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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 8, 2024 18:42:30 GMT
That’s why he went back for the second one. Apparently Felonious found it and is currently extracting the knowledge from it before making his comeback into the Oatcake. He's hoping to win retard of the year this time?
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Post by djduncanjames on Aug 9, 2024 22:41:17 GMT
New Season, New Beginnings. The past is the past. We push forward that's what we do. Keep The Faith x We'll Be with YOU x
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 10, 2024 6:45:27 GMT
New Season, New Beginnings. The past is the past. We push forward that's what we do. Keep The Faith x We'll Be with YOU x Well said Dj. I hope everyone on here who has been feeling a bit down is going to get a bit of a lift now the season is kicking off. Remember if anyone is feeling under the weather we are all with you on here. Up the potters!
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Post by Orbs on Aug 12, 2024 10:37:58 GMT
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Post by Los Alfareros on Aug 12, 2024 15:51:52 GMT
Absolutely, it also seems he has been getting help for years, which makes this one even harder for me to understand. There are no boundaries to this illness, everyone's personal struggle is completely unique. I am certain other people cannot feel like I have done in the past, I cannot reason that it is possible. Anyway, take care one and all, don't be afraid to seek help and/or medication, saved me from the brink.
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Post by sd22 on Aug 15, 2024 11:35:09 GMT
Afternoon all
Hope you’re all well, I’ll provide an update on my situation in the coming weekends (got some stuff on that may impact my mental health)
But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time.
I’m not happy, but I’m ok, which is a start. Onwards and upwards for us all, 2 wins also helps all of our happiness too
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Post by danceswithclams on Aug 16, 2024 16:54:33 GMT
Afternoon all But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. Even stranger is that it's a swingers holiday 🍆💦
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Post by sd22 on Aug 16, 2024 22:10:37 GMT
Afternoon all But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. Even stranger is that it's a swingers holiday 🍆💦 I wish! Good few month dry spell 💀
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Post by str8outtahampton on Aug 17, 2024 13:24:27 GMT
Afternoon all But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. Even stranger is that it's a swingers holiday 🍆💦 Stranger still that I am on the same holiday. Although at 66 I am struggling to find anyone to swing with.
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Post by str8outtahampton on Aug 17, 2024 13:26:29 GMT
Afternoon all Hope you’re all well, I’ll provide an update on my situation in the coming weekends (got some stuff on that may impact my mental health) But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. I’m not happy, but I’m ok, which is a start. Onwards and upwards for us all, 2 wins also helps all of our happiness too You're not alone mate. I have no idea what specific challenges you're facing, but I am reasonably confident I have an understanding of how difficult it is. Onwards and upwards indeed!
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Post by mtrstudent on Aug 17, 2024 21:16:20 GMT
But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. That's precious mate. I avoided going on hols with them after turning 17, because it felt weird, but now I wish I'd done more. I really hope you can keep enjoying the holiday and good luck with all your issues 👍
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Post by cdf on Aug 18, 2024 6:29:17 GMT
Afternoon all Hope you’re all well, I’ll provide an update on my situation in the coming weekends (got some stuff on that may impact my mental health) But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. I’m not happy, but I’m ok, which is a start. Onwards and upwards for us all, 2 wins also helps all of our happiness too Good thing hear that you doing ok which I think is great. If you are doing ok then it sounds like your at good level place. I have an amazing life & I’m very privileged to do what I do do a living to enable that life and I have really struggled with my mental health, in particular, over the past 2 years but after reading your post, do you know what?? I’m ok and I’m quite content with that.
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Post by alsagerstokie on Aug 18, 2024 12:38:11 GMT
Forgive the names of people you will not know.
I sent this to friends this morning.
