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Post by Pedropotter on May 25, 2024 5:09:03 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect That’s great to hear mate. Don’t be too hard on yourself, we are all human. Sometimes we are amazing, other times we are fools - it’s perfectly normal. All we can do is what you are doing, recognise our failings and try to be better. I hope truly things work out for you with your ex, but remember, if they don’t, you still have a long and wonderful life to live.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 25, 2024 5:11:47 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect That’s great to hear mate. Don’t be too hard on yourself, we are all human. Sometimes we are amazing, other times we are fools - it’s perfectly normal. All we can do is what you are doing, recognise our failings and try to be better. I hope truly things work out for you with your ex, but remember, if they don’t, you still have a long and wonderful life to live. Well said sir
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Post by Han Solo on May 25, 2024 6:55:53 GMT
Crikey mate. Sorry to hear this. Are you still living together in the meantime? I’ve gone back my mums mate. I’ve said a lot of bad things in these 11 years (included slagging off some of her Christmas gifts last night) I feel absolutely terrible, I know I’ve got issues and I do want to change although it might take a while. She said she was quite provocative last night, but if I wanted to show change I shouldn’t of said about the Christmas gifts (which I didn’t mean) Looking back on it, I shouldn’t have gone up for my stuff at all last night, I should’ve had a few days space. I find it so hard to give her the space she needs, it’s really difficult when we’ve been together everyday (maybe a max of 30 days away from eachother) for the past 11 years since we were 16. Absolute nightmare, feel terrible as it’s mostly my fault, but really feel bad over some of the horrid crap I’ve said over the 11 years. I just want to blink, my mental health get fixed and we’re back together I said I want a fresh start as it won’t work as a continuation of us. It needs to be a clean break and get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend again, making eachother laugh and rediscovering that love again. She’s admitted she still loves me (after she said she hated me and said I was dead to her) and of course I still love her. It’s just a long path and difficult to find any resolution at the moment Sorry to hear things have been tough mate. Fair play to you for admitting there’s a problem it’s definitely a huge step forwards and is the only way things will ever improve especially as you’re taking positive steps re support. Contrary to belief there’s a lot out there to help those going through tough times, some free (samaritans, mind) and some that you have to pay for or if you’re fortunate get through work. A few years back I attended some 1 to 1 counselling sessions due to some stuff that had happened at work not helped by some tough times in my early years where I’d had some bullying issues at School (I was lucky I have wonderful parents and a very supportive wife). Though I never got angry my mental health was being affected in other ways and bad memories were always at the back of my mind and had affected my confidence and self esteem in a huge way. I ended up attending 20 sessions in total (once a week) and though it wasn’t the sole solution it certainly helped and simply talking to someone who isn’t emotionally involved is a huge help and I’m in a different place now (not sure how much is down to the counselling). It takes a lot of guts to admit there’s a problem so well done but don’t be to hard on yourself and don’t give up with the support because there may be times when you question why you’re going or what good it’s doing but 100 percent it helps. It might also be worth speaking to your GP as it may be that they can help too. Never give up though and you can do it though it’ll take hard work and determination as it’s not an easy road but it’ll be worth it. It’s never too late. Good luck and feel free to pm. I’m not an expert but always happy to talk. edit Just read your latest update (I always read past to present . Super stuff well done mate sounds like a cracking start. I’m sure your lady is mega proud.
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Post by Davef on May 26, 2024 21:27:19 GMT
RIP PGA golfer Grayson Murray who took his own life yesterday, aged 30.
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Post by Han Solo on May 27, 2024 7:01:33 GMT
RIP PGA golfer Grayson Murray who took his own life yesterday, aged 30. Really tragic story. RIP. This like many people before him shows that depression isn’t unique to only those who visibly have nothing in their lives it can affect anyone.
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Post by Orbs on May 27, 2024 21:52:36 GMT
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Post by middleoftheboothen on May 28, 2024 2:00:10 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect You are on the right track by what you have said mate there. We all mess up in life and no person on this planet is perfect, that much is for certain. You have gone to get help and that's the hardest bit done. Hope it works out ok mate and keep us posted on here. A problem shared and all that.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 28, 2024 17:26:15 GMT
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Post by middleoftheboothen on May 28, 2024 17:51:53 GMT
Great pair of lads and their parents should be extremely proud of them. The youth of today get plenty of stick but this is an example that it's not always deserved. Hopefully the bloke sees that he has plenty to live for after this and gets the help he needs.
