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Post by flea79 on Jul 22, 2024 21:38:14 GMT
Heartbreaking mate. To be honest I've been quite concerned about my eldest son for quite a while now. He's totally introvert and never shows any emotion. Not even when his mother died. He shows no empathy for anything. He's doing the bare minimum at school and spends as much time as he can on social media. He's really clever and decent at sport but doesn't have any drive to do better or achieve anything. I've tried being positive, negative, critical, supportive, but nothing seems to get through to him. He hides things (like his electronics) and has no interest in anything, and tbh I'm worried about his mental state. Not really sure what to do anymore as he's 16 now and I know that whatever I suggest he'll just disregard or avoid it. I keep having to force things on him, like study time and no electronics and he just resents me for that. Maybe it's a teenage thing, but it worries me. It worries me, I have seen how badly wrong it can go for kids at that age and what can be happening. If you want a private chat and I can tell you things you should be looking for drop me a line!
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jul 22, 2024 21:46:35 GMT
Heartbreaking mate. To be honest I've been quite concerned about my eldest son for quite a while now. He's totally introvert and never shows any emotion. Not even when his mother died. He shows no empathy for anything. He's doing the bare minimum at school and spends as much time as he can on social media. He's really clever and decent at sport but doesn't have any drive to do better or achieve anything. I've tried being positive, negative, critical, supportive, but nothing seems to get through to him. He hides things (like his electronics) and has no interest in anything, and tbh I'm worried about his mental state. Not really sure what to do anymore as he's 16 now and I know that whatever I suggest he'll just disregard or avoid it. I keep having to force things on him, like study time and no electronics and he just resents me for that. Maybe it's a teenage thing, but it worries me. It worries me, I have seen how badly wrong it can go for kids at that age and what can be happening. If you want a private chat and I can tell you things you should be looking for drop me a line! Nice one Flea👍🏻 best thread on the board no doubt about it
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Post by Orbs on Jul 22, 2024 22:57:05 GMT
Heartbreaking mate. To be honest I've been quite concerned about my eldest son for quite a while now. He's totally introvert and never shows any emotion. Not even when his mother died. He shows no empathy for anything. He's doing the bare minimum at school and spends as much time as he can on social media. He's really clever and decent at sport but doesn't have any drive to do better or achieve anything. I've tried being positive, negative, critical, supportive, but nothing seems to get through to him. He hides things (like his electronics) and has no interest in anything, and tbh I'm worried about his mental state. Not really sure what to do anymore as he's 16 now and I know that whatever I suggest he'll just disregard or avoid it. I keep having to force things on him, like study time and no electronics and he just resents me for that. Maybe it's a teenage thing, but it worries me. The thing is Fozzie there’s no Haynes parent manual for all this stuff. The teenage years are a minefield these days with social media etc - the pressure on them is unbelievable. My advice (for what it’s worth!) would be to just keep being there for him, tell him you’re proud of him and eventually you’ll get through it. There’s obviously no magic wand here but rest assured he loves you and you’re his absolute hero. He’s just not showing it yet. You’ll get there eventually. It just takes time.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jul 23, 2024 17:27:28 GMT
I don’t want to seem to be undermining Fosters ability to bring up children but I remember vividly when my daughter had anorexia around the age of 13/14 and we’d tried everything (I’d separated from her mother quite a while before this but we buried the hatchet for this one). Anyway we got her a few sessions with a psychologist and it worked wonders. Not saying Foster can or needs to go down this route but just saying it may be an option especially if things get worse over the next 6 to 12 months
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Post by knype on Jul 24, 2024 19:11:21 GMT
Sorry to hear about everyone's woes recently. Some may or may not have noticed I spent a bit of time away from the board.
A couple of weeks back my dad was rushed in hospital, looks like he'd had a few strokes over the week and was losing his memory and marbles. He's also recently had a pacemaker fitted as his health had been quite poor an d they think it was heart related (previously had a triple bypass). Thankfully he's on the mend. Add onto that my brother 49 had a heart attack and was rushed in for an emergency stent. And to cap it all off, my mother in law, has been ill for some time and it seems like it's the big C. She's on for a Pet scan tomorrow but it's not looking good !
