks back and thinks could I have done more? Should I have done x, y or z? You’re definitely not on your own with that one. Like you say you’re thinking about that now when your daughter has already told you that you were a great dad. Really, you can either think about the past (which is actually a totally waste of time) or focus all your time and energy on supporting your daughter. My advice would be forget about the ifs and buts of the past and now is the time to concentrate on your daughter therefore cementing your legendary dad status. Hope all goes well on Monday. I’m sure it will 👍🏽 Fantastic advise Orbs. Matt - if you follow the above you won't go far wrong. Good luck 😊 |
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Post by musik on Sept 10, 2024 10:27:07 GMT
Just got back from the surgeon.
Result: it was the wrong clinic (operation trauma) I got the time to today, after waiting for an appointment since the hot summer.
So he will write to the right clinic (hand surgery) to say they have to give me an appointment. The name of the whole clinic is Orthopedist surgery, but then they call it different specialized things beneath that. How would I know?
Then I went to the radiologist clinic to pay for some x-rays they've given me on an usb-memory - I haven't got the bill yet (7 weeks gone). But they said it was the wrong clinic there as well, even though they sent it to me from there. So I got a phone number to call to some radiologist media unit. Probably the desk in the next room.
Seriously?
The surgeon is decent though. And the blonde female shy doctor student was nice.
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Post by Orbs on Sept 10, 2024 10:42:09 GMT
Just got back from the surgeon. Result: it was the wrong clinic (operation trauma) I got the time to today, after waiting for an appointment since the hot summer. So he will write to the right clinic (hand surgery) to say they have to give me an appointment. The name of the whole clinic is Orthopedist surgery, but then they call it different specialized things beneath that. How would I know? Then I went to the radiologist clinic to pay for some x-rays they've given me on an usb-memory - I haven't got the bill yet (7 weeks gone). But they said it was the wrong clinic there as well, even though they sent it to me from there. So I got a phone number to call to some radiologist media unit. Probably the desk in the next room. Seriously? The surgeon is decent though. And the blonde female shy doctor student was nice. Every cloud Musik! |
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Post by Northy on Sept 13, 2024 15:48:31 GMT
I thought I’d post on here after a few weeks of contemplating the issue. My 24 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, hopefully it has been caught in time. We are just waiting the results of a bone scan she needs to have on Monday before her treatment starts. I have had to take her to Birmingham to have her eggs harvested so treatment doesn’t affect her fertility but that’s finished as on Friday 10 Eggs were frozen. We are coping pretty well but I’ve been feeling at times like I’ve been a bad dad to my kids. I know I haven’t been a bad dad, I just didn’t push myself to provide more for them until they were older and now I have a few regrets about what I was able to provide for them when they where younger. I’ve spoke to my oldest about this and she’s told me I’m a dickhead and to basically forget about it and told me I’ve been a good dad. But it gnaws away in my head at the minute, I just wondered if anyone had had a similar experience. I’m good in myself as in I’m not depressed or angry I’m more disappointed in myself. I think if the best case scenario comes out for my daughter in the next few weeks it will be something forgotten easily. But if the worst comes out I’m not sure it will be any easy resolution. Any way cancers shit and I feel for anyone or their families suffering. I'm sure you have done all the right things and these things play on your mind unnecessarily. Been through the cancer thing with my Mrs this year, not breast but internally, she's had an operation and targeted Radiotherapy, but through it now, you can only be there for them to help and reassure, it's had knowing what they are going through inside. It hits harder when they are young, or fit and healthy. Fingers crossed for your daughter for a full recovery. |
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Post by mattador78 on Sept 18, 2024 16:57:35 GMT
Well it’s not spread as we’ve been informed today and her op is on Monday. I feel a huge weight lifted and after a little cry pretty invigorated. Thanks for all the kind words everyone btw.
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