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Post by foxysgloves on May 18, 2024 10:46:48 GMT
Run. It seriously works if you can. I got out of the habit over the last year and it’s had a big negative impact. Starting to get back to it and feel my general mindset improving with it. Any exercise works for me but I do miss running, I've got terrible plantar fascitis and Morton's neuroma that I can't shift. If I do I'll get back too it just to be outside rather than in the gym. Yeah the injuries/conditions can make it difficult. Actually why I stopped then just got out of the routine. Swimming works for me too but the hassle is getting to the pool. Agreed that any physical activity works. To be fair given your username you won’t be running far with Ian Cransons knees!!
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Post by iancransonsknees on May 18, 2024 13:43:04 GMT
Any exercise works for me but I do miss running, I've got terrible plantar fascitis and Morton's neuroma that I can't shift. If I do I'll get back too it just to be outside rather than in the gym. Yeah the injuries/conditions can make it difficult. Actually why I stopped then just got out of the routine. Swimming works for me too but the hassle is getting to the pool. Agreed that any physical activity works. To be fair given your username you won’t be running far with Ian Cransons knees!! I'm not quite that bad. Yet.
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 18, 2024 20:10:54 GMT
Hope everyone is well? Well I’ve got a spring in my step now the sunshine has arrived but not before making a “life changing” decision. During my holiday last week I was drinking plenty of all inclusive lager. Went up to get changed for the evening and my favourite shirt (insert haircut 100 pun if you like) no longer fitted me😮. So I decided to quit beer there and then. I’m not going to pretend I’ve given up alcohol and I’ve replaced the copious amounts of lager with a couple of Gin and slimline Tonics of an evening. The idea being that it’s way lower on calories, I won’t get pissed and won’t be rough in the mornings and of course it’s far cheaper. I don’t think I’ve missed a day on the beer since Covid started, I was unemployed with no prospect of finding a job and went 12 months spiralling into a diet of beer and junk food and continued with the pattern until Friday last week when my shirt wouldn’t fit. I have to say I wish I’d done this years ago, I feel energised, positive and and much more alert. There has also already been a noticeable difference in appearance and general muscle movements. I guess what I’m saying is I used alcohol to alleviate the depression of being unemployed and got stuck in a rut. I would urge anyone who thinks they drink too much beer to switch it up to something else like I have, quitting altogether has never been an option but it feels like I probably could far easier. So here’s to a week without beer and feeling a hundred percent better for it. And yeh I know Gin and Tonic is one of the gayest drinks on the planet but I’ll style it out😉 Good health everyone and happy Friday Just seen this well done mate. You’ll smash it. For my sins I haven’t been on this great thread for a while (god knows why as it’s the best one on here) but your posts a great and inspiring read. You’re without doubt one of the biggest, caring and funniest characters on here. We all need you about for many years to come so making this decision will hopefully keep you rocking for many, many years to come
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 18, 2024 20:28:57 GMT
Run. It seriously works if you can. I got out of the habit over the last year and it’s had a big negative impact. Starting to get back to it and feel my general mindset improving with it. Any exercise works for me but I do miss running, I've got terrible plantar fascitis and Morton's neuroma that I can't shift. If I do I'll get back too it just to be outside rather than in the gym. I’m bursting to get back to playing squash but have extensor tendonitis in my foot and it’s not showing any signs of getting better which is annoying. Told the boss the doc recommended complete rest for 2 weeks but he was having none of it😏
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Post by Orbs on May 19, 2024 11:18:52 GMT
Hope everyone is well? Well I’ve got a spring in my step now the sunshine has arrived but not before making a “life changing” decision. During my holiday last week I was drinking plenty of all inclusive lager. Went up to get changed for the evening and my favourite shirt (insert haircut 100 pun if you like) no longer fitted me😮. So I decided to quit beer there and then. I’m not going to pretend I’ve given up alcohol and I’ve replaced the copious amounts of lager with a couple of Gin and slimline Tonics of an evening. The idea being that it’s way lower on calories, I won’t get pissed and won’t be rough in the mornings and of course it’s far cheaper. I don’t think I’ve missed a day on the beer since Covid started, I was unemployed with no prospect of finding a job and went 12 months spiralling into a diet of beer and junk food and continued with the pattern until Friday last week when my shirt wouldn’t fit. I have to say I wish I’d done this years ago, I feel energised, positive and and much more alert. There has also already been a noticeable difference in appearance and general muscle movements. I guess what I’m saying is I used alcohol to alleviate the depression of being unemployed and got stuck in a rut. I would urge anyone who thinks they drink too much beer to switch it up to something else like I have, quitting altogether has never been an option but it feels like I probably could far easier. So here’s to a week without beer and feeling a hundred percent better for it. And yeh I know Gin and Tonic is one of the gayest drinks on the planet but I’ll style it out😉 Good health everyone and happy Friday Just seen this well done mate. You’ll smash it. For my sins I haven’t been on this great thread for a while (god knows why as it’s the best one on here) but your posts a great and inspiring read. You’re without doubt one of the biggest, caring and funniest characters on here. We all need you about for many years to come so making this decision will hopefully keep you rocking for many, many years to come Have you seen Brokeback Mountain?