Sorry to trouble you with my woes
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jul 24, 2024 19:15:40 GMT
Sorry to hear about everyone's woes recently. Some may or may not have noticed I spent a bit of time away from the board. A couple of weeks back my dad was rushed in hospital, looks like he'd had a few strokes over the week and was losing his memory and marbles. He's also recently had a pacemaker fitted as his health had been quite poor an d they think it was heart related (previously had a triple bypass). Thankfully he's on the mend. Add onto that my brother 49 had a heart attack and was rushed in for an emergency stent. And to cap it all off, my mother in law, has been ill for some time and it seems like it's the big C. She's on for a Pet scan tomorrow but it's not looking good ! Sorry to trouble you with my woes Crikey pal that’s a hell of a lot to contend with, I wish you and your family all the best mate👍🏻
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Post by knype on Jul 24, 2024 19:23:29 GMT
Sorry to hear about everyone's woes recently. Some may or may not have noticed I spent a bit of time away from the board. A couple of weeks back my dad was rushed in hospital, looks like he'd had a few strokes over the week and was losing his memory and marbles. He's also recently had a pacemaker fitted as his health had been quite poor an d they think it was heart related (previously had a triple bypass). Thankfully he's on the mend. Add onto that my brother 49 had a heart attack and was rushed in for an emergency stent. And to cap it all off, my mother in law, has been ill for some time and it seems like it's the big C. She's on for a Pet scan tomorrow but it's not looking good ! Sorry to trouble you with my woes Crikey pal that’s a hell of a lot to contend with, I wish you and your family all the best mate👍🏻 Thanks Badge. Life can be quite a struggle at times. Add onto it all that my Mrs is at her Mums all hours of the day and night and we've had to cancel our holiday later this year because of the uncertainty. But I also get the fact that all your own troubles seem a lot worse than anyone else's whereas they're not !
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jul 24, 2024 19:34:12 GMT
Crikey pal that’s a hell of a lot to contend with, I wish you and your family all the best mate👍🏻 Thanks Badge. Life can be quite a struggle at times. Add onto it all that my Mrs is at her Mums all hours of the day and night and we've had to cancel our holiday later this year because of the uncertainty. But I also get the fact that all your own troubles seem a lot worse than anyone else's whereas they're not ! I dunno, that’s pretty damn rough. Yes there’s always someone worse off but that doesn’t mean the stuff you’re talking about doesn’t hit you like a ton of bricks. I’m always feeling sorry for myself, for absolutely no reason apart from my own little failings which and the grand scheme of things are so minuscule I feel embarrassed I ever get in a mood about it!
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Post by Orbs on Jul 24, 2024 21:52:30 GMT
Thanks Badge. Life can be quite a struggle at times. Add onto it all that my Mrs is at her Mums all hours of the day and night and we've had to cancel our holiday later this year because of the uncertainty. But I also get the fact that all your own troubles seem a lot worse than anyone else's whereas they're not ! I dunno, that’s pretty damn rough. Yes there’s always someone worse off but that doesn’t mean the stuff you’re talking about doesn’t hit you like a ton of bricks. I’m always feeling sorry for myself, for absolutely no reason apart from my own little failings which and the grand scheme of things are so minuscule I feel embarrassed I ever get in a mood about it! All of the above. There aren’t any answers or magic bullets are there? Everyone just muddling through the best they can. We all have stuff to deal with at different times. It’s all relative though as one persons troubles are nothing to another. The common thing is that they are troubles. It’s ok to not be ok. Keep strong lads.
