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Post by prestwichpotter on Dec 5, 2023 11:14:57 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Jeez that's a rough year for funerals 🙏 The positive spin is i think people who are alone on Xmas day are looked at with envy by some people who would much rather have a bit of peace and quiet and chill out rather than the chaos and bickering of a big family do. Might do it myself next year so I can watch Zulu in peace 😆 If people choose to be on their own and have a quiet one that's great, if they'd rather not be than I recommend volunteering at your local homeless shelter or with one of the local homeless charities that gets out about on the streets. I've done it a couple of times and it's a very humbling experience, great camaraderie with everyone involved also........
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Post by Huddysleftfoot on Dec 5, 2023 11:14:58 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. I've been an insomniac since my early teens, I survive off about 4 hours kip every night. You become numb to it, I've tried most things that are recommended with very little success. But if it's becoming an issue I would try and avoid caffeine/alcohol after 5/6 pm, get yourself someone decent blackout blinds for your bedroom if you haven't already got them, get some fresh air as close to bed time as you can (the times I sleep the best are when I go for a walk/run at 11 o clock at night) and try and keep a similar routine (shower, bed at 11, read a book/listen to a podcast for half an hr. etc) I think I'm a lost cause but if it's relatively new to you get into the good habits now fella before it's too late...... My sleeping habits are much the same to yours mate - not slept properly in years now....4/5 hours a night.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 5, 2023 12:47:46 GMT
I’ve just had some blood tests for under active thyroid because no sleep is ever enough. My general routine is bed at 10pm and up at 6am, that’s a long sleep but I am constantly tired throughout the day and only really come to life when Big Nige is on the telly😉. I’m kind of hoping it comes back positive so I can do something about it
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Post by tommycarlsberg on Dec 5, 2023 13:14:49 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. Yes mate I have for a long time now mainly due to worrying etc. What I have been doing is taking a Nytol one a night tablet and spraying lavender on my pillow. Certainly has worked for me to a certain extent mate. Maybe worth a go for you unless you've tried it already bud. Never touched a sleeping pill but I think it's getting to that point. Can you get them over the counter?
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Post by tommycarlsberg on Dec 5, 2023 13:19:35 GMT
Anyone else struggle with sleeping? I reckon the amount of times I’ve slept before midnight in the past 10 years is less than 100. I've been an insomniac since my early teens, I survive off about 4 hours kip every night. You become numb to it, I've tried most things that are recommended with very little success. But if it's becoming an issue I would try and avoid caffeine/alcohol after 5/6 pm, get yourself someone decent blackout blinds for your bedroom if you haven't already got them, get some fresh air as close to bed time as you can (the times I sleep the best are when I go for a walk/run at 11 o clock at night) and try and keep a similar routine (shower, bed at 11, read a book/listen to a podcast for half an hr. etc) I think I'm a lost cause but if it's relatively new to you get into the good habits now fella before it's too late...... Yes since my teens too really. I think I'm lucky to get any more than 5 during the week. I don't touch coffee or tea, the only caffeine I consume is a can of Diet Coke. I do run a lot and that tires me out but then once I'm in bed I just can't switch off. Booze is probably the big one for me. I had a couple of weeks off it in the summer and noticed a world of difference.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 5, 2023 13:25:32 GMT
Yes mate I have for a long time now mainly due to worrying etc. What I have been doing is taking a Nytol one a night tablet and spraying lavender on my pillow. Certainly has worked for me to a certain extent mate. Maybe worth a go for you unless you've tried it already bud. Never touched a sleeping pill but I think it's getting to that point. Can you get them over the counter? Yeah mate any supermarket sell them pretty much. They are a herbal tablet mate made from valerian root extract so there's nothing bad in there. Worth a go for you mate maybe and the lavender pillow mist is decent. I still wake up in the morning worrying alot as it doesn't stop that but it does help me get a decent sleep to be fair. Edit. I also find not going on my phone, drinking coffee etc at least an hour before bed helps but everyone is different I guess mate.
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Post by cobhamstokey on Dec 5, 2023 22:08:48 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Sorry to hear it’s been a very tough year mate. You know you can always come on here mate. Thoughts are with you for Friday.
