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Post by Pedropotter on Mar 10, 2024 21:14:22 GMT
Pretty good mate was thinking this morning although it’s still chilly we are getting more sun and the days are longer. Spring is around the corner. My spirits are being steadily lifted. How are you? Hope you’re doing well? I’m good thanks 👍. Got myself a new motorcycle and I’m already feeling the benefit - I find riding does wonders for my mental health. Like others, longer days and milder weather is doing me the world of good too. 😊
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Mar 10, 2024 21:23:12 GMT
Pretty good mate was thinking this morning although it’s still chilly we are getting more sun and the days are longer. Spring is around the corner. My spirits are being steadily lifted. How are you? Hope you’re doing well? I’m good thanks 👍. Got myself a new motorcycle and I’m already feeling the benefit - I find riding does wonders for my mental health. Like others, longer days and milder weather is doing me the world of good too. 😊 Brill mate, you be careful on that thing and take it easy
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Post by felonious on Mar 11, 2024 7:20:57 GMT
I’m good thanks 👍. Got myself a new motorcycle and I’m already feeling the benefit - I find riding does wonders for my mental health. Like others, longer days and milder weather is doing me the world of good too. 😊 Brill mate, you be careful on that thing and take it easy As in Easy Rider
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Post by Orbs on Mar 14, 2024 22:37:07 GMT
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Mar 16, 2024 8:44:44 GMT
First game today for almost two years everyone. It's going to mean the world walking down to the ground with my lad and old man. Just a massive thankyou to everyone on here for the support I've had. Sounds daft but at times the humour and support on here has got me through some tough days so thanks again Oatcakers you're a right good bunch.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Mar 16, 2024 12:07:00 GMT
First game today for almost two years everyone. It's going to mean the world walking down to the ground with my lad and old man. Just a massive thankyou to everyone on here for the support I've had. Sounds daft but at times the humour and support on here has got me through some tough days so thanks again Oatcakers you're a right good bunch. Have a great day, I'll add another 3 to my guess the attendance effort!.😄👍
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Post by mickeythemaestro on Mar 16, 2024 12:15:43 GMT
First game today for almost two years everyone. It's going to mean the world walking down to the ground with my lad and old man. Just a massive thankyou to everyone on here for the support I've had. Sounds daft but at times the humour and support on here has got me through some tough days so thanks again Oatcakers you're a right good bunch. Have a great day, I'll add another 3 to my guess the attendance effort!.😄👍 Take me off as I've got to go to a 50th birthday party in bleedin Preston of all places. Goooaaaarn Stoke 👍 A win today will be absolutely massive and I'll be gutted to miss it..
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Post by felonious on Mar 16, 2024 21:24:50 GMT
Have a great day, I'll add another 3 to my guess the attendance effort!.😄👍 Take me off as I've got to go to a 50th birthday party in bleedin Preston of all places. Goooaaaarn Stoke 👍 A win today will be absolutely massive and I'll be gutted to miss it.. Lucky bastard
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Post by cobhamstokey on Mar 17, 2024 8:12:15 GMT
First game today for almost two years everyone. It's going to mean the world walking down to the ground with my lad and old man. Just a massive thankyou to everyone on here for the support I've had. Sounds daft but at times the humour and support on here has got me through some tough days so thanks again Oatcakers you're a right good bunch. Chuffed for you mate. It’s great to read such a positive post. Shame the result wasn’t that positive but there’s more important things in life than footy.
