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Post by pickins on Aug 15, 2014 9:18:18 GMT
Any first post split 'encounter' advice? Very strange occurrence this evening! Pray, tell us more I bumped into an ex, (she went off with somebody else when I was away, although we weren't married but engaged and living together) in Hanley on a weekend night, she had had a drink and said to me 'you can mess my lipstick up anytime you want' so I did there and then, smeared it across her face, it was great and to give her her due she said 'I deserved that' I was referring to post split encounters with women 'cough' other than the ex. Oooh err missus.
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Post by Northy on Aug 15, 2014 9:22:24 GMT
Pray, tell us more I bumped into an ex, (she went off with somebody else when I was away, although we weren't married but engaged and living together) in Hanley on a weekend night, she had had a drink and said to me 'you can mess my lipstick up anytime you want' so I did there and then, smeared it across her face, it was great and to give her her due she said 'I deserved that' I was referring to post split encounters with women 'cough' other than the ex. Oooh err missus. So what was your encounter? Her friend, sister, mum
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Post by pickins on Aug 15, 2014 9:26:40 GMT
Nah they weren't acquainted with the ex in any way.
Was quite surreal and I have to be honest, didn't enjoy what we got up to (which wasn't a great deal) that much.
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Post by harryburrows on Aug 15, 2014 10:23:04 GMT
Nah they weren't acquainted with the ex in any way. Was quite surreal and I have to be honest, didn't enjoy what we got up to (which wasn't a great deal) that much. no 3rd base then ?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2014 10:28:00 GMT
Never ever ever go back
(((((Shudders)))))
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Post by lastoftheldk on Aug 15, 2014 12:51:00 GMT
Pray, tell us more I bumped into an ex, (she went off with somebody else when I was away, although we weren't married but engaged and living together) in Hanley on a weekend night, she had had a drink and said to me 'you can mess my lipstick up anytime you want' so I did there and then, smeared it across her face, it was great and to give her her due she said 'I deserved that' I was referring to post split encounters with women 'cough' other than the ex. Oooh err missus. Depends on what got split
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Post by borat on Aug 15, 2014 13:34:51 GMT
I'm in a situation mesen, I've moved back in with me mum and I've got a little en with my missus and we are still together but we just can't seem to live together. I hate not seeing my son everyday though.
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Post by elystokie on Aug 15, 2014 16:56:13 GMT
Any first post split 'encounter' advice? Very strange occurrence this evening! Pray, tell us more :) I bumped into an ex, (she went off with somebody else when I was away, although we weren't married but engaged and living together) in Hanley on a weekend night, she had had a drink and said to me 'you can mess my lipstick up anytime you want' so I did there and then, smeared it across her face, it was great and to give her her due she said 'I deserved that' She wasn't called 'Ilda by any chance was she?
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Post by pickins on Aug 15, 2014 17:36:03 GMT
Nah they weren't acquainted with the ex in any way. Was quite surreal and I have to be honest, didn't enjoy what we got up to (which wasn't a great deal) that much. no 3rd base then ? Define third base?
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Post by harryburrows on Aug 15, 2014 18:14:53 GMT
it has been a while hasnt it
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Post by Billybigbollox on Aug 15, 2014 18:27:57 GMT
If you don't get tops and fingers she's a teaser and your wasting your time.If you take her for a ruby you should get the whole noggins, but for brown wings you might have to really spoil her with a slap up meal for two at the Harvester with babycham and or cider.
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Post by salopstick on Aug 15, 2014 18:59:14 GMT
If you don't get tops and fingers she's a teaser and your wasting your time.If you take her for a ruby you should get the whole noggins, but for brown wings you might have to really spoil her with a slap up meal for two at the Harvester with babycham and or cider. And panini stickers for her kids
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Post by harryburrows on Aug 15, 2014 19:37:05 GMT
If you don't get tops and fingers she's a teaser and your wasting your time.If you take her for a ruby you should get the whole noggins, but for brown wings you might have to really spoil her with a slap up meal for two at the Harvester with babycham and or cider. And panini stickers for her kids and a dose
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Post by pickins on Aug 15, 2014 19:37:36 GMT
Made it through third base in that case, ambled towards fourth at which point I tripped over the bat.