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Post by salopstick on Jul 26, 2024 11:06:32 GMT
Heartbreaking mate. To be honest I've been quite concerned about my eldest son for quite a while now. He's totally introvert and never shows any emotion. Not even when his mother died. He shows no empathy for anything. He's doing the bare minimum at school and spends as much time as he can on social media. He's really clever and decent at sport but doesn't have any drive to do better or achieve anything. I've tried being positive, negative, critical, supportive, but nothing seems to get through to him. He hides things (like his electronics) and has no interest in anything, and tbh I'm worried about his mental state. Not really sure what to do anymore as he's 16 now and I know that whatever I suggest he'll just disregard or avoid it. I keep having to force things on him, like study time and no electronics and he just resents me for that. Maybe it's a teenage thing, but it worries me. partly a teenage thing but at 16/17 its when parties, gym, girls start taking shape if hes a decent friend group at school they may be able to help
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Post by salopstick on Jul 26, 2024 11:07:39 GMT
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Post by Orbs on Jul 26, 2024 14:24:42 GMT
Went to a talk by this fella a few years ago. Was decent.
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Post by hamsta2 on Aug 6, 2024 17:20:38 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 6, 2024 17:53:48 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. Best of luck mate, hope you make the wedding and have a great time👍🏻
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Post by knype on Aug 6, 2024 18:05:52 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. Bloody hell mate, hope the MRI goes OK and they can find some treatment to aid you. Hopefully you can get to the wedding and have as good a time as you can and it takes your mind off your health for a few hours
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Post by Orbs on Aug 6, 2024 20:06:47 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. Good luck Hamsta and please let us know how it goes.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 6, 2024 20:21:02 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. Hope the scan goes ok mate and you get the help you need from it. All the best.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Aug 6, 2024 21:32:39 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. MRI will pick everything up and I hope everything gets sorted. Scotland, barn and chippy van sounds a great combination, hope all goes well 👍. Loads of support on here anytime.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 6, 2024 21:48:24 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. MRI will pick everything up and I hope everything gets sorted. Scotland, barn and chippy van sounds a great combination, hope all goes well 👍. Loads of support on here anytime. Well said chuffed. After recent events and the bickering on a certain thread people should always know that no matter what we do appreciate the ups and downs of all fellow Stokies
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Post by liathroid on Aug 6, 2024 21:49:06 GMT
MRI on my spine tomorrow. I’m having spasms, rushes and twitches all the time now with no strength in legs or arms. Doc reckons it’s my spinal canal narrowing and impacting on my nerves. Balance is no good and I can’t walk in a straight line. Got a wedding to attend in Scotland in a barn with a chippie van and ‘entertainment’. Hope I’m ok to go - although after last New Year’s experience I’m not so sure. good luck hamsta2 ![(thumbsup)](//storage.proboards.com/800541/images/q4Mqf5MqRwT9PY8UitYa.gif)
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Post by hamsta2 on Aug 6, 2024 23:15:51 GMT
Thanks all for your good wishes. I’ll keep you up to date. Some of it is funny. The older posters may remember an actor called Jack Douglas. He used to ‘twitch’ and get his words mixed up. That’s me. Last week I bought some beef at the deli counter in Morrisons. It was handed to me, I got hold of it and threw it back at the poor bloke behind the counter. Mortified.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 7, 2024 18:17:40 GMT
Thanks all for your good wishes. I’ll keep you up to date. Some of it is funny. The older posters may remember an actor called Jack Douglas. He used to ‘twitch’ and get his words mixed up. That’s me. Last week I bought some beef at the deli counter in Morrisons. It was handed to me, I got hold of it and threw it back at the poor bloke behind the counter. Mortified. Hope everything went well with the scan today mate 👍
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Post by hamsta2 on Aug 7, 2024 19:14:28 GMT