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Post by cobhamstokey on Mar 17, 2024 8:18:22 GMT
I think I had my first ever panic attack earlier. Stayed over in Liverpool with the missus and had a great night, then it came to getting the train back. Was supposed to go to Crewe but everything was cancelled. That meant everyone piling on to a train to Manchester, and being cramped and me sitting on my bag. Anyway, the train left Liverpool and I immediately just felt stuck, weird and not in control. We'd had a few drinks last night and was perhaps a bit hungover but it wasn't that sort of feeling. Had to tell the bride we were getting off at Warrington because there's no way I was making Manchester. Had a 1.5 mile walk to an Asda to try and feel better which sort of worked but I've not felt right all day. Got an Uber back from Warrington to Crewe which was still a struggle and I was trying to concentrate on just getting back. Had all sorts of things off the other half to try and take the edge off and the diazepam I had when we got back finally seems to have sorted me out. Hadn’t been on this brilliant thread for a while so having a bit of a catchup. How are you feeling now Gary? I had a panic attack in Germany about 30 years ago and never had one since. Hopefully you’ll have the same experience. I still to this day can’t understand why it happened.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Mar 17, 2024 10:28:55 GMT
First game today for almost two years everyone. It's going to mean the world walking down to the ground with my lad and old man. Just a massive thankyou to everyone on here for the support I've had. Sounds daft but at times the humour and support on here has got me through some tough days so thanks again Oatcakers you're a right good bunch. Chuffed for you mate. It’s great to read such a positive post. Shame the result wasn’t that positive but there’s more important things in life than footy. Thankyou mate. I did worry that I had been an unlucky charm but my lad quickly reminded me that we are normally rubbish 😂
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Post by iancransonsknees on Mar 17, 2024 17:25:41 GMT
Chuffed for you mate. It’s great to read such a positive post. Shame the result wasn’t that positive but there’s more important things in life than footy. Thankyou mate. I did worry that I had been an unlucky charm but my lad quickly reminded me that we are normally rubbish 😂 I'm not surprised to see you back on this thread after that shower of shite yesterday. I'm afraid there's nothing anyone can do about it, you'll just have to suffer that like the rest of us.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Mar 17, 2024 18:30:08 GMT
Thankyou mate. I did worry that I had been an unlucky charm but my lad quickly reminded me that we are normally rubbish 😂 I'm not surprised to see you back on this thread after that shower of shite yesterday. I'm afraid there's nothing anyone can do about it, you'll just have to suffer that like the rest of us. Was a good day mate. The football was shite but you sort of expect that.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Mar 17, 2024 18:35:49 GMT
I'm not surprised to see you back on this thread after that shower of shite yesterday. I'm afraid there's nothing anyone can do about it, you'll just have to suffer that like the rest of us. Was a good day mate. The football was shite but you sort of expect that. So pleased for you mate after such a terrible time that you were able to go to the game again with the people you love. Shame them pricks didn’t show your heart, determination and willingness to succeed. Onwards and upwards
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Mar 17, 2024 18:42:50 GMT
Was a good day mate. The football was shite but you sort of expect that. So pleased for you mate after such a terrible time that you were able to go to the game again with the people you love. Shame them pricks didn’t show your heart, determination and willingness to succeed. Onwards and upwards Cheers Badge mate. Still think we'll be ok just about but it's going to be close.
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Post by dirtygary69 on Mar 17, 2024 19:40:45 GMT
I think I had my first ever panic attack earlier. Stayed over in Liverpool with the missus and had a great night, then it came to getting the train back. Was supposed to go to Crewe but everything was cancelled. That meant everyone piling on to a train to Manchester, and being cramped and me sitting on my bag. Anyway, the train left Liverpool and I immediately just felt stuck, weird and not in control. We'd had a few drinks last night and was perhaps a bit hungover but it wasn't that sort of feeling. Had to tell the bride we were getting off at Warrington because there's no way I was making Manchester. Had a 1.5 mile walk to an Asda to try and feel better which sort of worked but I've not felt right all day. Got an Uber back from Warrington to Crewe which was still a struggle and I was trying to concentrate on just getting back. Had all sorts of things off the other half to try and take the edge off and the diazepam I had when we got back finally seems to have sorted me out. Hadn’t been on this brilliant thread for a while so having a bit of a catchup. How are you feeling now Gary? I had a panic attack in Germany about 30 years ago and never had one since. Hopefully you’ll have the same experience. I still to this day can’t understand why it happened. I've been fine mate, yes. Avoided getting the train to Preston last week and drove instead just in case. Hopefully just a freak one off.