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Post by Northy on Aug 16, 2014 5:44:54 GMT
Pray, tell us more I bumped into an ex, (she went off with somebody else when I was away, although we weren't married but engaged and living together) in Hanley on a weekend night, she had had a drink and said to me 'you can mess my lipstick up anytime you want' so I did there and then, smeared it across her face, it was great and to give her her due she said 'I deserved that' She wasn't called 'Ilda by any chance was she? nothing above a size 12 was always my limit
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Post by harryburrows on Aug 16, 2014 5:53:27 GMT
She wasn't called 'Ilda by any chance was she? nothing above a size 12 was always my limit mine too ,except danger time on a sat night [ 15 mins before closing time ] at that point i wasnt so choosy ,
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Post by Etain Tur-Mukan on Aug 30, 2014 9:23:31 GMT
Will the pain ever go away? The woman i loved (still do love even after harsh words near the end) decided we didn't share the same long term goals last week and brought an end to our relationship She just didn't believe that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, despite me saying and showing her so many times that i did. I know i've said things incorrectly to make her feel like this and not done various things properly or else she wouldn't have thought this, but what relationship goes perfectly well all of the time? I only ever wanted to make her happy and for it to be us forever. I told her i wanted what she wanted, that i'd do anything to show and to prove to her that was the case and that surely a wrong perception on how she thought I felt shouldn't end SO MUCH good, because 99% of the time we were SO good! We were living together and she said she didn't want me to leave that morning, my heart leapt, I asked her if there could still be an us if i stayed, that was what i wanted, because i just couldn't live there next to her, not being able to hold, hug and kiss her anymore, just becoming a friend and housemate, she said things couldn't change, that we were just talking around in circles and that i couldn't change anything I've told her again since several times that i'd do anything to make it that our dreams will be fulfilled together but all to no avail. Now she says i turned my back on her by walking out If she'd shown my there was any chance of us, i'd have never have left We are no longer in contact at her request but a huge part of me still wants to try, to send her flowers saying to please meet me somewhere, let us talk like adults and not give up something so wonderful, that we can only now lose a small amount of time because we (or at least I) have lost everything already. Everyone who has given me advice, family and none family members, say she is just twisting what happened to make her feel better, putting all of the blame on me, because she is pain too. That i'd be stupid to even try any longer, that i should say enough is enough, that she clearly doesn't love me like i love her, that if she did love me, it wouldn't have ended so quickly and that she would have fought and tried as much as i wanted us to. But every waking moment and even my dreams are full of just me and her. When i see something funny my first thought is i cant want to tell her, when i see something strange it's the same, i still god damn love her so much. So many romances go through bad times but come out so much stronger on the other side, why not us? Is this just me wanting and hoping to believe that there is a chance, somehow and still? When there is no chance at all? A snowflake in a furnace? What should i do?
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Post by Billybigbollox on Aug 30, 2014 12:35:19 GMT
Will the pain ever go away? The woman i loved (still do love even after harsh words near the end) decided we didn't share the same long term goals last week and brought an end to our relationship She just didn't believe that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, despite me saying and showing her so many times that i did. I know i've said things incorrectly to make her feel like this and not done various things properly or else she wouldn't have thought this, but what relationship goes perfectly well all of the time? I only ever wanted to make her happy and for it to be us forever. I told her i wanted what she wanted, that i'd do anything to show and to prove to her that was the case and that surely a wrong perception on how she thought I felt shouldn't end SO MUCH good, because 99% of the time we were SO good! We were living together and she said she didn't want me to leave that morning, my heart leapt, I asked her if there could still be an us if i stayed, that was what i wanted, because i just couldn't live there next to her, not being able to hold, hug and kiss her anymore, just becoming a friend and housemate, she said things couldn't change, that we were just talking around in circles and that i couldn't change anything I've told her again since several times that i'd do anything to make it that our dreams will be fulfilled together but all to no avail. Now she says i turned my back on her by walking out If she'd shown my there was any chance of us, i'd have never have left We are no longer in contact at her request but a huge part of me still wants to try, to send her flowers saying to please meet me somewhere, let us talk like adults and not give up something so wonderful, that we can only now lose a small amount of time because we (or at least I) have lost everything already. Everyone who has given me advice, family and none family members, say she is just twisting what happened to make her feel better, putting all of the blame on me, because she is pain too. That i'd be stupid to even try any longer, that i should say enough is enough, that she clearly doesn't love me like i love her, that if she did love me, it wouldn't have ended so quickly and that she would have fought and tried as much as i wanted us to. But every waking moment and even my dreams are full of just me and her. When i see something funny my first thought is i cant want to tell her, when i see something strange it's the same, i still god damn love her so much. So many romances go through bad times but come out so much stronger on the other side, why not us? Is this just me wanting and hoping to believe that there is a chance, somehow and still? When there is no chance at all? A snowflake in a furnace? What should i do? Fuck me it took me ages to get over my first love. I saw her a while ago and she waved to me, I just looked away. Too much happened and too much time passed for me to give a fuck any more. Get on with your life and don't spend time worrying about her, she will be getting on with hers and you will just be wasting time.