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Post by felonious on May 19, 2024 12:52:12 GMT
Just seen this well done mate. You’ll smash it. For my sins I haven’t been on this great thread for a while (god knows why as it’s the best one on here) but your posts a great and inspiring read. You’re without doubt one of the biggest, caring and funniest characters on here. We all need you about for many years to come so making this decision will hopefully keep you rocking for many, many years to come Have you seen Brokeback Mountain? It's all quiet on the Western front, I think they've de camped to PM
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Post by Orbs on May 19, 2024 14:07:11 GMT
Have you seen Brokeback Mountain? It's all quiet on the Western front, I think they've moved it to PM It’s a slippery slope int eet
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Post by hamsta2 on May 20, 2024 9:14:20 GMT
Bugger. Just had post op scan. Still got blockages in my legs. Will find out next steps tomorrow. Not good.
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Post by chuffedstokie on May 20, 2024 15:13:43 GMT
Bugger. Just had post op scan. Still got blockages in my legs. Will find out next steps tomorrow. Not good. Is this an anticoagulants issue, apologies if I've missed something elsewhere in the thread.
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Post by hamsta2 on May 20, 2024 15:17:05 GMT
Bugger. Just had post op scan. Still got blockages in my legs. Will find out next steps tomorrow. Not good. Is this an anticoagulants issue, apologies if I've missed something elsewhere in the thread. No worries mate. I had vascular surgery on my femoral artery - cored out and graft fitted. Sadly I still have blockages in my legs ( artery is fine I think ) which are causing me more pain than pre - op. Consultant to advise on next steps tomorrow …..
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 20, 2024 17:18:25 GMT
Is this an anticoagulants issue, apologies if I've missed something elsewhere in the thread. No worries mate. I had vascular surgery on my femoral artery - cored out and graft fitted. Sadly I still have blockages in my legs ( artery is fine I think ) which are causing me more pain than pre - op. Consultant to advise on next steps tomorrow ….. Best of luck Hammy, hopefully you get it sorted this time
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Post by sd22 on May 21, 2024 0:02:56 GMT
Broke up after 11 years, 16 days before the wedding.
All my fault as I got jealous and I’ve acted poorly (shouty when angry) over the past 11 years.
Absolutely broken, world has come crashing down. Feel numb.
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Post by Orbs on May 21, 2024 20:35:51 GMT
Bugger. Just had post op scan. Still got blockages in my legs. Will find out next steps tomorrow. Not good. Sorry to hear that mate. Keep us posted 👍🏽
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Post by Orbs on May 21, 2024 20:37:59 GMT
Broke up after 11 years, 16 days before the wedding. All my fault as I got jealous and I’ve acted poorly (shouty when angry) over the past 11 years. Absolutely broken, world has come crashing down. Feel numb. Crikey mate. Sorry to hear this. Are you still living together in the meantime?
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Post by sd22 on May 22, 2024 13:35:29 GMT
Broke up after 11 years, 16 days before the wedding. All my fault as I got jealous and I’ve acted poorly (shouty when angry) over the past 11 years. Absolutely broken, world has come crashing down. Feel numb. Crikey mate. Sorry to hear this. Are you still living together in the meantime? I’ve gone back my mums mate. I’ve said a lot of bad things in these 11 years (included slagging off some of her Christmas gifts last night) I feel absolutely terrible, I know I’ve got issues and I do want to change although it might take a while. She said she was quite provocative last night, but if I wanted to show change I shouldn’t of said about the Christmas gifts (which I didn’t mean) Looking back on it, I shouldn’t have gone up for my stuff at all last night, I should’ve had a few days space. I find it so hard to give her the space she needs, it’s really difficult when we’ve been together everyday (maybe a max of 30 days away from eachother) for the past 11 years since we were 16. Absolute nightmare, feel terrible as it’s mostly my fault, but really feel bad over some of the horrid crap I’ve said over the 11 years. I just want to blink, my mental health get fixed and we’re back together I said I want a fresh start as it won’t work as a continuation of us. It needs to be a clean break and get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend again, making eachother laugh and rediscovering that love again. She’s admitted she still loves me (after she said she hated me and said I was dead to her) and of course I still love her. It’s just a long path and difficult to find any resolution at the moment
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Post by alsagerstokie on May 22, 2024 16:07:32 GMT
People on here can support you.
