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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 12, 2023 18:08:48 GMT
Just providing the man with some support and humour during a particularly difficult time isn’t hard. It’s an increasingly fucked up world but hearing what some people like middleoftheboothen are going through puts things into perspective and people like him are an inspiration for idiots like me who get pissed off at the smallest of things. And I know it was a joke but getting a message from him the other week where he expressed his appreciation for checking in on him meant a lot to me. I hope he doesn’t mind me saying. Anyway onwards and upwards everyone 👍🏻 Everyone gets pissed off at the smallest of things mate. Also there are people who go through alot more than I have and who don't get through it or are as lucky as I have been. I don't mind you saying mate and a thankyou message was the least I could do. That’s true, unbelievable you’re saying that after what you’ve suffered but I guess the point is there is always someone worse off. Best of luck mate👍🏻
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 12, 2023 18:21:04 GMT
Everyone gets pissed off at the smallest of things mate. Also there are people who go through alot more than I have and who don't get through it or are as lucky as I have been. I don't mind you saying mate and a thankyou message was the least I could do. That’s true, unbelievable you’re saying that after what you’ve suffered but I guess the point is there is always someone worse off. Best of luck mate👍🏻 Definitely mate 👍 there are people in far worse positions than I am who don't have the support I have had and when you're going through something like that you need all the support you can get. It really does make a huge difference.
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Post by cdf on Nov 12, 2023 19:32:01 GMT
Took me a while to put this on here but here goes. In around march last year I had pain in my right knee which felt like I had pulled something or damaged ligaments etc. I thought I had done it at work and it would pass but over the next few weeks and months it got worse and the swelling got bigger and bigger. In the end I went to the doctors and he booked me in for a MRI scan a month later. By the time of the scan I could barely walk in to have it done. A day later my doctor's rung me up to say they thought it was bone cancer and that the tumor was big and aggressive. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to listen to made worse by the fact my one year old was staring at me at the time. I was referred to Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and was sent there for a biopsy a few weeks later. Then followed a two week wait for the results and I could now hardly get up as my leg would not move and the pain was unbearable. Two weeks later I had the phone call and found out that it was not cancerous but was a giant cell tumor that destroys the bone and tissue around it and although they are very aggressive there is only a small chance they can spread to the lungs. It was a relief but I was still worried as amputation was not out of the question. The day I got the call I tried to get back on to the sofa after going to the toilet with help from my girlfriend and my leg just broke. I was taken to Stoke hospital where they told me the tumor had caused most of my femur to crumble. After being put into a cast I spent two weeks in there before being discharged. The treatment for my tumor then started with me having denosumab injections every week at the start and then monthly which they hoped would stop the tumor growing and hopefully even shrink it. The side effects are not great at all though but it had to be done. Many meetings and scans were to be done at Birmingham and in time I was told that the only way they could remove the tumor was to take away my knee and half of my femur as the damage was to bad to repair. I would be fitted with an endoprostetic and I would have the chance to walk again. I had hope again but it would be a year to the day from when I broke my leg until surgery. A handover of the company that were making my prosthesis meant that my drawings were lost so the original date for surgery was cancelled. At this point I was loosing hope and there were times when I felt like I couldn't go on with it anymore as the pain and being stuck in a cast for so long not being able to do anything started to hit home. I carried on for my kids and my family at this point and they are the only thing that kept me going. They won't ever realise how much their faces saved me. I had surgery on the 31st of August this year and it was a success. I spent a week at Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and two days after surgery I could put weight on my leg although it hurt it felt good to walk again. I got home and things were tougher than I thought they would be. It's strange because I felt great it had gone but couldn't get my head around how much things would have to change with a prosthetic leg under my skin. Add to that the fact I had to learn to walk again. I was struggling to sleep and being on painkillers for the past year wasn't making things any easier. Again my family picked me up and got me through. I had a week of intense physio three weeks ago at Birmingham and after walking with crutches in a cast for a year I was now cast free, crutch free for small distances and had a leg that actually worked. Things are still hard to get used to but I feel like I've done the hard bit now and things will only get better. Hartshill badger told me to put my story on here and I felt like I had to incase it could help anyone else who might be going through tough times. If there's ever a pain or something not right with you get it seen to. I put it off for too long and nearly lost my leg. That's the main point but the other is that no matter how bad things are at the minute they do get better. It's hard work and it hurts to talk about sometimes but speak to people around you because my family and friends got me through this. They tell me I was the one who got through it but that's not true at all as they truly did get me through the hardest times. All the nights I lay here thinking it would be easier to not be here were just thoughts because I'm still here and I can walk again and I'll be watching the potters before the end of this season. Thankyou for reading if you have got this far. This is one of the most inspirational things that I have read. Thank you for posting it.