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Post by boothenboy75 on Aug 30, 2014 17:15:26 GMT
Will the pain ever go away? :'( The woman i loved (still do love even after harsh words near the end) decided we didn't share the same long term goals last week and brought an end to our relationship :'( :'( She just didn't believe that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, despite me saying and showing her so many times that i did. I know i've said things incorrectly to make her feel like this and not done various things properly or else she wouldn't have thought this, but what relationship goes perfectly well all of the time? I only ever wanted to make her happy and for it to be us forever. I told her i wanted what she wanted, that i'd do anything to show and to prove to her that was the case and that surely a wrong perception on how she thought I felt shouldn't end SO MUCH good, because 99% of the time we were SO good! :'( We were living together and she said she didn't want me to leave that morning, my heart leapt, I asked her if there could still be an us if i stayed, that was what i wanted, because i just couldn't live there next to her, not being able to hold, hug and kiss her anymore, just becoming a friend and housemate, she said things couldn't change, that we were just talking around in circles and that i couldn't change anything :'( I've told her again since several times that i'd do anything to make it that our dreams will be fulfilled together but all to no avail. Now she says i turned my back on her by walking out :-S If she'd shown my there was any chance of us, i'd have never have left :'( We are no longer in contact at her request but a huge part of me still wants to try, to send her flowers saying to please meet me somewhere, let us talk like adults and not give up something so wonderful, that we can only now lose a small amount of time because we (or at least I) have lost everything already. Everyone who has given me advice, family and none family members, say she is just twisting what happened to make her feel better, putting all of the blame on me, because she is pain too. That i'd be stupid to even try any longer, that i should say enough is enough, that she clearly doesn't love me like i love her, that if she did love me, it wouldn't have ended so quickly and that she would have fought and tried as much as i wanted us to. But every waking moment and even my dreams are full of just me and her. When i see something funny my first thought is i cant want to tell her, when i see something strange it's the same, i still god damn love her so much. So many romances go through bad times but come out so much stronger on the other side, why not us? Is this just me wanting and hoping to believe that there is a chance, somehow and still? When there is no chance at all? A snowflake in a furnace? What should i do? :'( After watching Micky Flanagan last night: Shag her mother and go for the MILF/GILF combo.
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Post by pickins on Aug 31, 2014 17:12:03 GMT
They are odd. I'm still up and down. Joined a health club last week so spending the nights without the little one down the gym, in the pool and the spa.
Don't think I'll ever totally get over it but life's too short to waste time flogging a dead horse.
In the meantime I'm getting into shape to maximise the standard of the future gene pool!
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Post by kevan45 on Sept 1, 2014 12:35:02 GMT
A view from the other end of things. When my parents divorced I was heart broken. Over time, (as has been mentioned above), my Dad had to make an effort and work out how to keep me/us entertained on a Saturday. It was the making of our relationship, and as selfish as it may sound, I don't think we would be as close as we are if my parents hadn't split up.