You say you have some issues.
Its no shame in maybe seeking professional help to deal with these. It might bring a positive outcome and also those closest to you might think well done for trying.
Its up to you obviously but trying might give you another chance.
You have done the first step by sharing on here.
Good luck in trying to make things right.
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Post by sd22 on May 22, 2024 21:52:38 GMT
People on here can support you. You say you have some issues. Its no shame in maybe seeking professional help to deal with these. It might bring a positive outcome and also those closest to you might think well done for trying. Its up to you obviously but trying might give you another chance. You have done the first step by sharing on here. Good luck in trying to make things right. Just paid for ‘betterhelp’ first session tomorrow. £54 a week, then I’m in with NHS talking help, for mental health services on 14th. I’m determined to make things right, not just with my ex. But I want to be a more pleasant person for everyone
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Post by Orbs on May 23, 2024 11:36:36 GMT
People on here can support you. You say you have some issues. Its no shame in maybe seeking professional help to deal with these. It might bring a positive outcome and also those closest to you might think well done for trying. Its up to you obviously but trying might give you another chance. You have done the first step by sharing on here. Good luck in trying to make things right. Just paid for ‘betterhelp’ first session tomorrow. £54 a week, then I’m in with NHS talking help, for mental health services on 14th. I’m determined to make things right, not just with my ex. But I want to be a more pleasant person for everyone Brilliant you’ve taken the first step. Please let us know how the first session went. 👍🏽
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 23, 2024 20:32:30 GMT
People on here can support you. You say you have some issues. Its no shame in maybe seeking professional help to deal with these. It might bring a positive outcome and also those closest to you might think well done for trying. Its up to you obviously but trying might give you another chance. You have done the first step by sharing on here. Good luck in trying to make things right. Just paid for ‘betterhelp’ first session tomorrow. £54 a week, then I’m in with NHS talking help, for mental health services on 14th. I’m determined to make things right, not just with my ex. But I want to be a more pleasant person for everyone One step at a time mate, don’t beat yourself up about it. You’re doing absolutely the right thing and you can bet your ex will be keeping an eye on your next move. Good luck and I for one am rooting for a happy ending to this story. I really feel for you mate👍🏻
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 23, 2024 20:33:15 GMT
People on here can support you. You say you have some issues. Its no shame in maybe seeking professional help to deal with these. It might bring a positive outcome and also those closest to you might think well done for trying. Its up to you obviously but trying might give you another chance. You have done the first step by sharing on here. Good luck in trying to make things right. Just paid for ‘betterhelp’ first session tomorrow. £54 a week, then I’m in with NHS talking help, for mental health services on 14th. I’m determined to make things right, not just with my ex. But I want to be a more pleasant person for everyone How did you get on?
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 23, 2024 20:35:19 GMT
Crikey mate. Sorry to hear this. Are you still living together in the meantime? I’ve gone back my mums mate. I’ve said a lot of bad things in these 11 years (included slagging off some of her Christmas gifts last night) I feel absolutely terrible, I know I’ve got issues and I do want to change although it might take a while. She said she was quite provocative last night, but if I wanted to show change I shouldn’t of said about the Christmas gifts (which I didn’t mean) Looking back on it, I shouldn’t have gone up for my stuff at all last night, I should’ve had a few days space. I find it so hard to give her the space she needs, it’s really difficult when we’ve been together everyday (maybe a max of 30 days away from eachother) for the past 11 years since we were 16. Absolute nightmare, feel terrible as it’s mostly my fault, but really feel bad over some of the horrid crap I’ve said over the 11 years. I just want to blink, my mental health get fixed and we’re back together I said I want a fresh start as it won’t work as a continuation of us. It needs to be a clean break and get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend again, making eachother laugh and rediscovering that love again. She’s admitted she still loves me (after she said she hated me and said I was dead to her) and of course I still love her. It’s just a long path and difficult to find any resolution at the moment I almost didn’t want to give this a like because it’s so sad but I did because you’ve realised your behaviour hasn’t been the best and are doing something about it. Well done, now get your head down and do as much as you can to get your girl back
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Post by NassauDave on May 24, 2024 6:59:05 GMT
Crikey mate. Sorry to hear this. Are you still living together in the meantime? I’ve gone back my mums mate. I’ve said a lot of bad things in these 11 years (included slagging off some of her Christmas gifts last night) I feel absolutely terrible, I know I’ve got issues and I do want to change although it might take a while. She said she was quite provocative last night, but if I wanted to show change I shouldn’t of said about the Christmas gifts (which I didn’t mean) Looking back on it, I shouldn’t have gone up for my stuff at all last night, I should’ve had a few days space. I find it so hard to give her the space she needs, it’s really difficult when we’ve been together everyday (maybe a max of 30 days away from eachother) for the past 11 years since we were 16. Absolute nightmare, feel terrible as it’s mostly my fault, but really feel bad over some of the horrid crap I’ve said over the 11 years. I just want to blink, my mental health get fixed and we’re back together I said I want a fresh start as it won’t work as a continuation of us. It needs to be a clean break and get back together as boyfriend and girlfriend again, making eachother laugh and rediscovering that love again. She’s admitted she still loves me (after she said she hated me and said I was dead to her) and of course I still love her. It’s just a long path and difficult to find any resolution at the moment Seek help mate. This won't fix itself. You may not get back together but you both need a chance of happiness again. You acknowledging your faults is a start. Good luck!