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Post by chigstoke on May 29, 2024 21:38:17 GMT
Hope everyone's doing good tonight/this week/this month.
I'm still keeping up gym work, but can't do any upper body training atm which uses my shoulders as my right shoulder is impinged. The physio says it is 1 inch lower than my left shoulder, I'm officially lopsided! It means I can hammer some leg workouts though, which like a lot of people who go the gym, I've neglected to train them as much. I've found a 10/10/10 set on leg press is killer. 10 wide, 10 middle, 10 narrow leg presses with no rest between changing. Just shuffle feet inwards as you get to the next one.
Must burn off the holiday weight!
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Post by middleoftheboothen on May 30, 2024 9:01:24 GMT
Hope everyone's doing good tonight/this week/this month. I'm still keeping up gym work, but can't do any upper body training atm which uses my shoulders as my right shoulder is impinged. The physio says it is 1 inch lower than my left shoulder, I'm officially lopsided! It means I can hammer some leg workouts though, which like a lot of people who go the gym, I've neglected to train them as much. I've found a 10/10/10 set on leg press is killer. 10 wide, 10 middle, 10 narrow leg presses with no rest between changing. Just shuffle feet inwards as you get to the next one. Must burn off the holiday weight! Leg press is great mate. I have to do legs at physio to try and get the strength back in my right leg. Calf raises with weight are good aswell and a good session on the rower gets the legs working.
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Post by chigstoke on May 30, 2024 21:02:12 GMT
Hope everyone's doing good tonight/this week/this month. I'm still keeping up gym work, but can't do any upper body training atm which uses my shoulders as my right shoulder is impinged. The physio says it is 1 inch lower than my left shoulder, I'm officially lopsided! It means I can hammer some leg workouts though, which like a lot of people who go the gym, I've neglected to train them as much. I've found a 10/10/10 set on leg press is killer. 10 wide, 10 middle, 10 narrow leg presses with no rest between changing. Just shuffle feet inwards as you get to the next one. Must burn off the holiday weight! Leg press is great mate. I have to do legs at physio to try and get the strength back in my right leg. Calf raises with weight are good aswell and a good session on the rower gets the legs working. Of all the leg exercises, I do like leg press the most. When I was bigger, and carrying around all the extra weight on me, I could press a hell of a lot. Can't do nowhere near as much, which disappoints me, but if the trade off was being massively overweight and doing big leg presses, I'll pass! I'll get it back at some point. Good shout on calf raises, they make a cracking finisher on leg day.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 30, 2024 21:11:14 GMT
Leg press is great mate. I have to do legs at physio to try and get the strength back in my right leg. Calf raises with weight are good aswell and a good session on the rower gets the legs working. Of all the leg exercises, I do like leg press the most. When I was bigger, and carrying around all the extra weight on me, I could press a hell of a lot. Can't do nowhere near as much, which disappoints me, but if the trade off was being massively overweight and doing big leg presses, I'll pass! I'll get it back at some point. Good shout on calf raises, they make a cracking finisher on leg day. Good to hear an update Chigster but what we really want to know is are you still punching with the bird? Unless I’ve missed something?
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Post by chigstoke on May 30, 2024 22:43:17 GMT
Of all the leg exercises, I do like leg press the most. When I was bigger, and carrying around all the extra weight on me, I could press a hell of a lot. Can't do nowhere near as much, which disappoints me, but if the trade off was being massively overweight and doing big leg presses, I'll pass! I'll get it back at some point. Good shout on calf raises, they make a cracking finisher on leg day. Good to hear an update Chigster but what we really want to know is are you still punching with the bird? Unless I’ve missed something? Still all good with the missus mate, came back from Greece 2 weeks ago, great time. Figured it was just cheaper, and nicer, to go abroad as opposed to this country for a first holiday. Riding the high, we booked next year's the week we got back as well. Feels slightly crazy it’s coming up to 9 months together, so to say it’s flown would be putting it lightly. But it’s been a great 9 months so far, many more to come.