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Post by jimigoodwinsbeard on Mar 21, 2024 10:41:52 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do
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Post by flea79 on Mar 21, 2024 11:53:06 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do no need to be sorry about posting 1. make sure your ok, take help yourself, its hard dealing with family and friends with addiction issues 2. i believe that your wifes employer will have some form of company wellbeing (especially if NHS) she might well be placed on a leave of absence while she gets the help she needs, a useful number is drinkline 0300 123 1110 they offer support and guidance to drinkers and those worried about them i have dealt with family with crippling addiction issues, they have to be ready to take the help, often they are not and you feel like your pissing in the wind trying to get them to change
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Post by knype on Mar 21, 2024 13:44:39 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do no need to be sorry about posting 1. make sure your ok, take help yourself, its hard dealing with family and friends with addiction issues 2. i believe that your wifes employer will have some form of company wellbeing (especially if NHS) she might well be placed on a leave of absence while she gets the help she needs, a useful number is drinkline 0300 123 1110 they offer support and guidance to drinkers and those worried about them i have dealt with family with crippling addiction issues, they have to be ready to take the help, often they are not and you feel like your pissing in the wind trying to get them to change Totally agree with all of the above, I am sure that if your wife seeks help at work then they have a duty to stick by and support her in whatever way she needs especially around addictions. I am pretty certain that they cannot just sack her! She is more likely to get the sack going into work "under the influence " of alcohol. As for yourself, you have just got to support her the best you can and also look after your own mental state and stay strong for her!
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Post by felonious on Mar 21, 2024 19:02:02 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do If you Google NHS Staff with alcohol problems there is an informative pdf information sheet from the Great Western Hospital. So sorry to hear of your problems I really hope that you can persuade her to get the help she deserves it is out there. Edit: another thought is it worth you speaking to her union on an anonymous basis to get their opinion with a view to perhaps going through the union if she feels able.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Mar 22, 2024 21:27:47 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do Sorry to read about the situation jim but there is a way out that doesn't involve AA etc..because I did it but the one crucial factor was timing, by this I mean being in the right place physically and mentally. Fighting the DT's is critical and uncomfortable so I had to hand an alternative thing to drink (in quantities) and kept telling myself that I didn't want a'drink' but was just thirsty instead. I wasn't sure I could do it but internal mental battle is one you have to win. Once you accept you're never going to touch alcohol ever again then it's possible to focus but you have to fully commit. Distractions are useful during the first 24 hours but don't stray far from the substitute soft drink, I chose diet lemonade (for the fizz). Pick a weekend or 2 days back to back where you don't have other commitments to get in the way, as old hat as it may sound when 1 day turns into 2 you want it to become 3 and self congratulation is vital as it turns into 4, and so on. It's a fight don't get me wrong and you are continually fighting battles but gradually alcohol becomes less important. I'll mention this bit as an add on but the ongoing motivation for me is I don't want another cardiac arrest, 20 minutes cpr in the road, twice zapped to get my heart back to normal and nine days in an induced coma in intensive care. By all rights I should be dead so alcohol can do one, never to return. Essentially though it's not one size fits all in the giving up department but it 'has' to come from inside and requires commitment. Been a good few years now which I wouldn't otherwise have had so no going back, I genuinely hope you can make progress from where you are at the moment.