Thanks all for your good wishes. I’ll keep you up to date. Some of it is funny. The older posters may remember an actor called Jack Douglas. He used to ‘twitch’ and get his words mixed up. That’s me. Last week I bought some beef at the deli counter in Morrisons. It was handed to me, I got hold of it and threw it back at the poor bloke behind the counter. Mortified. Hope everything went well with the scan today mate 👍 It was a very odd experience. They had to make enquiries regarding my graft - the mri can cause certain ones to be dislodged!!! They said I was ok but when I was moved and that bit was done ( I know because my jeans were pulled down. And yes I was awake Badger) it did cause a bit of stress. Three sets of noise reduction things and my head in a case - noisy and I can see why it can cause issues especially if you’re claustrophobic. It was like lying in a noisy plastic coffin 💀. Anyway I’ll wait for results - they take over 20,000 images a day from six vans with average of 20 appts a day per van. Images get sent straight into the system and allocated to the right dept. Seem to be lucky down here ref waiting lists etc. I suppose it depends on which list you’re on - I know adhd and autism lists are at least two years unless you pay £2k and go private. As I said, think I’m lucky.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 7, 2024 19:19:27 GMT
Hope everything went well with the scan today mate 👍 It was a very odd experience. They had to make enquiries regarding my graft - the mri can cause certain ones to be dislodged!!! They said I was ok but when I was moved and that bit was done ( I know because my jeans were pulled down. And yes I was awake Badger) it did cause a bit of stress. Three sets of noise reduction things and my head in a case - noisy and I can see why it can cause issues especially if you’re claustrophobic. It was like lying in a noisy plastic coffin 💀. Anyway I’ll wait for results - they take over 20,000 images a day from six vans with average of 20 appts a day per van. Images get sent straight into the system and allocated to the right dept. Seem to be lucky down here ref waiting lists etc. I suppose it depends on which list you’re on - I know adhd and autism lists are at least two years unless you pay £2k and go private. As I said, think I’m lucky. Mate I've had plenty of them with everything I've had and I have always felt weird having them done but ultimately you know it's for your own good. The noise is the thing that always gets on my tits though. Hope everything works out for you mate and although I know it's crap advice because you will anyway but try not to worry about the results.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 7, 2024 19:21:06 GMT
It was a very odd experience. They had to make enquiries regarding my graft - the mri can cause certain ones to be dislodged!!! They said I was ok but when I was moved and that bit was done ( I know because my jeans were pulled down. And yes I was awake Badger) it did cause a bit of stress. Three sets of noise reduction things and my head in a case - noisy and I can see why it can cause issues especially if you’re claustrophobic. It was like lying in a noisy plastic coffin 💀. Anyway I’ll wait for results - they take over 20,000 images a day from six vans with average of 20 appts a day per van. Images get sent straight into the system and allocated to the right dept. Seem to be lucky down here ref waiting lists etc. I suppose it depends on which list you’re on - I know adhd and autism lists are at least two years unless you pay £2k and go private. As I said, think I’m lucky. Mate I've had plenty of them with everything I've had and I have always felt weird having them done but ultimately you know it's for your own good. The noise is the thing that always gets on my tits though. Hope everything works out for you mate and although I know it's crap advice because you will anyway but try not to worry about the results. I like the noise, I fell asleep both times
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Post by hamsta2 on Aug 7, 2024 19:41:12 GMT
Mate I've had plenty of them with everything I've had and I have always felt weird having them done but ultimately you know it's for your own good. The noise is the thing that always gets on my tits though. Hope everything works out for you mate and although I know it's crap advice because you will anyway but try not to worry about the results. I like the noise, I fell asleep both times I know. I was delayed in trafffic 💀
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Post by iancransonsknees on Aug 8, 2024 5:46:41 GMT
Mate I've had plenty of them with everything I've had and I have always felt weird having them done but ultimately you know it's for your own good. The noise is the thing that always gets on my tits though. Hope everything works out for you mate and although I know it's crap advice because you will anyway but try not to worry about the results. I like the noise, I fell asleep both times Did they find your brain?
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Aug 8, 2024 15:59:33 GMT
I like the noise, I fell asleep both times Did they find your brain? The scanners are amazing but that good? I'm not so sure 😁
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Post by Orbs on Aug 8, 2024 18:08:25 GMT
I like the noise, I fell asleep both times Did they find your brain? That’s why he went back for the second one.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Aug 8, 2024 18:13:27 GMT
Did they find your brain? That’s why he went back for the second one. Apparently Felonious found it and is currently extracting the knowledge from it before making his comeback into the Oatcake.
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