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Post by Orbs on May 31, 2024 12:51:07 GMT
Good to hear an update Chigster but what we really want to know is are you still punching with the bird? Unless I’ve missed something? Still all good with the missus mate, came back from Greece 2 weeks ago, great time. Figured it was just cheaper, and nicer, to go abroad as opposed to this country for a first holiday. Riding the high, we booked next year's the week we got back as well. Feels slightly crazy it’s coming up to 9 months together, so to say it’s flown would be putting it lightly. But it’s been a great 9 months so far, many more to come. Greece POIDH 😉
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Post by chigstoke on May 31, 2024 16:53:42 GMT
Still all good with the missus mate, came back from Greece 2 weeks ago, great time. Figured it was just cheaper, and nicer, to go abroad as opposed to this country for a first holiday. Riding the high, we booked next year's the week we got back as well. Feels slightly crazy it’s coming up to 9 months together, so to say it’s flown would be putting it lightly. But it’s been a great 9 months so far, many more to come. Greece POIDH 😉 Took me too long to figure out what POIDH meant I do have a few pics I can put up, though the missus is the photo taker really, better camera. When I’m on the pc later on, I can get some put up 👍
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Post by mtrstudent on May 31, 2024 17:41:22 GMT
Hope everyone's doing good tonight/this week/this month. I'm still keeping up gym work, but can't do any upper body training atm which uses my shoulders as my right shoulder is impinged. The physio says it is 1 inch lower than my left shoulder, I'm officially lopsided! I got checked out by some touchy feely doctor who works through your whole body aligning things etc. She said something like I have a superior pelvis. Take that. Apparently that's something to do with being lopsided too? Whatever, I'll keep telling people I have a superior pelvis.
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Post by chigstoke on May 31, 2024 17:47:53 GMT
Still all good with the missus mate, came back from Greece 2 weeks ago, great time. Figured it was just cheaper, and nicer, to go abroad as opposed to this country for a first holiday. Riding the high, we booked next year's the week we got back as well. Feels slightly crazy it’s coming up to 9 months together, so to say it’s flown would be putting it lightly. But it’s been a great 9 months so far, many more to come. Greece POIDH 😉
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Post by mickeythemaestro on May 31, 2024 18:46:37 GMT
Took me too long to figure out what POIDH meant I do have a few pics I can put up, though the missus is the photo taker really, better camera. When I’m on the pc later on, I can get some put up 👍 Just took me ages as well. For anyone who's wondering its proof or it didn't happen 😆
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Post by chuffedstokie on May 31, 2024 20:15:35 GMT
Fantastic photos chig, looks beautiful. Really pleased you had a great time 👍
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 31, 2024 20:17:59 GMT
Fantastic photos chig, looks beautiful. Really pleased you had a great time 👍 He’s an arse though isnt he? Showing off n that. He needs to pipe down😉
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Post by foster on Jun 1, 2024 5:57:18 GMT
Well, you weren't lying about being lopsided, that's for sure
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Post by chigstoke on Jun 1, 2024 6:46:49 GMT
Well, you weren't lying about being lopsided, that's for sure Like I say, missus is the photo taker for a reason!
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Post by chigstoke on Jun 1, 2024 8:18:51 GMT
Fantastic photos chig, looks beautiful. Really pleased you had a great time 👍 Thank you mate, yeah we had a wonderful time. One of them where 10 nights seems enough, then you get home and think ‘wish I’d have booked 14 now’
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Post by Orbs on Jun 1, 2024 8:43:38 GMT
Hope everyone's doing good tonight/this week/this month. I'm still keeping up gym work, but can't do any upper body training atm which uses my shoulders as my right shoulder is impinged. The physio says it is 1 inch lower than my left shoulder, I'm officially lopsided! I got checked out by some touchy feely doctor who works through your whole body aligning things etc. She said something like I have a superior pelvis. Take that. Apparently that's something to do with being lopsided too? Whatever, I'll keep telling people I have a superior pelvis. Superior Pelvis - worst tribute act ever
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Post by Orbs on Jun 1, 2024 8:44:27 GMT
‘These aren’t the photos we’re looking for…’ 😉
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Post by chigstoke on Jun 1, 2024 13:25:15 GMT
‘These aren’t the photos we’re looking for…’ 😉
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Post by marylandstoke on Jun 3, 2024 20:07:31 GMT
‘These aren’t the photos we’re looking for…’ 😉 And I thought it was me going to lower the tone. Cheers Orbs
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Post by Orbs on Jun 6, 2024 6:44:42 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect You are on the right track by what you have said mate there. We all mess up in life and no person on this planet is perfect, that much is for certain. You have gone to get help and that's the hardest bit done. Hope it works out ok mate and keep us posted on here. A problem shared and all that. Just wondered how you’re getting on sd? Still making progress I hope. Any signs of the missus coming back yet?
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Jun 8, 2024 19:27:03 GMT
Just a little video I've done to show my progress from diagnosis until now.
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