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Mar 22, 2024 21:34:49 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do Sorry to read about the situation jim but there is a way out that doesn't involve AA etc..because I did it but the one crucial factor was timing, by this I mean being in the right place physically and mentally. Fighting the DT's is critical and uncomfortable so I had to hand an alternative thing to drink (in quantities) and kept telling myself that I didn't want a'drink' but was just thirsty instead. I wasn't sure I could do it but internal mental battle is one you have to win. Once you accept you're never going to touch alcohol ever again then it's possible to focus but you have to fully commit. Distractions are useful during the first 24 hours but don't stray far from the substitute soft drink, I chose diet lemonade (for the fizz). Pick a weekend or 2 days back to back where you don't have other commitments to get in the way, as old hat as it may sound when 1 day turns into 2 you want it to become 3 and self congratulation is vital as it turns into 4, and so on. It's a fight don't get me wrong and you are continually fighting battles but gradually alcohol becomes less important. I'll mention this bit as an add on but the ongoing motivation for me is I don't want another cardiac arrest, 20 minutes cpr in the road, twice zapped to get my heart back to normal and nine days in an induced coma in intensive care. By all rights I should be dead so alcohol can do one, never to return. Essentially though it's not one size fits all in the giving up department but it 'has' to come from inside and requires commitment. Been a good few years now which I wouldn't otherwise have had so no going back, I genuinely hope you can make progress from where you are at the moment. What a fantastic post Chuffed. Takes real guts to write that. I have “trouble” with booze. In that I drink far too much. I’m not crazy and no my limits but the trouble is my limits are way higher than my peers (nothing to be proud of and I wish it wasn’t the case). I don’t particularly suffer with hangovers which makes it even harder for me to reduce or quit but the health aspect is seriously dawning on me and I need to take action for myself and my loved ones. Your post has truly given me food for thought so thank you.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Mar 22, 2024 22:04:51 GMT
Sorry to read about the situation jim but there is a way out that doesn't involve AA etc..because I did it but the one crucial factor was timing, by this I mean being in the right place physically and mentally. Fighting the DT's is critical and uncomfortable so I had to hand an alternative thing to drink (in quantities) and kept telling myself that I didn't want a'drink' but was just thirsty instead. I wasn't sure I could do it but internal mental battle is one you have to win. Once you accept you're never going to touch alcohol ever again then it's possible to focus but you have to fully commit. Distractions are useful during the first 24 hours but don't stray far from the substitute soft drink, I chose diet lemonade (for the fizz). Pick a weekend or 2 days back to back where you don't have other commitments to get in the way, as old hat as it may sound when 1 day turns into 2 you want it to become 3 and self congratulation is vital as it turns into 4, and so on. It's a fight don't get me wrong and you are continually fighting battles but gradually alcohol becomes less important. I'll mention this bit as an add on but the ongoing motivation for me is I don't want another cardiac arrest, 20 minutes cpr in the road, twice zapped to get my heart back to normal and nine days in an induced coma in intensive care. By all rights I should be dead so alcohol can do one, never to return. Essentially though it's not one size fits all in the giving up department but it 'has' to come from inside and requires commitment. Been a good few years now which I wouldn't otherwise have had so no going back, I genuinely hope you can make progress from where you are at the moment. What a fantastic post Chuffed. Takes real guts to write that. I have “trouble” with booze. In that I drink far too much. I’m not crazy and no my limits but the trouble is my limits are way higher than my peers (nothing to be proud of and I wish it wasn’t the case). I don’t particularly suffer with hangovers which makes it even harder for me to reduce or quit but the health aspect is seriously dawning on me and I need to take action for myself and my loved ones. Your post has truly given me food for thought so thank you. When I came to in hospital I wondered why my chest hurt every time I breathed, that'll be the broken ribs caused by the chest compressions, I was so lucky that night. Problem was that I'd given up prior to that incident for quite a while but convinced myself that "it's only one, what could possibly go wrong". Rest is history.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Mar 22, 2024 22:06:53 GMT
