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Post by mickeythemaestro on Dec 25, 2023 10:03:55 GMT
It might well be Christmas Day & for a lot of people it just magnifies any issues that people have (me included) So its simple boys & girls The Oatcake is open 24/7, and if you read the thread regular then you know that no one here is ever alone & no one should ever think that no one is their for them. A DM is just a click away & a response will always come. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/800541/images/KYqg3pYeaerc5lD_P7BR.gif) We have a common love in red & white, but the one thing the Oatcake is good at is looking out for each other. Take care today people & you are never alone Caerwrangon (Jason) And hopefully Schumacher and the lads can send us a 3 point xmas pressie at Birmingham to help the festive cheer. Or at least a decent performance. Come on you potterssssssss 😊
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Dec 25, 2023 10:06:44 GMT
Merry Christmas guys🎅🎄. Whether you are alone, with your loved ones or with people you don't really like, have a lovely day 🤗🤗x
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Post by cdf on Dec 25, 2023 16:07:25 GMT
So it’s taken me a few days to comprehend things and I’m not even sure I should be posting it on here. But maybe it may help someone in a similar position should it occur. On Sunday morning I received a missed call off one of my best mates, he usually calls to basically take the piss out of me for 10 minutes before suggesting a pint at somewhere we haven’t been for about 20 years just to see what it’s like these days, it’s what we do. I was nursing a raging hangover so couldn’t be arsed to listen to it for a bit. Eventually I called him back, he was crying, I thought he was joking because I hadn’t answered the phone or something but he wasn’t. He informed me that one of our friends had been killed on Saturday evening after being hit by a car. What can I say, I was completely numb. Young guy, hilarious guy, life and soul just gone a couple of weeks before we were due for our annual Christmas Booze session. I didn’t sleep at all on Sunday night, going through WhatsApp chats, old photos and videos. Crying and laughing all night. We all had a group chat last night to talk about the great times we’ve had with our friend over the years. We will be going out over Christmas still in his honour. I’ve reached out to a few on here and they’ve been a great support and made me feel loads better and I wanted to thank those people. Onwards and upwards it’s ok to be not ok👍🏻 So sorry to hear about this Badger & apologies for not reacting sooner to it because i have been wallowing in my own self pity. Hope you managed to enjoy some of the day and even though we have never met, I'm always on hand if you want to reach out
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Dec 25, 2023 21:21:23 GMT
Merry Christmas to everyone on here! Thankyou again for all the support and laughs through out the year.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 26, 2023 2:58:41 GMT
So it’s taken me a few days to comprehend things and I’m not even sure I should be posting it on here. But maybe it may help someone in a similar position should it occur. On Sunday morning I received a missed call off one of my best mates, he usually calls to basically take the piss out of me for 10 minutes before suggesting a pint at somewhere we haven’t been for about 20 years just to see what it’s like these days, it’s what we do. I was nursing a raging hangover so couldn’t be arsed to listen to it for a bit. Eventually I called him back, he was crying, I thought he was joking because I hadn’t answered the phone or something but he wasn’t. He informed me that one of our friends had been killed on Saturday evening after being hit by a car. What can I say, I was completely numb. Young guy, hilarious guy, life and soul just gone a couple of weeks before we were due for our annual Christmas Booze session. I didn’t sleep at all on Sunday night, going through WhatsApp chats, old photos and videos. Crying and laughing all night. We all had a group chat last night to talk about the great times we’ve had with our friend over the years. We will be going out over Christmas still in his honour. I’ve reached out to a few on here and they’ve been a great support and made me feel loads better and I wanted to thank those people. Onwards and upwards it’s ok to be not ok👍🏻 So sorry to hear about this Badger & apologies for not reacting sooner to it because i have been wallowing in my own self pity. Hope you managed to enjoy some of the day and even though we have never met, I'm always on hand if you want to reach out Hey mate thank you for posting. Appreciate it. I hope you’ve had a good day