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Post by Huddysleftfoot on Dec 5, 2023 22:16:28 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Sorry to hear it’s been a very tough year mate. You know you can always come on here mate. Thoughts are with you for Friday. Cheers mucka...means a lot.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 5, 2023 22:37:20 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Sorry to hear it’s been a very tough year mate. You know you can always come on here mate. Thoughts are with you for Friday. Absolutely Cobs and well said. We are all Stokies and we have more in common with our Oatcake foes than we think sometimes. Huddy and I share an unhealthy obsession with rock gods Thin Lizzy but I’d never disclose that on here as I’m sure he wouldn’t!
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Dec 6, 2023 1:07:11 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Sorry to hear mate but good on you for fighting through it. It can be an insanely tough time of year. I ended things with a girl I'd been seeing for a few months this morning. I suppose she held the gun by phoning me up and raising her doubts and I pulled the trigger. I had expectations of a first Christmas together but turns out the chemistry just wasn't there. We both knew it but you know when you just try desperately to keep something going even though you can feel it slipping away? So frustrating because the first few weeks were so good and I fancied the shit out of her when we first met. Then out of nowhere it was like anxiety on both sides kicked in and it was all over in the blink of an eye. Dating and relationships can be so confusing and brutal. 💔 Roll on 28th and I'm out of here to Indonesia. I love solo travel but on this occassion I was hoping it wouldn't be alone but as Di Caprio says in The Beach, "as for travelling alone, fuck it - if thats the way it has to be, then that's the way it is". 🫶 Hope you're all keeping well and staying strong during these winter months x
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Post by cobhamstokey on Dec 6, 2023 6:49:13 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Sorry to hear mate but good on you for fighting through it. It can be an insanely tough time of year. I ended things with a girl I'd been seeing for a few months this morning. I suppose she held the gun by phoning me up and raising her doubts and I pulled the trigger. I had expectations of a first Christmas together but turns out the chemistry just wasn't there. We both knew it but you know when you just try desperately to keep something going even though you can feel it slipping away? So frustrating because the first few weeks were so good and I fancied the shit out of her when we first met. Then out of nowhere it was like anxiety on both sides kicked in and it was all over in the blink of an eye. Dating and relationships can be so confusing and brutal. 💔 Roll on 28th and I'm out of here to Indonesia. I love solo travel but on this occassion I was hoping it wouldn't be alone but as Di Caprio says in The Beach, "as for travelling alone, fuck it - if thats the way it has to be, then that's the way it is". 🫶 Hope you're all keeping well and staying strong during these winter months x You too mate and enjoy Indonesia. For what it’s worth you’ve done the right thing. It can hurt like hell when it happens but you know when it’s not right. Onwards and upwards to you. There’s nothing better for MH than a good break and time to spoil yourself.
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Dec 6, 2023 9:01:01 GMT
Sorry to hear mate but good on you for fighting through it. It can be an insanely tough time of year. I ended things with a girl I'd been seeing for a few months this morning. I suppose she held the gun by phoning me up and raising her doubts and I pulled the trigger. I had expectations of a first Christmas together but turns out the chemistry just wasn't there. We both knew it but you know when you just try desperately to keep something going even though you can feel it slipping away? So frustrating because the first few weeks were so good and I fancied the shit out of her when we first met. Then out of nowhere it was like anxiety on both sides kicked in and it was all over in the blink of an eye. Dating and relationships can be so confusing and brutal. 💔 Roll on 28th and I'm out of here to Indonesia. I love solo travel but on this occassion I was hoping it wouldn't be alone but as Di Caprio says in The Beach, "as for travelling alone, fuck it - if thats the way it has to be, then that's the way it is". 🫶 Hope you're all keeping well and staying strong during these winter months x You too mate and enjoy Indonesia. For what it’s worth you’ve done the right thing. It can hurt like hell when it happens but you know when it’s not right. Onwards and upwards to you. There’s nothing better for MH than a good break and time to spoil yourself. Cheers mate appreciate it 😊
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 6, 2023 12:52:57 GMT
I’ve just had some blood tests for under active thyroid because no sleep is ever enough. My general routine is bed at 10pm and up at 6am, that’s a long sleep but I am constantly tired throughout the day and only really come to life when Big Nige is on the telly😉. I’m kind of hoping it comes back positive so I can do something about it Hope you get it sorted mate 👍 you've done the first step going for the tests mate so all the best with the results.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 6, 2023 12:55:51 GMT
Sorry to hear it’s been a very tough year mate. You know you can always come on here mate. Thoughts are with you for Friday. Absolutely Cobs and well said. We are all Stokies and we have more in common with our Oatcake foes than we think sometimes. Huddy and I share an unhealthy obsession with rock gods Thin Lizzy but I’d never disclose that on here as I’m sure he wouldn’t! I'll third that Huddy. Although alot of people on here may argue over silly things half the time we are all Stokies at heart and we are all there for each other when things are tough as I have found out for the better.