What a fantastic post Chuffed. Takes real guts to write that. I have “trouble” with booze. In that I drink far too much. I’m not crazy and no my limits but the trouble is my limits are way higher than my peers (nothing to be proud of and I wish it wasn’t the case). I don’t particularly suffer with hangovers which makes it even harder for me to reduce or quit but the health aspect is seriously dawning on me and I need to take action for myself and my loved ones. Your post has truly given me food for thought so thank you. When I came to in hospital I wondered why my chest hurt every time I breathed, that'll be the broken ribs caused by the chest compressions, I was so lucky that night. Problem was that I'd given up prior to that incident for quite a while but convinced myself that "it's only one, what could possibly go wrong". Rest is history. Karma mate, you were never meant to leave the world that night
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Post by chuffedstokie on Mar 23, 2024 5:33:09 GMT
One thought about AA and why it's a waste of time, full of alcoholics and drunks, well the one in Congleton was!.🤔😄
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Post by Pedropotter on Mar 23, 2024 7:14:48 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do Hi mate. You are posting in the right place. There are some great folk on here as you have seen, offering great advice. Look after yourself mate. You need to be in a good place to help your Mrs move forward. Keep us updated. You are not on your own…
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Post by chuffedstokie on Mar 23, 2024 9:54:56 GMT
Sorry to read about the situation jim but there is a way out that doesn't involve AA etc..because I did it but the one crucial factor was timing, by this I mean being in the right place physically and mentally. Fighting the DT's is critical and uncomfortable so I had to hand an alternative thing to drink (in quantities) and kept telling myself that I didn't want a'drink' but was just thirsty instead. I wasn't sure I could do it but internal mental battle is one you have to win. Once you accept you're never going to touch alcohol ever again then it's possible to focus but you have to fully commit. Distractions are useful during the first 24 hours but don't stray far from the substitute soft drink, I chose diet lemonade (for the fizz). Pick a weekend or 2 days back to back where you don't have other commitments to get in the way, as old hat as it may sound when 1 day turns into 2 you want it to become 3 and self congratulation is vital as it turns into 4, and so on. It's a fight don't get me wrong and you are continually fighting battles but gradually alcohol becomes less important. I'll mention this bit as an add on but the ongoing motivation for me is I don't want another cardiac arrest, 20 minutes cpr in the road, twice zapped to get my heart back to normal and nine days in an induced coma in intensive care. By all rights I should be dead so alcohol can do one, never to return. Essentially though it's not one size fits all in the giving up department but it 'has' to come from inside and requires commitment. Been a good few years now which I wouldn't otherwise have had so no going back, I genuinely hope you can make progress from where you are at the moment. What a fantastic post Chuffed. Takes real guts to write that. I have “trouble” with booze. In that I drink far too much. I’m not crazy and no my limits but the trouble is my limits are way higher than my peers (nothing to be proud of and I wish it wasn’t the case). I don’t particularly suffer with hangovers which makes it even harder for me to reduce or quit but the health aspect is seriously dawning on me and I need to take action for myself and my loved ones. Your post has truly given me food for thought so thank you. If pushed on the subject I honestly couldn't say or point to a moment in time that my 'average' consumption turned into an all consuming addiction it just sort of happened, then by the time it's transparent to yourself (and everyone else) it's too late. You'll deny it constantly by which time you know action is necessary. I actually worked for a brewery and two wine and spirits companies as a rep and it wasn't a problem then, nasty creeping problem. Do miss my wine but I'm still alive.
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Post by Orbs on Mar 23, 2024 14:12:00 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do Some cracking advice on here as usual from some top lads (Apologies if a mis-gendered anyone there…) For what it’s worth I would say this is something you can’t deal with on your own. I’d be looking at getting her some professional help and then supporting her with whatever they suggest. Sounds like you’ve certainly taken the first steps though 👍🏽 good luck and keep us posting. Putting stuff on here will be helpful to you too as a kind of outlet.