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Post by Los Alfareros on Dec 27, 2023 20:42:51 GMT
Hope I don’t regret posting this in the morning but here goes. I’ve always wanted to tell this story or at least write it down. I think that’s what’s a therapist is for, though we are from Stoke aren’t we lads and unfortunately mental health access isn’t what it should be. I’d always struggled with depression throughout my 20s. It’s hard being a lad from a council estate in Stoke and growing up in a middle class education. It led me to being life and soul of the party and drink and substance abuse. Covid really hit me hard but eventually I got back to London working in the industry I wanted to in January 2022. Anyway something wasn’t still right after that move back to the capital and I was hitting it hard. I attended a wedding in the April of 2022, the cousin of my best pal from school. His family had made me one of their own over the years. After getting absolutely shitfaced for two days I woke up the morning after in my hotel room ready to end it all. I got the iron from the hotel room and tried to fashion a noose but was fortunately stopped by my best pals little brother coming back from breakfast, who I was sharing a hotel room with. He didn’t see anything, I heard him coming. Funnily enough, his Gran said to me shortly after when saying goodbye, look after yourself, because I see the sadness in your eyes. It broke me. During this fixation on ending it I was listening to the song Seventeen Going Under by Sam Fender. The words had always resonated to me with a visceral effect I had never experienced from a song. A few months later I was at Glastonbury watching that song live with all my pals, and I broke down. I broke down privately to some random bird who was stood next to us. It reminded me I had survived. 18 months later, I’ve turned 30 years old recently. I’ve got my dream job at another place in London, I have fallen in and out of love again with a bird but still getting plenty of action for a youngish man. I’ve just listened to that song again and it hasn’t triggered me in any way, I have been free of suicidal thoughts for what feels a long time. I’m optimistic about the future and looking forward to seeing what life brings my way. Starting with Super Steve Schumacher getting us promoted. Thanks for reading. And Mr Badger, I’m sorry for your loss. Thanks for the oatcake for being a place where I could slightly anonymously post my story. My friend wrote in one of my birthday cards ‘the best is always still to come’. She said apparently I say that all the time, I never realised it. DMs always open. Ay up Tommy. Thanks for sharing mate, I know it helps because I did it many pages ago!! What can I say? I had the urges and still do some extent, I have the scars down my arms to remind me every day and feel ashamed at that. Get therapy if you can, my "angel" saved my life, a complete stranger but now the most important person in my life. And yes, I have said this many times on this thread, do not have a stigma against medication, I have been on meds for over 2 years in different degrees but it has worked miracles. You are not wierd, you are ill, so get the help you need and deserve. PM at any time and good luck. Oh,....and UTMP.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Dec 27, 2023 20:44:02 GMT
Hope I don’t regret posting this in the morning but here goes. I’ve always wanted to tell this story or at least write it down. I think that’s what’s a therapist is for, though we are from Stoke aren’t we lads and unfortunately mental health access isn’t what it should be. I’d always struggled with depression throughout my 20s. It’s hard being a lad from a council estate in Stoke and growing up in a middle class education. It led me to being life and soul of the party and drink and substance abuse. Covid really hit me hard but eventually I got back to London working in the industry I wanted to in January 2022. Anyway something wasn’t still right after that move back to the capital and I was hitting it hard. I attended a wedding in the April of 2022, the cousin of my best pal from school. His family had made me one of their own over the years. After getting absolutely shitfaced for two days I woke up the morning after in my hotel room ready to end it all. I got the iron from the hotel room and tried to fashion a noose but was fortunately stopped by my best pals little brother coming back from breakfast, who I was sharing a hotel room with. He didn’t see anything, I heard him coming. Funnily enough, his Gran said to me shortly after when saying goodbye, look after yourself, because I see the sadness in your eyes. It broke me. During this fixation on ending it I was listening to the song Seventeen Going Under by Sam Fender. The words had always resonated to me with a visceral effect I had never experienced from a song. A few months later I was at Glastonbury watching that song live with all my pals, and I broke down. I broke down privately to some random bird who was stood next to us. It reminded me I had survived. 