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Post by NassauDave on May 24, 2024 7:04:12 GMT
Hope everyone is well? Well I’ve got a spring in my step now the sunshine has arrived but not before making a “life changing” decision. During my holiday last week I was drinking plenty of all inclusive lager. Went up to get changed for the evening and my favourite shirt (insert haircut 100 pun if you like) no longer fitted me😮. So I decided to quit beer there and then. I’m not going to pretend I’ve given up alcohol and I’ve replaced the copious amounts of lager with a couple of Gin and slimline Tonics of an evening. The idea being that it’s way lower on calories, I won’t get pissed and won’t be rough in the mornings and of course it’s far cheaper. I don’t think I’ve missed a day on the beer since Covid started, I was unemployed with no prospect of finding a job and went 12 months spiralling into a diet of beer and junk food and continued with the pattern until Friday last week when my shirt wouldn’t fit. I have to say I wish I’d done this years ago, I feel energised, positive and and much more alert. There has also already been a noticeable difference in appearance and general muscle movements. I guess what I’m saying is I used alcohol to alleviate the depression of being unemployed and got stuck in a rut. I would urge anyone who thinks they drink too much beer to switch it up to something else like I have, quitting altogether has never been an option but it feels like I probably could far easier. So here’s to a week without beer and feeling a hundred percent better for it. And yeh I know Gin and Tonic is one of the gayest drinks on the planet but I’ll style it out😉 Good health everyone and happy Friday Good luck with your re -sett Badge. 🦡
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Post by sd22 on May 24, 2024 15:42:36 GMT
Session went extremely well.
Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too.
Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago.
Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space.
Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option.
I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again.
I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 24, 2024 16:01:50 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect Good man. Remember this is just the start though and try not to get ahead of yourself. All the best and keep updating on the thread
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Post by Orbs on May 24, 2024 16:29:14 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect Good man. Remember this is just the start though and try not to get ahead of yourself. All the best and keep updating on the thread Exactly what Badge said. I’ve got a feeling this is going to have a happy ending. Keep on keeping on 👍🏽
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Post by foxysgloves on May 24, 2024 20:54:02 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect The fact that you know you were in the wrong and that you want to fix things means you’re on the right track. Keep on keeping on. You’ll get through this.
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Post by mtrstudent on May 24, 2024 23:24:37 GMT
Session went extremely well. Starting to do some digging into what is ‘wrong’ with me and why I act the way I do- NHS session brought forward to next Friday and my next paid one is in the morning of that Friday too. Ex is happy I’m getting the help but says it sucks I couldn’t do it a while ago. Meeting for a dog walk tomorrow and to collect some other things. Trying to give her space. Also, had a meal booked for 09/06 - asked if she still wants to go, she says it’s a bit raw and she needs processing time and for me to have more sessions, so she said July is a better option. I’m so determined to get myself right and hopefully in doing so, get her back and make her feel special again. I really do hate myself, but if we can come out the other side of this, we will be an absolute unit of a couple, as she is perfect Mate it's so hard to admit to ourselves when we've made mistakes. Even harder to come out and say it to others. Really impressive you've made the first difficult step and reached out for some help. 👍 Sorry to hear you're having a horrendous time of it, but sounds like you've put yourself on the path to getting better.
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Post by Pedropotter on May 25, 2024 5:01:41 GMT
Bugger. Just had post op scan. Still got blockages in my legs. Will find out next steps tomorrow. Not good. Sorry to hear that mate. Fingers crossed for a positive outcome.
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Post by foster on May 25, 2024 5:06:48 GMT
Good man. Remember this is just the start though and try not to get ahead of yourself. All the best and keep updating on the thread Exactly what Badge said. I’ve got a feeling this is going to have a happy ending. Keep on keeping on 👍🏽 Getting through the sessions and improving yourself as a person will already be a triumph and happy ending I'd say. Once that step has been made then hopefully the rest will follow positively.
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