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Post by mrrine on Nov 30, 2023 19:38:07 GMT
Lowest ever two weeks for me - bereavement, depression and PTSD all wrapped into one. It's been properly shit.
Busy-ness doesn't always help, talking to people doesn't always help, not talking to people doesn't necessarily help, there's not been a clear route through!
If you're going through the same and would benefit from a chat or a run /walk PM me, I'm happy to follow through on it.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 30, 2023 19:53:10 GMT
Lowest ever two weeks for me - bereavement, depression and PTSD all wrapped into one. It's been properly shit. Busy-ness doesn't always help, talking to people doesn't always help, not talking to people doesn't necessarily help, there's not been a clear route through! If you're going through the same and would benefit from a chat or a run /walk PM me, I'm happy to follow through on it. Good evening mrrine and welcome to the best thread on the Oatcake. Is that a Wolverine in your avatar? Very sorry to hear of your recent traumas. This is a really good place to talk about all things that are eating away and also the positive things. Where do you live?
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Post by tommycarlsberg on Nov 30, 2023 21:27:14 GMT
Lowest ever two weeks for me - bereavement, depression and PTSD all wrapped into one. It's been properly shit. Busy-ness doesn't always help, talking to people doesn't always help, not talking to people doesn't necessarily help, there's not been a clear route through! If you're going through the same and would benefit from a chat or a run /walk PM me, I'm happy to follow through on it. I’m sorry to hear, I hope brighter days are waiting just around the corner for you and that you look after yourself in the meantime. You’re right there is no clear route through, but there always is one at least. Dragging yourself out of bed in the morning in this cold is a victory!
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Post by Orbs on Nov 30, 2023 21:51:10 GMT
Lowest ever two weeks for me - bereavement, depression and PTSD all wrapped into one. It's been properly shit. Busy-ness doesn't always help, talking to people doesn't always help, not talking to people doesn't necessarily help, there's not been a clear route through! If you're going through the same and would benefit from a chat or a run /walk PM me, I'm happy to follow through on it. That’s really sad to hear mrrine. Hope you’re ok mate. The one thing I’ve picked up on this thread is that there’s not ‘a clear route through.’ It’s a cliche I think but it’s a one day at a time kind of situation. There will be good and bad days I guess. It’s about using the support that’s out there when you need it and not being afraid to ask for help.
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Post by mrrine on Dec 1, 2023 0:04:23 GMT
Sort of turned into a FB mum with [that] EDIT - My] post a bit - I'd usually never ask for help and just crack on etc. But I've used every inch of leeway or support offered my way - really being quite selfish with it and taking the time to try and 'heal' now as opposed to paying a more hefty price later if I leave all the trauma unresolved. Interestingly, I've found it impossible to exercise properly or follow a normal diet (though it's hard to see when I've ever done either properly ) Badger: yep - Saw it about 20 years ago when I was researching the Mustelid genus, it's an old picture from a Victorian book and the disgruntled look on its face kills me. They just never seem to get wolverines right on those family tree diagrams! Every day getting out of bed is a success and the one day at a time approach is the only way. It's complex and shit but it's brill to be alive Appreciated chaps
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Post by gawa on Dec 1, 2023 1:24:14 GMT
Been suffering for some time now with a few health issues and no diagnosis. One of the biggest issues has, for lack of better word, been in relation to the olde todger. Anyway pleased to learn that while I am unfortunately suffering from local gigantism, at least at the present its causing no issues and we simply just have to monitor it periodically. Statistically less than half need surgically intervention and given my age, they seem quite confident that it's unlikely to progress further
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Post by gawa on Dec 1, 2023 1:37:19 GMT
Sorry to hear you're not doing too great mrrineHope things get better for you soon. If you're not already on them I'd always redfomend daily vitamin d supplements especially if you've a history of low mood in winter. Helps me personally.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Dec 1, 2023 5:45:33 GMT
Can't believe it's been a year. 27th November 2022 my brother died and 14th December lost my dad. 2 funerals in the space of 10 days, one Trowbridge and one in Stoke. One fantastic piece of news though, I'm going to be a grandad in June, grandson on the way. Bit of a road trip in January, Reading (son and family) Bedfordshire (old mates) then Stoke to see my mum. My other brother is going to be with her in Biddulph so she won't be alone over Christmas and I'm going to be kept busy here in Aberdyfi with a new relationship and walks on the beach, so not all bad. Having dodged the the grim reaper twice during my time on this planet already the incentive to enjoy every minute is quite powerful. Just want Stoke to start delivering now bastards.😄 Keep focused everyone it's worth it.