18 months later, I’ve turned 30 years old recently. I’ve got my dream job at another place in London, I have fallen in and out of love again with a bird but still getting plenty of action for a youngish man. I’ve just listened to that song again and it hasn’t triggered me in any way, I have been free of suicidal thoughts for what feels a long time. I’m optimistic about the future and looking forward to seeing what life brings my way. Starting with Super Steve Schumacher getting us promoted. Thanks for reading. And Mr Badger, I’m sorry for your loss. Thanks for the oatcake for being a place where I could slightly anonymously post my story. My friend wrote in one of my birthday cards ‘the best is always still to come’. She said apparently I say that all the time, I never realised it. DMs always open. Ay up Tommy. Thanks for sharing mate, I know it helps because I did it many pages ago!! What can I say? I had the urges and still do some extent, I have the scars down my arms to remind me every day and feel ashamed at that. Get therapy if you can, my "angel" saved my life, a complete stranger but now the most important person in my life. And yes, I have said this many times on this thread, do not have a stigma against medication, I have been on meds for over 2 years in different degrees but it has worked miracles. You are not wierd, you are ill, so get the help you need and deserve. PM at any time and good luck. Oh,....and UTMP. Top man👍🏻
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Post by Orbs on Dec 30, 2023 23:22:41 GMT
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Post by iancransonsknees on Dec 31, 2023 11:08:03 GMT
I thought you might be offering to do it?
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Post by Orbs on Dec 31, 2023 15:12:33 GMT
I thought you might be offering to do it? DM me 👍🏽
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Post by salopstick on Dec 31, 2023 18:00:47 GMT
Hoping your 24s is not as shit as 23
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Post by chuffedstokie on Dec 31, 2023 20:58:54 GMT
Hoping your 24s is not as shit as 23 Hope so, lost too many close friends this year.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jan 1, 2024 0:23:54 GMT
Happy New Year to everybody who has contributed to this thread this year. It’s been inspirational, heart felt, brave, positive and just the best thread going. Good health all and remember it’s good to talk👍🏻 Up the Potters!
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Post by Huddysleftfoot on Jan 1, 2024 9:46:14 GMT
Happy New Year to all...here's wishing you better mental health and happiness.
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Post by Orbs on Jan 1, 2024 20:54:55 GMT
I see there was a mental health thread from Feb 2020 so feel free to merge but I think there may be different frequenters of the board ATM. There seems to be a lot of talk on here at the moment about mental health and how cutting down on alcohol, eating healthier and taking more exercise etc is helping folk cope - especially during the current C-19 'situation.' It was mentioned in another thread that people might be more comfortable discussing their particular circumstances anonymously on here rather than opening up to friends and family. It might be comforting to know that others are feeling the same way ATM, and also how others have overcome difficulties in the past. As the saying goes, 'It's OK not to be OK.' It also appears to be men who are notoriously bad at talking about this kind of stuff. I'd rather read about your difficulties on here than read/listen to your eulogy. Mental Heath FoundationSamaritansMacari CentreCALM - Campaign Against Living MiserablyMen Unite (Hanley Town)I'm currently feeling ok but of course I never know what's just around the corner. Tricky time these early January days. Have a beak at these links above if you’re struggling a bit. Loads of decent lads on here who would gladly accept a DM if times are tough. Please use them or post. It will help. It’s ok to not be ok. 👍🏽
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Post by Pedropotter on Jan 6, 2024 17:44:12 GMT
Some great posts on here over the festive period. Let’s keep going lads! How’s everyone getting on?