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Post by misterj on Nov 12, 2023 19:45:19 GMT
Have a look at Andy’s Man Club post on the main page/Stoke City section of the oatcake, they meet on Mondays
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 12, 2023 19:57:45 GMT
Took me a while to put this on here but here goes. In around march last year I had pain in my right knee which felt like I had pulled something or damaged ligaments etc. I thought I had done it at work and it would pass but over the next few weeks and months it got worse and the swelling got bigger and bigger. In the end I went to the doctors and he booked me in for a MRI scan a month later. By the time of the scan I could barely walk in to have it done. A day later my doctor's rung me up to say they thought it was bone cancer and that the tumor was big and aggressive. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to listen to made worse by the fact my one year old was staring at me at the time. I was referred to Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and was sent there for a biopsy a few weeks later. Then followed a two week wait for the results and I could now hardly get up as my leg would not move and the pain was unbearable. Two weeks later I had the phone call and found out that it was not cancerous but was a giant cell tumor that destroys the bone and tissue around it and although they are very aggressive there is only a small chance they can spread to the lungs. It was a relief but I was still worried as amputation was not out of the question. The day I got the call I tried to get back on to the sofa after going to the toilet with help from my girlfriend and my leg just broke. I was taken to Stoke hospital where they told me the tumor had caused most of my femur to crumble. After being put into a cast I spent two weeks in there before being discharged. The treatment for my tumor then started with me having denosumab injections every week at the start and then monthly which they hoped would stop the tumor growing and hopefully even shrink it. The side effects are not great at all though but it had to be done. Many meetings and scans were to be done at Birmingham and in time I was told that the only way they could remove the tumor was to take away my knee and half of my femur as the damage was to bad to repair. I would be fitted with an endoprostetic and I would have the chance to walk again. I had hope again but it would be a year to the day from when I broke my leg until surgery. A handover of the company that were making my prosthesis meant that my drawings were lost so the original date for surgery was cancelled. At this point I was loosing hope and there were times when I felt like I couldn't go on with it anymore as the pain and being stuck in a cast for so long not being able to do anything started to hit home. I carried on for my kids and my family at this point and they are the only thing that kept me going. They won't ever realise how much their faces saved me. I had surgery on the 31st of August this year and it was a success. I spent a week at Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and two days after surgery I could put weight on my leg although it hurt it felt good to walk again. I got home and things were tougher than I thought they would be. It's strange because I felt great it had gone but couldn't get my head around how much things would have to change with a prosthetic leg under my skin. Add to that the fact I had to learn to walk again. I was struggling to sleep and being on painkillers for the past year wasn't making things any easier. Again my family picked me up and got me through. I had a week of intense physio three weeks ago at Birmingham and after walking with crutches in a cast for a year I was now cast free, crutch free for small distances and had a leg that actually worked. Things are still hard to get used to but I feel like I've done the hard bit now and things will only get better. Hartshill badger told me to put my story on here and I felt like I had to incase it could help anyone else who might be going through tough times. If there's ever a pain or something not right with you get it seen to. I put it off for too long and nearly lost my leg. That's the main point but the other is that no matter how bad things are at the minute they do get better. It's hard work and it hurts to talk about sometimes but speak to people around you because my family and friends got me through this. They tell me I was the one who got through it but that's not true at all as they truly did get me through the hardest times. All the nights I lay here thinking it would be easier to not be here were just thoughts because I'm still here and I can walk again and I'll be watching the potters before the end of this season. Thankyou for reading if you have got this far. This is one of the most inspirational things that I have read. Thank you for posting it. Thankyou mate and if it helps one person go get themselves checked when they feel something isn't right or someone to talk to someone when they are having a tough time then it is worth it for me to share.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Nov 12, 2023 20:37:24 GMT
Thanks for taking the time to put all that together and explain it so well. A fantastic post and although it's clearly been tough hopefully it'll prove inspirational to anyone going through, physical, mental or personal turmoil. I just can't believe Badger's worth listening to though, that's blown my mind. Just providing the man with some support and humour during a particularly difficult time isn’t hard. It’s an increasingly fucked up world but hearing what some people like middleoftheboothen are going through puts things into perspective and people like him are an inspiration for idiots like me who get pissed off at the smallest of things. And I know it was a joke but getting a message from him the other week where he expressed his appreciation for checking in on him meant a lot to me. I hope he doesn’t mind me saying. Anyway onwards and upwards everyone 👍🏻 It's a grand thing bud, you're a good man. More than anything it just shows people that it's good to talk like Bob Hopkins used to say. It's no good bottling things up, even if the people you speak to are 'virtual', it's a way of lifting that weight off and releasing pressure. Some are better at it than others, those that aren't need to know the difference it makes and you've both provided the perfect example. Kudos gents.