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Post by deeside2 on Dec 1, 2023 7:52:47 GMT
Both me and (much more predominantly) the wife have suffered from numerous quite serious health problems during the past 7 or 8 years which have really knocked the stuffing out of us. It's been really depressing tbh and even though we try to support each other it's been really difficult knowing some issues still aren't resolved. We now try to take it as it comes (what good does worrying about it do after all) trying to make the most of every day and things do seem to have improved a little. It may sound clichéd but the Oatie "community" really helps me through some days. There's Stoke's "performances" to disect, humour, general rubbish, word games (keeps the brain active), music, I keep off the political threads, and there are some really good guys on the Oatie, and I'm in touch with several regularly. On really low days just coming on here has often lightened my mood and lifted my spirits. Thanks lads !
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Post by iancransonsknees on Dec 1, 2023 8:03:42 GMT
Been suffering for some time now with a few health issues and no diagnosis. One of the biggest issues has, for lack of better word, been in relation to the olde todger. Anyway pleased to learn that while I am unfortunately suffering from local gigantism, at least at the present its causing no issues and we simply just have to monitor it periodically. Statistically less than half need surgically intervention and given my age, they seem quite confident that it's unlikely to progress further I always thought you were a massive cock.
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Post by fullmetaljacket on Dec 1, 2023 11:49:26 GMT
Been suffering for some time now with a few health issues and no diagnosis. One of the biggest issues has, for lack of better word, been in relation to the olde todger. Anyway pleased to learn that while I am unfortunately suffering from local gigantism, at least at the present its causing no issues and we simply just have to monitor it periodically. Statistically less than half need surgically intervention and given my age, they seem quite confident that it's unlikely to progress further So you've got a gigantic cock. Like that's a hardship
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Post by gawa on Dec 1, 2023 12:06:04 GMT
Been suffering for some time now with a few health issues and no diagnosis. One of the biggest issues has, for lack of better word, been in relation to the olde todger. Anyway pleased to learn that while I am unfortunately suffering from local gigantism, at least at the present its causing no issues and we simply just have to monitor it periodically. Statistically less than half need surgically intervention and given my age, they seem quite confident that it's unlikely to progress further So you've got a gigantic cock. Like that's a hardship 🤣🤣🤣 I feel I should come clean and say it was a joke.
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Post by NassauDave on Dec 1, 2023 23:35:46 GMT
Lowest ever two weeks for me - bereavement, depression and PTSD all wrapped into one. It's been properly shit. Busy-ness doesn't always help, talking to people doesn't always help, not talking to people doesn't necessarily help, there's not been a clear route through! If you're going through the same and would benefit from a chat or a run /walk PM me, I'm happy to follow through on it. Well done for speaking up Mrrine. It's a small but important step. The people on this thread are great, and no subject seems to be off limits, even massive todgers apparently. Keep checking in and I hope that things pick up for you.
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Post by NassauDave on Dec 1, 2023 23:36:47 GMT
Can't believe it's been a year. 27th November 2022 my brother died and 14th December lost my dad. 2 funerals in the space of 10 days, one Trowbridge and one in Stoke. One fantastic piece of news though, I'm going to be a grandad in June, grandson on the way. Bit of a road trip in January, Reading (son and family) Bedfordshire (old mates) then Stoke to see my mum. My other brother is going to be with her in Biddulph so she won't be alone over Christmas and I'm going to be kept busy here in Aberdyfi with a new relationship and walks on the beach, so not all bad. Having dodged the the grim reaper twice during my time on this planet already the incentive to enjoy every minute is quite powerful. Just want Stoke to start delivering now bastards.😄 Keep focused everyone it's worth it. Well said Mate.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 3, 2023 20:33:08 GMT
So you've got a gigantic cock. Like that's a hardship 🤣🤣🤣 I feel I should come clean and say it was a joke. I'm sure it gets bigger when you see a certain Northern Irish football manager doesn't it mate 😉
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 3, 2023 20:46:12 GMT
🤣🤣🤣 I feel I should come clean and say it was a joke. I'm sure it gets bigger when you see a certain Northern Irish football manager doesn't it mate 😉 Does he fancy Brenda Rodgers?