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jan 7, 2024 20:41:18 GMT
Some great posts on here over the festive period. Let’s keep going lads! How’s everyone getting on? Nice to hear from you Pedro. Me personally I’m having the usual yearly winter blues. Dark when I go to work, dark when I go home. Although it is getting lighter in the evenings now. I’m just so much happier once spring hits. It’s not the be all and end all of course but it does give me and many others a boost when you wake up and the sun is shining through the gap in the curtains. I hope you’re well mate👍🏻
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Post by foster on Jan 8, 2024 6:47:06 GMT
Some great posts on here over the festive period. Let’s keep going lads! How’s everyone getting on? Nice to hear from you Pedro. Me personally I’m having the usual yearly winter blues. Dark when I go to work, dark when I go home. Although it is getting lighter in the evenings now. I’m just so much happier once spring hits. It’s not the be all and end all of course but it does give me and many others a boost when you wake up and the sun is shining through the gap in the curtains. I hope you’re well mate👍🏻 Thanks for explaining how winter works works mate. These dark mornings and evening were confusing me 😀 Had enough of winter now as well. Gained a few kilos the past weeks. As you say, roll on Spring and some much needed motivation to get out and do some exercise.
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Post by alsagerstokie on Jan 8, 2024 13:00:01 GMT
Nice to hear from you Pedro. Me personally I’m having the usual yearly winter blues. Dark when I go to work, dark when I go home. Although it is getting lighter in the evenings now. I’m just so much happier once spring hits. It’s not the be all and end all of course but it does give me and many others a boost when you wake up and the sun is shining through the gap in the curtains. I hope you’re well mate👍🏻 Thanks for explaining how winter works works mate. These dark mornings and evening were confusing me 😀 Had enough of winter now as well. Gained a few kilos the past weeks. As you say, roll on Spring and some much needed motivation to get out and do some exercise. As most of you know what i do. I need decent light. Winter has just been Dull Dreary and Dark with lots of rain and even more overcast clouds. Winter needs to do one now. Hopefully lighter days nights and days actually seeing sunshine are not too far away.
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Post by cheadlepotter on Jan 8, 2024 13:56:42 GMT
Some great posts on here over the festive period. Let’s keep going lads! How’s everyone getting on? Like many I can’t wait for the lighter days and evenings, and for the leaves to grow. Still, you have to try and make the most of things, so I’ve got the window open with some lovely fresh air coming through. Really enjoying Football Manager as I do every time Santa gets it. How are you, Pedro?
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Post by danceswithclams on Jan 8, 2024 17:59:15 GMT
As most of you know what i do. I need decent light. Are you a sniper?
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Post by foster on Jan 8, 2024 18:26:07 GMT
As most of you know what i do. I need decent light. Are you a sniper? Got to be porn star or photographer surely.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jan 8, 2024 18:27:44 GMT
Got to be porn star or photographer surely. Could be a badger baiter like you
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Post by iancransonsknees on Jan 8, 2024 18:39:36 GMT
Got to be porn star or photographer surely. Could be a badger baiter like you Only the best are.
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Post by felonious on Jan 8, 2024 18:39:57 GMT
Got to be porn star or photographer surely. Needs to come up with a better stage name than Alsagerstokie
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Post by foster on Jan 8, 2024 18:44:36 GMT
Got to be porn star or photographer surely. Needs to come up with a better stage name than Alsagerstokie Ass-shagger-pokie maybe
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Post by alsagerstokie on Jan 9, 2024 18:45:21 GMT
As most of you know what i do. I need decent light. Are you a sniper? I am the pay is good but the work isn't regular enough. The only job I've had lately was a couple of months back when i was asked to take out a certain Hedgehog. As always tho client confidentiality is key.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jan 9, 2024 18:50:20 GMT
I am the pay is good but the work isn't regular enough. The only job I've had lately was a couple of months back when i was asked to take out a certain Hedgehog. As always tho client confidentiality is key. Excellent work
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Post by iancransonsknees on Jan 9, 2024 19:30:34 GMT
I am the pay is good but the work isn't regular enough. The only job I've had lately was a couple of months back when i was asked to take out a certain Hedgehog. As always tho client confidentiality is key. How much for a mustelid?
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Jan 9, 2024 19:33:19 GMT
I am the pay is good but the work isn't regular enough. The only job I've had lately was a couple of months back when i was asked to take out a certain Hedgehog. As always tho client confidentiality is key. How much for a mustelid? Way out of your league pal😉
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