Please dont ring me. Im messaging you guys because you are all some of the most important people to me. Please dont roll your eyes. Ive been keeping something from everyone. I know i clearly dont have life as crazy as you guys with kids etc. Sadly its come back. Im finding my life very hard again. i cant help it. Ive not sent this to Scot as its not fair. Last night was so lovely for him and Laura. It was also great to see all you together. Behind the smile though ive been finding life really tough. Even the wildlife at the moment isnt enough. Dont worry i would never in a million years do anything to myself . Ive noticed at work i am getting seriously worried agitated about the little things. The truth is i could sit down in a room now cry and breakdown. I apologise once again as i write this. Not telling you tho for me is the worst thing. You all mean that much to me i dont know what i would do without your company. Please dont read this and think fucking hell hes over reacting hes got no real responsibilities. However please also dont think you need to be in contact help out right away. People may think with the lack of realt responsibilities my life isnt crazy. My life is what it is at the moment though. i need to slow down with certain things. I need to try and get my mind in a better place. At no point did i not enjoy Scotland or the stag doo or last night. In fact seeing you all together at the table last night made me happy because we were all together. Im sorry you have to read this but like i say i hate to keep this bottled up. I need to try and move into a better mind set which sadly dosnt seem easy right now.I will do it tho because i dont give up.
Thx guys and once again im sorry.
Right back to here.
I felt i needed to send it because id rather let them know.
I will get happier just going through a bad spell.
Keep supporting each other guys.
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Post by Orbs on Aug 18, 2024 13:11:14 GMT
It’s good that you have a such a positve relationship with the people you have messaged and that you can reach out to them. I’m sure they’ll take what you’ve said seriously and offer you any support as and when it’s needed. Plenty on here who will only be too glad to receive a PM from you if you need to chat things through. I guess it’s good you’ve recognised it in yourself as well.
Have you got anything coming up that you’re looking forward to?
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Post by alsagerstokie on Aug 18, 2024 18:43:50 GMT
It’s good that you have a such a positve relationship with the people you have messaged and that you can reach out to them. I’m sure they’ll take what you’ve said seriously and offer you any support as and when it’s needed. Plenty on here who will only be too glad to receive a PM from you if you need to chat things through. I guess it’s good you’ve recognised it in yourself as well. Have you got anything coming up that you’re looking forward to? Thx for the advice. I need to slow down. Im doing too much.Im making silly mistakes. i was on 5 hours sleep last night then got up early to photograph. I work full time. I do shifts for the RSPB and photograph. I definitely need a rest. I also need to stop comparing my life to others around me. I feel like im failing but i shouldn't have that mind set. I've nothing coming up but i will make plans. Im not going to give up on getting out of this mindset im sadly in at the moment.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 18, 2024 18:58:09 GMT
It’s good that you have a such a positve relationship with the people you have messaged and that you can reach out to them. I’m sure they’ll take what you’ve said seriously and offer you any support as and when it’s needed. Plenty on here who will only be too glad to receive a PM from you if you need to chat things through. I guess it’s good you’ve recognised it in yourself as well. Have you got anything coming up that you’re looking forward to? Thx for the advice. I need to slow down. Im doing too much.Im making silly mistakes. i was on 5 hours sleep last night then got up early to photograph. I work full time. I do shifts for the RSPB and photograph. I definitely need a rest. I also need to stop comparing my life to others around me. I feel like im failing but i shouldn't have that mind set. I've nothing coming up but i will make plans. Im not going to give up on getting out of this mindset im sadly in at the moment. It’s an all too familiar tale for me personally, I feel your pain mate. You must take a break and arrange so time for yourself. Even things like DIY projects and visiting places you’ve never been to help, certainly help me. Try not to catastrophize and get some quality sleep. These are the main things I can recommend.