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Post by 99problems on Sept 1, 2014 21:27:19 GMT
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Post by wizzardofdribble on Sept 1, 2014 21:43:27 GMT
They are odd. I'm still up and down. Joined a health club last week so spending the nights without the little one down the gym, in the pool and the spa. Don't think I'll ever totally get over it but life's too short to waste time flogging a dead horse. In the meantime I'm getting into shape to maximise the standard of the future gene pool! Physical exercise is a very good coping mechanism. .keep going to the gym..have a swim & sauna..Try and do a bit of running as well and you'll start feeling better & better. Women like talking about things but that doesn't always work with men..far better to do things.Use football matches to release some anger...after a few pints..singing & shouting at the referee always makes me feel better. .gets it all out of the system. Before long you'll forget who she was ;-)
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Post by Etain Tur-Mukan on Sept 2, 2014 14:12:52 GMT
It's still extremely tough and we've spoken in person since after she made contact with me, apologising for in particular a nasty email, but there is no going back for either of us now after we talked further about things and it's really come to an end. As happy an end as could be possibly be really too, with us both wishing each other all the best always, which is a silver lining compared to what it could have been like i suppose. Even in our last meeting we were both hoping we could continue somehow and that is what we wanted (or at least i did and she said she did), but there would have been just too many changes that would have needed to be made for it to work, changes and choices nobody should be asked to make and i wasn't prepared to change that much no matter how much i loved her. Some things you cannot change because you are born into it. Anyway, when you love a person it should be for who they are and for all the different ways in which they show you that they love you, which was apparant that in the end she just wasn't registering enough with her. It is nice that we tried to at least some degree anyway. Getting more in shape and shouting at referee's is on my to do list!
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Post by trentvegas on Sept 2, 2014 21:25:59 GMT
Never stay in a bad relationship, my story is an incredibly bleak one, one I shall not share hear, but best advice I can give, they arent arseholes forever, when you breakaway you may get shit off them that may even be inhumane, but stay strong, ignore it, Trust a wise old head, they give up in the end
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Post by StokieAsh13 on Sept 4, 2014 0:19:21 GMT
Its a bad situation for anyone to be involvedin . I find that its not the breaking up thats so difficult but the accepting & letting go. No better phrase than 'time is a great healer', certainly is the case with these cases. Good luck to you pal.
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Post by lastoftheldk on Sept 4, 2014 1:38:12 GMT
move on, its easy. whats wrong with you people
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Post by bathstoke on Sept 4, 2014 7:13:20 GMT
I don't want to contribute to any misogynistic vibe, but why is this thread wholly male or have I missed somat!?!
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Post by dutchstokie on Sept 4, 2014 12:48:32 GMT
Bunch of sad bastards arent we....???!
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Post by ihaveadream on Sept 4, 2014 16:39:49 GMT
Will the pain ever go away? The woman i loved (still do love even after harsh words near the end) decided we didn't share the same long term goals last week and brought an end to our relationship She just didn't believe that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, despite me saying and showing her so many times that i did. I know i've said things incorrectly to make her feel like this and not done various things properly or else she wouldn't have thought this, but what relationship goes perfectly well all of the time? I only ever wanted to make her happy and for it to be us forever. I told her i wanted what she wanted, that i'd do anything to show and to prove to her that was the case and that surely a wrong perception on how she thought I felt shouldn't end SO MUCH good, because 99% of the time we were SO good! We were living together and she said she didn't want me to leave that morning, my heart leapt, I asked her if there could still be an us if i stayed, that was what i wanted, because i just couldn't live there next to her, not being able to hold, hug and kiss her anymore, just becoming a friend and housemate, she said things couldn't change, that we were just talking around in circles and that i couldn't change anything I've told her again since several times that i'd do anything to make it that our dreams will be fulfilled together but all to no avail. Now she says i turned my back on her by walking out If she'd shown my there was any chance of us, i'd have never have left We are no longer in contact at her request but a huge part of me still wants to try, to send her flowers saying to please meet me somewhere, let us talk like adults and not give up something so wonderful, that we can only now lose a small amount of time because we (or at least I) have lost everything already. Everyone who has given me advice, family and none family members, say she is just twisting what happened to make her feel better, putting all of the blame on me, because she is pain too. That i'd be stupid to even try any longer, that i should say enough is enough, that she clearly doesn't love me like i love her, that if she did love me, it wouldn't have ended so quickly and that she would have fought and tried as much as i wanted us to. But every waking moment and even my dreams are full of just me and her. When i see something funny my first thought is i cant want to tell her, when i see something strange it's the same, i still god damn love her so much. So many romances go through bad times but come out so much stronger on the other side, why not us? Is this just me wanting and hoping to believe that there is a chance, somehow and still? When there is no chance at all? A snowflake in a furnace? What should i do? Fuck me it took me ages to get over my first love. I saw her a while ago and she waved to me, I just looked away. Too much happened and too much time passed for me to give a fuck any more. Get on with your life and don't spend time worrying about her, she will be getting on with hers and you will just be wasting time. I'm of the view that when 2 exes have both moved on they will speak/be civil/wave etc. When one or both is/are deliberately ignoring the other there are still some residual feelings there.
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