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Post by iancransonsknees on May 5, 2024 10:57:24 GMT
I work for myself and last year on a personal level it was a nightmare which effected my business. I got diagnosed with a number of things including ADHD, severe depression and severe anxiety. What, I did, because I really did not feel like that I had a choice and I actually went abroad from mid November until mid January. Got some nice sun, got exercising and rebuilt my business again. I know your situation will be different but I had nothing, so, I'm not sure if what happened to me was fortunate or unfortunate. Thanks. I don’t know how some people do it. My circumstances in reality are pretty good. But still doesn’t the feelings of dread and being overwhelmed! With relation to work I'm very strict about walking out of that door and that's it, it's my time after that - they're not paying for it so I'm not stressing over it in my own time. It was the only way I could deal with it when I worked for an RSL. I'm forever reminding mar lady the same thing, she'll stew over things and let it eat her up. In general exercise and being outside helps me, a decent pub and a nice pint is something I'll treat myself to, to make work seem worth it. I don't chase what I don't need. My house does me, we run a decent motor which is the only real extravagance, but that and a few holidays are all I really need. I don't mind the changing of the seasons like it gets some people down, but this overcast weather has been absolutely dog shit. I reckon 9 times out of 10 there's always some poor fucker worse off too. Realising that and learning not to give a flying fuck about what anybody else thinks of you lifts a weight off most people's shoulders.
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Post by scfcno1fan on May 5, 2024 12:06:59 GMT
Thanks. I don’t know how some people do it. My circumstances in reality are pretty good. But still doesn’t the feelings of dread and being overwhelmed! With relation to work I'm very strict about walking out of that door and that's it, it my time after that - they're not paying for it so I'm not stressing over it in my own time. It was the only way I could deal with it when I worked for an RSL. I'm forever reminding mar lady the same thing, she'll stew over things and let it eat her up. In general exercise and being outside helps me, a decent pub and a nice pint is something I'll treat myself to, to make work seem worth it. I don't chase what I don't need. My house does me, we run a decent motor which is the only real extravagance, but that a few holidays are all I really need. I don't mind the changing of the seasons like it gets some people down, but this overcast weather has been absolutely dog shit. I reckon 9 times out of 10 there's always some poor fucker worse off too. Realising that and learning not to give a flying fuck about what anybody else thinks of you lifts a weight off most people's shoulders. Thanks mate, good advice!
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Post by Orbs on May 7, 2024 20:45:53 GMT
Top man is our Nev - does loads of stuff like this.
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Post by salopstick on May 9, 2024 13:57:45 GMT
How do people cope with stress on here? In work, in life? There must be people who have objectively, as well as subjectively, stressful jobs? How do you stop it from becoming too overwhelming? do exercise always have somthing in the calendar to look forward too
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Post by mickeythemaestro on May 9, 2024 14:29:54 GMT
How do people cope with stress on here? In work, in life? There must be people who have objectively, as well as subjectively, stressful jobs? How do you stop it from becoming too overwhelming? do exercise always have somthing in the calendar to look forward too Exercise is a must. And it doesn't have to mean lung busting 20k runs or intense gym sessions. Go for a big walk. Take the hedge on in the garden that you've been putting off. Go for a cycle. All of it gives you a sense of well being and achievement. All of which makes you feel better in my experience.
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Post by felonious on May 9, 2024 15:51:31 GMT
do exercise always have somthing in the calendar to look forward too Exercise is a must. And it doesn't have to mean lung busting 20k runs or intense gym sessions. Go for a big walk. Take the hedge on in the garden that you've been putting off. Go for a cycle. All of it gives you a sense of well being and achievement. All of which makes you feel better in my experience. I feed the pigeons, I sometimes feed the sparrows too It gives me a sense of enormous well-being
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Post by mickeythemaestro on May 9, 2024 16:30:12 GMT
Exercise is a must. And it doesn't have to mean lung busting 20k runs or intense gym sessions. Go for a big walk. Take the hedge on in the garden that you've been putting off. Go for a cycle. All of it gives you a sense of well being and achievement. All of which makes you feel better in my experience. I feed the pigeons, I sometimes feed the sparrows too It gives me a sense of enormous well-being You need to cut down on your porklife mate....and get some exercise 😆
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Post by felonious on May 9, 2024 19:45:52 GMT
I feed the pigeons, I sometimes feed the sparrows too It gives me a sense of enormous well-being You need to cut down on your porklife mate....and get some exercise 😆 24 minute 5K tonight on trails it's given me an enormous sense of well being but unfortunately I'm looking as smug as Salop
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Post by mickeythemaestro on May 9, 2024 19:48:35 GMT
You need to cut down on your porklife mate....and get some exercise 😆 24 minute 5K tonight on trails it's given me an enormous sense of well being but unfortunately I'm looking as smug as Salop Decent time for a 5k that 👏 I can barely keep em under 30 mins nowadays. Could bang em in under 20 mins back in my yoof. Sadly a long time ago 😔 😆
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Post by middleoftheboothen on May 9, 2024 21:36:22 GMT
Little update for everyone on here. I've been in good spirits lately as some may or may not have noticed from my daft posts. After nearly two years since my diagnosis I'm back on the road driving again which has been massive and has made me feel like I've really turned a corner(no pun intended). Physio has been going great recently and twinned with the work I've been doing daily at home and swimming has got me so much further than I thought I'd be or the physios expected me to be at this stage. Before my op my leg was set at 15 degrees bend. After my op it was at thirty degrees and even after my week of intense physio in October I had only got it to around 75 degrees. I had it measured today at physio and I've got it to 105 degrees which is more than me, my consultant or any of the physios ever thought I could. I will keep going until I and the specialists know I can't go any more but it ain't bad after being told I might not walk again. I go back to work at the start of July after a year and eleven months off and it's been tough but that's life. It's shite sometimes but some of the most precious moments I've had have come throughout this. Keep them chins up all of you on here because no matter what it is you can beat it.