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Post by alsagerstokie on Aug 18, 2024 19:30:53 GMT
Thx for the advice. I need to slow down. Im doing too much.Im making silly mistakes. i was on 5 hours sleep last night then got up early to photograph. I work full time. I do shifts for the RSPB and photograph. I definitely need a rest. I also need to stop comparing my life to others around me. I feel like im failing but i shouldn't have that mind set. I've nothing coming up but i will make plans. Im not going to give up on getting out of this mindset im sadly in at the moment. It’s an all too familiar tale for me personally, I feel your pain mate. You must take a break and arrange so time for yourself. Even things like DIY projects and visiting places you’ve never been to help, certainly help me. Try not to catastrophize and get some quality sleep. These are the main things I can recommend. Thx ill use the advice wisely. The biggest hurdle is trying not to compare myself to others.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 18, 2024 19:39:03 GMT
It’s an all too familiar tale for me personally, I feel your pain mate. You must take a break and arrange so time for yourself. Even things like DIY projects and visiting places you’ve never been to help, certainly help me. Try not to catastrophize and get some quality sleep. These are the main things I can recommend. Thx ill use the advice wisely. The biggest hurdle is trying not to compare myself to others. Agree with that. You’re your own person, you have to detach your aspirations from others and when all said and done these other people have probably got their own issues they’re dealing with behind closed doors, nobody knows everything. There’s loads of people I’ve looked at as having a better career than me and seem to have a happy family life, I’ve since found out it’s far from the case. Everybody has their own “demons” in life it’s how you react to affect your own life that counts. You have a fantastic talent with your nature photography btw👍🏻
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Post by Orbs on Aug 18, 2024 19:58:52 GMT
Thx ill use the advice wisely. The biggest hurdle is trying not to compare myself to others. Agree with that. You’re your own person, you have to detach your aspirations from others and when all said and done these other people have probably got their own issues they’re dealing with behind closed doors, nobody knows everything. There’s loads of people I’ve looked at as having a better career than me and seem to have a happy family life, I’ve since found out it’s far from the case. Everybody has their own “demons” in life it’s how you react to affect your own life that counts. You have a fantastic talent with your nature photography btw👍🏻 I guess that when people compare their lives with others it’s just about one or two things. For example, their holidays, house, career, car, family situation etc - I suppose you have to look at your life as a whole rather than these individual parts that you know about other peoples’ lives. I know a couple who are always going on holiday together and post these wonderful Facebook pictures but in reality they are both really unhappy. On the face of it they look like they’re living the perfect life but the reality is very different. If you’re happy then great - doesn’t matter what others are up to.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 18, 2024 20:00:59 GMT
Agree with that. You’re your own person, you have to detach your aspirations from others and when all said and done these other people have probably got their own issues they’re dealing with behind closed doors, nobody knows everything. There’s loads of people I’ve looked at as having a better career than me and seem to have a happy family life, I’ve since found out it’s far from the case. Everybody has their own “demons” in life it’s how you react to affect your own life that counts. You have a fantastic talent with your nature photography btw👍🏻 I guess that when people compare their lives with others it’s just about one or two things. For example, their holidays, house, career, car, family situation etc - I suppose you have to look at your life as a whole rather than these individual parts that you know about other peoples’ lives. I know a couple who are always going on holiday together and post these wonderful Facebook pictures but in reality they are both really unhappy. On the face of it they look like they’re living the perfect life but the reality is very different. If you’re happy then great - doesn’t matter what others are up to. Spot on. For once😉
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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 18, 2024 20:38:58 GMT
It’s an all too familiar tale for me personally, I feel your pain mate. You must take a break and arrange so time for yourself. Even things like DIY projects and visiting places you’ve never been to help, certainly help me. Try not to catastrophize and get some quality sleep. These are the main things I can recommend. Thx ill use the advice wisely. The biggest hurdle is trying not to compare myself to others. If you want a self esteem boost just compare yourself to Badger, at least you don't live in a hole in the ground.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 18, 2024 20:40:22 GMT
Thx ill use the advice wisely. The biggest hurdle is trying not to compare myself to others. If you want a self esteem boost just compare yourself to Badger, at least you don't live in a hole in the ground. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it, it’s cosy down here and not a farmer in sight. Gotta go fishing in a min though😉
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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 18, 2024 20:40:22 GMT
Thx ill use the advice wisely. The biggest hurdle is trying not to compare myself to others. Agree with that. You’re your own person, you have to detach your aspirations from others and when all said and done these other people have probably got their own issues they’re dealing with behind closed doors, nobody knows everything. There’s loads of people I’ve looked at as having a better career than me and seem to have a happy family life, I’ve since found out it’s far from the case. Everybody has their own “demons” in life it’s how you react to affect your own life that counts. You have a fantastic talent with your nature photography btw👍🏻 For once you're not spouting shit. Most sensible thing you've posted likely.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 18, 2024 20:41:52 GMT
If you want a self esteem boost just compare yourself to Badger, at least you don't live in a hole in the ground. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it, it’s cosy down here and not a farmer in sight. Gotta go fishing in a min though😉 A noble pastime.