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 3, 2023 20:48:05 GMT
I'm sure it gets bigger when you see a certain Northern Irish football manager doesn't it mate 😉 Does he fancy Brenda Rodgers? There's a good chance mate but I was referring to Michael O'Neill 😉
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Post by tommycarlsberg on Dec 4, 2023 11:34:17 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping?
I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100.
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Post by southstanddan on Dec 4, 2023 12:36:26 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. Same but then I don’t want to get up!
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Post by Orbs on Dec 4, 2023 23:15:09 GMT
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 4, 2023 23:17:44 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. Yes mate I have for a long time now mainly due to worrying etc. What I have been doing is taking a Nytol one a night tablet and spraying lavender on my pillow. Certainly has worked for me to a certain extent mate. Maybe worth a go for you unless you've tried it already bud.
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Post by Orbs on Dec 4, 2023 23:46:35 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. Yes mate I have for a long time now mainly due to worrying etc. What I have been doing is taking a Nytol one a night tablet and spraying lavender on my pillow. Certainly has worked for me to a certain extent mate. Maybe worth a go for you unless you've tried it already bud. Hot bath, a whisky and a wank?
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 5, 2023 3:33:14 GMT
Yes mate I have for a long time now mainly due to worrying etc. What I have been doing is taking a Nytol one a night tablet and spraying lavender on my pillow. Certainly has worked for me to a certain extent mate. Maybe worth a go for you unless you've tried it already bud. Hot bath, a whisky and a wank? That could work mate 😅
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Post by NassauDave on Dec 5, 2023 7:06:07 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. Constantly through stress. Falling asleep not an issue, just waking up a lot in the night. When on holiday, I sleep like a baby. Edit:I wrote this at 2a.m.......😩
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 5, 2023 7:10:37 GMT
I was looking for the footballers that look like women thread the other day but couldn’t find it. Haaland needs to go in it
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Post by Huddysleftfoot on Dec 5, 2023 7:28:12 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone.
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Post by mickeythemaestro on Dec 5, 2023 11:00:13 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Jeez that's a rough year for funerals 🙏 The positive spin is i think people who are alone on Xmas day are looked at with envy by some people who would much rather have a bit of peace and quiet and chill out rather than the chaos and bickering of a big family do. Might do it myself next year so I can watch Zulu in peace 😆
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Post by Huddysleftfoot on Dec 5, 2023 11:04:39 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Jeez that's a rough year for funerals 🙏 The positive spin is i think people who are alone on Xmas day are looked at with envy by some people who would much rather have a bit of peace and quiet and chill out rather than the chaos and bickering of a big family do. Might do it myself next year so I can watch Zulu in peace 😆 Will be my 3rd year this time...you really do get used to the peace and solace.
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Post by prestwichpotter on Dec 5, 2023 11:08:53 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. I've been an insomniac since my early teens, I survive off about 4 hours kip every night. You become numb to it, I've tried most things that are recommended with very little success. But if it's becoming an issue I would try and avoid caffeine/alcohol after 5/6 pm, get yourself someone decent blackout blinds for your bedroom if you haven't already got them, get some fresh air as close to bed time as you can (the times I sleep the best are when I go for a walk/run at 11 o clock at night) and try and keep a similar routine (shower, bed at 11, read a book/listen to a podcast for half an hr. etc) I think I'm a lost cause but if it's relatively new to you get into the good habits now fella before it's too late......
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Post by mickeythemaestro on Dec 5, 2023 11:10:18 GMT
Jeez that's a rough year for funerals 🙏 The positive spin is i think people who are alone on Xmas day are looked at with envy by some people who would much rather have a bit of peace and quiet and chill out rather than the chaos and bickering of a big family do. Might do it myself next year so I can watch Zulu in peace 😆 Will be my 3rd year this time...you really do get used to the peace and solace. I think my plan would be a nice morning walk to take in a bit of nature. A few cheese and bacon oatcakes for brunch. A nice mid afternoon crimbo lunch and then line up a couple of good films to enjoy with a bit of red wine and some cheese and crackers. And to amuse myself send pictures of me chilling out to mates who I know have got a house full and are craving some quiet time. Gotta be careful though or they'll end up crashing your peace 😆
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