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Post by jeycov on May 9, 2024 21:45:12 GMT
Little update for everyone on here. I've been in good spirits lately as some may or may not have noticed from my daft posts. After nearly two years since my diagnosis I'm back on the road driving again which has been massive and has made me feel like I've really turned a corner(no pun intended). Physio has been going great recently and twinned with the work I've been doing daily at home and swimming has got me so much further than I thought I'd be or the physios expected me to be at this stage. Before my op my leg was set at 15 degrees bend. After my op it was at thirty degrees and even after my week of intense physio in October I had only got it to around 75 degrees. I had it measured today at physio and I've got it to 105 degrees which is more than me, my consultant or any of the physios ever thought I could. I will keep going until I and the specialists know I can't go any more but it ain't bad after being told I might not walk again. I go back to work at the start of July after a year and eleven months off and it's been tough but that's life. It's shite sometimes but some of the most precious moments I've had have come throughout this. Keep them chins up all of you on here because no matter what it is you can beat it. Well done Fantastic result for you and a return to work soon Take it easy as you readjust
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Post by middleoftheboothen on May 9, 2024 21:49:06 GMT
Little update for everyone on here. I've been in good spirits lately as some may or may not have noticed from my daft posts. After nearly two years since my diagnosis I'm back on the road driving again which has been massive and has made me feel like I've really turned a corner(no pun intended). Physio has been going great recently and twinned with the work I've been doing daily at home and swimming has got me so much further than I thought I'd be or the physios expected me to be at this stage. Before my op my leg was set at 15 degrees bend. After my op it was at thirty degrees and even after my week of intense physio in October I had only got it to around 75 degrees. I had it measured today at physio and I've got it to 105 degrees which is more than me, my consultant or any of the physios ever thought I could. I will keep going until I and the specialists know I can't go any more but it ain't bad after being told I might not walk again. I go back to work at the start of July after a year and eleven months off and it's been tough but that's life. It's shite sometimes but some of the most precious moments I've had have come throughout this. Keep them chins up all of you on here because no matter what it is you can beat it. Well done Fantastic result for you and a return to work soon Take it easy as you readjust Will do mate. Itching to get back but as you say I need to readjust as things won't be as they were before.
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Post by salopstick on May 10, 2024 7:07:25 GMT
You need to cut down on your porklife mate....and get some exercise 😆 24 minute 5K tonight on trails it's given me an enormous sense of well being but unfortunately I'm looking as smug as Salop nothing wrong with being smug i went out and did 25 miles in the sun with a few mates easy riding just chilling. did me the world of good mentally and physically after a very hard weekend cycling in yorkshire. Ive got a couple of events in the calendar for may and june, an alps trip to look forward to in july and a couple of nights out on the piss over the same period booked in. You have to live and try and enjoy life as much as you can, plus i want to be alive for 40 more years
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 10, 2024 7:21:27 GMT
Hope everyone is well? Well I’ve got a spring in my step now the sunshine has arrived but not before making a “life changing” decision. During my holiday last week I was drinking plenty of all inclusive lager. Went up to get changed for the evening and my favourite shirt (insert haircut 100 pun if you like) no longer fitted me😮. So I decided to quit beer there and then. I’m not going to pretend I’ve given up alcohol and I’ve replaced the copious amounts of lager with a couple of Gin and slimline Tonics of an evening. The idea being that it’s way lower on calories, I won’t get pissed and won’t be rough in the mornings and of course it’s far cheaper. I don’t think I’ve missed a day on the beer since Covid started, I was unemployed with no prospect of finding a job and went 12 months spiralling into a diet of beer and junk food and continued with the pattern until Friday last week when my shirt wouldn’t fit. I have to say I wish I’d done this years ago, I feel energised, positive and and much more alert. There has also already been a noticeable difference in appearance and general muscle movements. I guess what I’m saying is I used alcohol to alleviate the depression of being unemployed and got stuck in a rut. I would urge anyone who thinks they drink too much beer to switch it up to something else like I have, quitting altogether has never been an option but it feels like I probably could far easier. So here’s to a week without beer and feeling a hundred percent better for it. And yeh I know Gin and Tonic is one of the gayest drinks on the planet but I’ll style it out😉 Good health everyone and happy Friday
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Post by Orbs on May 10, 2024 7:50:09 GMT
24 minute 5K tonight on trails it's given me an enormous sense of well being but unfortunately I'm looking as smug as Salop Decent time for a 5k that 👏 I can barely keep em under 30 mins nowadays. Could bang em in under 20 mins back in my yoof. Sadly a long time ago 😔 😆 Here we go… come on Fel you tell him 😆
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Post by salopstick on May 10, 2024 8:01:07 GMT
ive cut most drink out of my life the last 8-10 years.