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Post by gawa on Mar 23, 2024 17:41:51 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do First thing I'd do is get a sick line of work although maybe work is a good thing as it works as a distraction at the moment. It's just more once she quits and has the side affects from quitting that I'd be concerned if trying to manage work and quitting an addiction may be too much to juggle. If the antidepressants haven't worked and she has a history of depression and anxiety through her GP then medication cannabis is 100% an avenue which can be explored. Usually incurs an appointment with a private gp in the field which costs around £150 and if she meets the criteria which she has a strong chance or. She can then get a subsidised prescription. Of course replacing one addiction with another potential one isn't to be recommended. But then again it isn't uncommon for doctors to treat addicts with other drugs and antidepressants are just as addictive as many other drugs. Better still is going down the whole fitness healthy living route but much easier said than done when in the grips of fighting an addiction. So just offering other less commonly known options. Point of reference - My partner while never am alcoholic had an alcohol problem where she could become physically and mentally abusive to myself. It wasn't a daily addiction or that I'd call her an alcoholic but when she did drink she didn't know her limits and became a horrible person. She also has a long history of anxiety and depression and I've witnessed an attempted suicide too from her around 7 years ago. Cannabis works for her and the last 5 years have been the most stable we've had.
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Post by foster on Mar 23, 2024 18:11:53 GMT
I am sorry if this is wrong thread - I am really struggling with my wife's alcohol problems and have no idea what to do. She wants to keep it to herself/try to sort on her own, shes not mentioned it to anyone at work *scared she'll get sacked as she is a nurse* She has suffered with depression throughout her life and lost her mum and best friend within 5mths of each other and she's got worse (there have been overlying issues with her previous husband controlling her and basically being an all-round shithouse). She has been to doctors for anti-depressants as she stopped using them over 2mths ago, but I found out last night that shes not even been taking the new anti-depressants as they are not to be taken with alcohol (she never mentioned her drinking to the GP). I am at my wits end, I have taken her to AA meeting about a year ago and she hated it, I have tried to get her to go to CDAS with no joy. I feel like contacting her work to try to get her help but shes terrified that they will just sack her. I dont know what to do First thing I'd do is get a sick line of work although maybe work is a good thing as it works as a distraction at the moment. It's just more once she quits and has the side affects from quitting that I'd be concerned if trying to manage work and quitting an addiction may be too much to juggle. If the antidepressants haven't worked and she has a history of depression and anxiety through her GP then medication cannabis is 100% an avenue which can be explored. Usually incurs an appointment with a private gp in the field which costs around £150 and if she meets the criteria which she has a strong chance or. She can then get a subsidised prescription. Of course replacing one addiction with another potential one isn't to be recommended. But then again it isn't uncommon for doctors to treat addicts with other drugs and antidepressants are just as addictive as many other drugs. Better still is going down the whole fitness healthy living route but much easier said than done when in the grips of fighting an addiction. So just offering other less commonly known options. Point of reference - My partner while never am alcoholic had an alcohol problem where she could become physically and mentally abusive to myself. It wasn't a daily addiction or that I'd call her an alcoholic but when she did drink she didn't know her limits and became a horrible person. She also has a long history of anxiety and depression and I've witnessed an attempted suicide too from her around 7 years ago. Cannabis works for her and the last 5 years have been the most stable we've had. My sister is what's known as a bad drunk. After a few drinks she's itching for a fight and will say some awful stuff out of the blue. That's easy to spot and pick up on. On the contrary I'm a happy drunk. Which is why I'm generally chirpy. I admit I do drink too frequently (daily) and hide the amount from my partner. I just can't see myself ever cutting out alcohol completly. If I dont get any alone time and go 2 or 3 days without a beer I tend to then binge. It doesn't matter what day of the week or what time it is. Indeed, 1 beer is never enough and not worth the time. I also have a history of alcoholism in my family. My gran and my mum. So I've seen all the ploys and have experienced all the repercussions. I know all the tricks alcoholics use to hide their consumption having witnessed them growing up. Im not stupid and I know it's bad for my health, and truth be told im feeling it now, but I still tend to ignore it. It's only afterwards that I think 'what am I doing'. It's affecting my sleep and my stomach quite a lot recently. Last couple of years I'd say I've gone OTT since my ex passed away from cancer and a lot of the time it's in secret. Drinking early and stopping just a few hours before my partner gets home, just to sober up a bit and not make it obvious. Anyway. Sharing is caring.
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