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Post by foster on Dec 6, 2023 15:55:25 GMT
Absolutely Cobs and well said. We are all Stokies and we have more in common with our Oatcake foes than we think sometimes. Huddy and I share an unhealthy obsession with rock gods Thin Lizzy but I’d never disclose that on here as I’m sure he wouldn’t! I'll third that Huddy. Although alot of people on here may argue over silly things half the time we are all Stokies at heart and we are all there for each other when things are tough as I have found out for the better. It's badge, but i can see why you'd mix the two of them up since they're so similar. 😀 All the best to those that have posted recently.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Dec 6, 2023 15:57:45 GMT
I’ve just had some blood tests for under active thyroid because no sleep is ever enough. My general routine is bed at 10pm and up at 6am, that’s a long sleep but I am constantly tired throughout the day and only really come to life when Big Nige is on the telly😉. I’m kind of hoping it comes back positive so I can do something about it I thought badgers were nocturnal?
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 6, 2023 15:58:49 GMT
I’ve just had some blood tests for under active thyroid because no sleep is ever enough. My general routine is bed at 10pm and up at 6am, that’s a long sleep but I am constantly tired throughout the day and only really come to life when Big Nige is on the telly😉. I’m kind of hoping it comes back positive so I can do something about it I thought badgers were nocturnal? I’ve been rumbled👀
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Post by cobhamstokey on Dec 6, 2023 17:24:00 GMT
I thought badgers were nocturnal? I’ve been rumbled👀 It’s a special skill having a sense of humour and when you don’t take yourself too seriously. Respect mate
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 6, 2023 19:03:17 GMT
I'll third that Huddy. Although alot of people on here may argue over silly things half the time we are all Stokies at heart and we are all there for each other when things are tough as I have found out for the better. It's badge, but i can see why you'd mix the two of them up since they're so similar. 😀 All the best to those that have posted recently. I know mate it looked as though I was calling Badge Huddy but I was thirding the support for huddy from badge and cobs if that makes sense 😅 Agree with that mate though all the best to everyone I say.
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Post by Orbs on Dec 6, 2023 20:18:39 GMT
Don't think I've posted on here before but I've certainly read it on a regular basis. My "black dog" comes and goes and I manage it without meds which I ditched some years ago. It's been a tough year with 9 funerals (family and friends) and I have to attend the funeral of a good friend on Friday- hopefully this will bring a form of closure for me. I will be on my own Christmas Day (my choice), anyone else in the same boat or just fancies a natter, I'll be around. (Sarah Millican the comic does similar on Twitter on Christmas Day). The most important thing is to realise you're not alone. Sorry to hear mate but good on you for fighting through it. It can be an insanely tough time of year. I ended things with a girl I'd been seeing for a few months this morning. I suppose she held the gun by phoning me up and raising her doubts and I pulled the trigger. I had expectations of a first Christmas together but turns out the chemistry just wasn't there. We both knew it but you know when you just try desperately to keep something going even though you can feel it slipping away? So frustrating because the first few weeks were so good and I fancied the shit out of her when we first met. Then out of nowhere it was like anxiety on both sides kicked in and it was all over in the blink of an eye. Dating and relationships can be so confusing and brutal. 💔 Roll on 28th and I'm out of here to Indonesia. I love solo travel but on this occassion I was hoping it wouldn't be alone but as Di Caprio says in The Beach, "as for travelling alone, fuck it - if thats the way it has to be, then that's the way it is". 🫶 Hope you're all keeping well and staying strong during these winter months x Check the Adams Apple before agreeing to anything.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Dec 6, 2023 21:48:31 GMT
Sorry to hear mate but good on you for fighting through it. It can be an insanely tough time of year. I ended things with a girl I'd been seeing for a few months this morning. I suppose she held the gun by phoning me up and raising her doubts and I pulled the trigger. I had expectations of a first Christmas together but turns out the chemistry just wasn't there. We both knew it but you know when you just try desperately to keep something going even though you can feel it slipping away? So frustrating because the first few weeks were so good and I fancied the shit out of her when we first met. Then out of nowhere it was like anxiety on both sides kicked in and it was all over in the blink of an eye. Dating and relationships can be so confusing and brutal. 💔 Roll on 28th and I'm out of here to Indonesia. I love solo travel but on this occassion I was hoping it wouldn't be alone but as Di Caprio says in The Beach, "as for travelling alone, fuck it - if thats the way it has to be, then that's the way it is". 🫶 Hope you're all keeping well and staying strong during these winter months x Check the Adams Apple before agreeing to anything. The voice of experience? You sound haunted.