i dont care what the experts say. i reckon its better for me to have a binge night every few weeks than have a couple of drinks most days. i enjoy a night out with friends every few weeks, if im not on a social i dont drink
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Post by felonious on May 10, 2024 8:04:50 GMT
Decent time for a 5k that 👏 I can barely keep em under 30 mins nowadays. Could bang em in under 20 mins back in my yoof. Sadly a long time ago 😔 😆 Here we go… come on Fel you tell him 😆 Probably for the running thread although I was going to suggest if he wants to try to run faster then get a good mate to pace him and have the back up of St Johns running alongside
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Post by Orbs on May 10, 2024 18:29:35 GMT
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Post by butlerstbob on May 10, 2024 19:32:38 GMT
Just watched it and was about to post the link....hard to watch but beautiful and powerful at the same time❤️
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Post by middleoftheboothen on May 11, 2024 7:12:45 GMT
A brilliant thing that Wolves and that man are doing. It was hard to watch because you could see some were struggling. If I'm out and see someone walking past who looks down I'll always ask how they are doing because it might be the difference they need.
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Post by alsagerstokie on May 12, 2024 19:57:38 GMT
ive cut most drink out of my life the last 8-10 years. i dont care what the experts say. i reckon its better for me to have a binge night every few weeks than have a couple of drinks most days. i enjoy a night out with friends every few weeks, if im not on a social i dont drink exactly me. Seeing friends in a couple of weeks for a few. Apart from that wont touch a drop.
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Post by flea79 on May 12, 2024 20:39:30 GMT
Got bloody covid again and my god it’s bad this time! Been a week of the worst flu going! Last time it was just a sniffle with one night of fever!
Take care everybody
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Post by knype on May 13, 2024 8:32:43 GMT
Got bloody covid again and my god it’s bad this time! Been a week of the worst flu going! Last time it was just a sniffle with one night of fever! Take care everybody How do you know it's covid?
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Post by flea79 on May 13, 2024 8:39:24 GMT
Got bloody covid again and my god it’s bad this time! Been a week of the worst flu going! Last time it was just a sniffle with one night of fever! Take care everybody How do you know it's covid? took a test, my neighbour is a nurse and has them stockpiled
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Post by knype on May 13, 2024 8:46:11 GMT
How do you know it's covid? took a test, my neighbour is a nurse and has them stockpiled Wow, surprised people are still testing in all honesty. Hope you get better soon mate
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Post by flea79 on May 13, 2024 8:51:33 GMT
took a test, my neighbour is a nurse and has them stockpiled Wow, surprised people are still testing in all honesty. Hope you get better soon mate i wasnt bothering until i had a test chucked at me, apparently its really doing the rounds again currently cheers mate
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Post by foxysgloves on May 18, 2024 9:31:18 GMT
Just wanted to say I’ve just stumbled across this thread and it reminds me why I keep coming back to the Oatcake.
Seeing so many usernames I recognise and getting a glimpse into lives where so many things resonate with me is surprisingly heartwarming and emotive.
Look forward to checking in on here regularly.
Hope everyone is doing ok❤️
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Post by foxysgloves on May 18, 2024 9:35:43 GMT
How do people cope with stress on here? In work, in life? There must be people who have objectively, as well as subjectively, stressful jobs? How do you stop it from becoming too overwhelming? Run. It seriously works if you can. I got out of the habit over the last year and it’s had a big negative impact. Starting to get back to it and feel my general mindset improving with it.
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Post by foxysgloves on May 18, 2024 9:39:10 GMT
How’s the recovery going Liathroid? Feeling better? going well doing a fair bit of walking , still sore , now learning how to piss again , coughing and farting is dodgy Hope the recovery is going well. PS considering your username at least it wasn’t your bollock🫣🫣
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Post by iancransonsknees on May 18, 2024 10:42:35 GMT
How do people cope with stress on here? In work, in life? There must be people who have objectively, as well as subjectively, stressful jobs? How do you stop it from becoming too overwhelming? Run. It seriously works if you can. I got out of the habit over the last year and it’s had a big negative impact. Starting to get back to it and feel my general mindset improving with it. Any exercise works for me but I do miss running, I've got terrible plantar fascitis and Morton's neuroma that I can't shift. If I do I'll get back too it just to be outside rather than in the gym.
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