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Post by NassauDave on Aug 19, 2024 2:15:40 GMT
Afternoon all But I’m back at the gym, currently on holiday with mum and dad, which at 27 seems very strange but having a good time. Even stranger is that it's a swingers holiday 🍆💦 Like an episode of Benidorm.
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Post by alsagerstokie on Aug 19, 2024 17:20:10 GMT
Even stranger is that it's a swingers holiday 🍆💦 Like an episode of Benidorm. Forgive me but i never replied to this original comment. I've been meaning to sd22 Im not trying to suggest i know your situation. Most people that post in this thread at some point have had a few struggles. I think being on holiday with your parents means you have a fairly close relationship. I think the fact you have gone away with your parents means they love and support you which is no bad thing at all. For anyone on here if you have a loving family where they support you and you support them. Weather it be parents grandparents your own kids brothers sisters. That's great. For those who sadly don't i hope you have friends. Ive been told again today. Not everyone has the perfect life which is true. Ive had another tough day but im going to get out of it. Def as i said ill try to stop focusing where i should be compared to others i know and just take each day and try and progress my life for myself and see where it takes me.
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Post by djduncanjames on Aug 22, 2024 21:12:07 GMT
I’m not judging anyone, I just want to say that: Alcohol is a very powerful chemical. It affects your mood and does all kinds of things to your body you might not be aware of. I still enjoy drinking, but I am much more aware. I found the first version of this book very helpful, to understand Alcohol, and myself and all the little things that come along with consuming alcohol. It might help some people understand their own brain chemistry better, without joining AA or even having to stop drinking. It’s better to understand what is happening sometimes, when you look at what you consume. alcoholexplained.com/1st-5-chapters/alcoholexplained.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/1st-5.pdfI have nothing to do with this book, I have just been around and I hope maybe reading about it, from a scientific perspective, rather than some kind of guilt trip, might help some people, understand why their mood might change rapidly. I’m not preaching sobriety, only knowledge. Take care of yourselves lads, Keep the Faith xx UTMP
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Post by gawa on Aug 22, 2024 22:53:09 GMT
In irish we say Tá brón orm Which basically means sadness is upon me or on me. Because emotions don't define us as people and they're not a permanent state either. So rather than say "I'm depressed" as we would in English. I prefer to think of the irish wording and that the emotions and feelings are upon me but they do not define me and they won't always be there. The best way to find happiness is to give happiness. There is nothing more joyful that putting a smile on someone's face especially an unexpecting strangers. If you can make one stranger smile a day then you've got a purpose. Or better still get a dog and make him smile every day
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 23, 2024 8:10:41 GMT
In irish we say Tá brón orm Which basically means sadness is upon me or on me. Because emotions don't define us as people and they're not a permanent state either. So rather than say "I'm depressed" as we would in English. I prefer to think of the irish wording and that the emotions and feelings are upon me but they do not define me and they won't always be there. The best way to find happiness is to give happiness. There is nothing more joyful that putting a smile on someone's face especially an unexpecting strangers. If you can make one stranger smile a day then you've got a purpose. Or better still get a dog and make him smile every day That's brilliant advice Gawa 👍 The Irish phrase sounds like a nice cheese but is spot on. I start every day with the aim of making my kids smile no matter what or however bad I feel and anyone after that is a bonus for me.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 24, 2024 11:34:47 GMT
In irish we say Tá brón orm Which basically means sadness is upon me or on me. Because emotions don't define us as people and they're not a permanent state either. So rather than say "I'm depressed" as we would in English. I prefer to think of the irish wording and that the emotions and feelings are upon me but they do not define me and they won't always be there. The best way to find happiness is to give happiness. There is nothing more joyful that putting a smile on someone's face especially an unexpecting strangers. If you can make one stranger smile a day then you've got a purpose. Or better still get a dog and make him smile every day I like to imagine that's what a few of my jocular posts do for people on here.
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