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Post by Orbs on Dec 6, 2023 22:36:31 GMT
Check the Adams Apple before agreeing to anything. The voice of experience? You sound haunted. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it big dawg.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 6, 2023 22:44:26 GMT
The voice of experience? You sound haunted. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it big dawg. He’s just jealous
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Post by alsagerstokie on Dec 8, 2023 20:06:36 GMT
I did something this week i have not done for a long time and it took me a few attempts of conversation before i did it.
Ive been having just general quick conversations with a lovely girl at work. Yesterday i finally decided to ask if she would like to go out for a meal sometime to get to know each other a bit more.
I was left a bit 50 -50 on how that went. She said Yes but after Christmas. At Least it wasn't a no.
Big thing for me doing that because i have no confidence in that sort of thing.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 8, 2023 20:08:30 GMT
I did something this week i have not done for a long time and it took me a few attempts of conversation before i did it. Ive been having just general quick conversations with a lovely girl at work. Yesterday i finally decided to ask if she would like to go out for a meal sometime to get to know each other a bit more. I was left a bit 50 -50 on how that went. She said Yes but after Christmas. At Least it wasn't a no. Big thing for me doing that because i have no confidence in that sort of thing. Goaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrn Alsager! How long have you known her?
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Post by Orbs on Dec 8, 2023 21:37:03 GMT
I did something this week i have not done for a long time and it took me a few attempts of conversation before i did it. Ive been having just general quick conversations with a lovely girl at work. Yesterday i finally decided to ask if she would like to go out for a meal sometime to get to know each other a bit more. I was left a bit 50 -50 on how that went. She said Yes but after Christmas. At Least it wasn't a no. Big thing for me doing that because i have no confidence in that sort of thing. I’ll have £2 on a wet widge by January 6. Brown wings on Valentines Day?
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Post by alsagerstokie on Dec 8, 2023 21:44:44 GMT
I did something this week i have not done for a long time and it took me a few attempts of conversation before i did it. Ive been having just general quick conversations with a lovely girl at work. Yesterday i finally decided to ask if she would like to go out for a meal sometime to get to know each other a bit more. I was left a bit 50 -50 on how that went. She said Yes but after Christmas. At Least it wasn't a no. Big thing for me doing that because i have no confidence in that sort of thing. Goaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrn Alsager! How long have you known her? She joined our place a few months ago and we have recently just started talking to each other a bit more. She Works down stairs as a Health Care Assistant and i work upstairs. She seems really interesting. She came over from Ukraine. I just hope something nice comes of the situation.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 8, 2023 21:54:23 GMT
Goaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrn Alsager! How long have you known her? She joined our place a few months ago and we have recently just started talking to each other a bit more. She Works down stairs as a Health Care Assistant and i work upstairs. She seems really interesting. She came over from Ukraine. I just hope something nice comes of the situation. The very best of luck mate. If you don’t buy a ticket and all that.
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Post by metalhead on Dec 8, 2023 22:20:14 GMT
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Post by cobhamstokey on Dec 9, 2023 7:38:39 GMT
Goaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrn Alsager! How long have you known her? She joined our place a few months ago and we have recently just started talking to each other a bit more. She Works down stairs as a Health Care Assistant and i work upstairs. She seems really interesting. She came over from Ukraine. I just hope something nice comes of the situation. Good luck mate. It’s hard sometimes plucking up the courage (less so when you’re older as you don’t give a sh*t about them being told they’ve got a partner or they’re not so keen) but if there’s one thing I’ve learnt over the years if you don’t ask the question you’ll regret it. If I’d listened to my advice now back in the day I think my younger years would have been happier more successful ones. Rejection can be tough but having a “yes” can be life changing
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