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Post by bigjohnritchie on Nov 12, 2023 23:03:40 GMT
Took me a while to put this on here but here goes. In around march last year I had pain in my right knee which felt like I had pulled something or damaged ligaments etc. I thought I had done it at work and it would pass but over the next few weeks and months it got worse and the swelling got bigger and bigger. In the end I went to the doctors and he booked me in for a MRI scan a month later. By the time of the scan I could barely walk in to have it done. A day later my doctor's rung me up to say they thought it was bone cancer and that the tumor was big and aggressive. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to listen to made worse by the fact my one year old was staring at me at the time. I was referred to Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and was sent there for a biopsy a few weeks later. Then followed a two week wait for the results and I could now hardly get up as my leg would not move and the pain was unbearable. Two weeks later I had the phone call and found out that it was not cancerous but was a giant cell tumor that destroys the bone and tissue around it and although they are very aggressive there is only a small chance they can spread to the lungs. It was a relief but I was still worried as amputation was not out of the question. The day I got the call I tried to get back on to the sofa after going to the toilet with help from my girlfriend and my leg just broke. I was taken to Stoke hospital where they told me the tumor had caused most of my femur to crumble. After being put into a cast I spent two weeks in there before being discharged. The treatment for my tumor then started with me having denosumab injections every week at the start and then monthly which they hoped would stop the tumor growing and hopefully even shrink it. The side effects are not great at all though but it had to be done. Many meetings and scans were to be done at Birmingham and in time I was told that the only way they could remove the tumor was to take away my knee and half of my femur as the damage was to bad to repair. I would be fitted with an endoprostetic and I would have the chance to walk again. I had hope again but it would be a year to the day from when I broke my leg until surgery. A handover of the company that were making my prosthesis meant that my drawings were lost so the original date for surgery was cancelled. At this point I was loosing hope and there were times when I felt like I couldn't go on with it anymore as the pain and being stuck in a cast for so long not being able to do anything started to hit home. I carried on for my kids and my family at this point and they are the only thing that kept me going. They won't ever realise how much their faces saved me. I had surgery on the 31st of August this year and it was a success. I spent a week at Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and two days after surgery I could put weight on my leg although it hurt it felt good to walk again. I got home and things were tougher than I thought they would be. It's strange because I felt great it had gone but couldn't get my head around how much things would have to change with a prosthetic leg under my skin. Add to that the fact I had to learn to walk again. I was struggling to sleep and being on painkillers for the past year wasn't making things any easier. Again my family picked me up and got me through. I had a week of intense physio three weeks ago at Birmingham and after walking with crutches in a cast for a year I was now cast free, crutch free for small distances and had a leg that actually worked. Things are still hard to get used to but I feel like I've done the hard bit now and things will only get better. Hartshill badger told me to put my story on here and I felt like I had to incase it could help anyone else who might be going through tough times. If there's ever a pain or something not right with you get it seen to. I put it off for too long and nearly lost my leg. That's the main point but the other is that no matter how bad things are at the minute they do get better. It's hard work and it hurts to talk about sometimes but speak to people around you because my family and friends got me through this. They tell me I was the one who got through it but that's not true at all as they truly did get me through the hardest times. All the nights I lay here thinking it would be easier to not be here were just thoughts because I'm still here and I can walk again and I'll be watching the potters before the end of this season. Thankyou for reading if you have got this far. All the best Middle, your post puts a lot of things in perspective
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 13, 2023 0:10:00 GMT
Took me a while to put this on here but here goes. In around march last year I had pain in my right knee which felt like I had pulled something or damaged ligaments etc. I thought I had done it at work and it would pass but over the next few weeks and months it got worse and the swelling got bigger and bigger. In the end I went to the doctors and he booked me in for a MRI scan a month later. By the time of the scan I could barely walk in to have it done. A day later my doctor's rung me up to say they thought it was bone cancer and that the tumor was big and aggressive. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to listen to made worse by the fact my one year old was staring at me at the time. I was referred to Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and was sent there for a biopsy a few weeks later. Then followed a two week wait for the results and I could now hardly get up as my leg would not move and the pain was unbearable. Two weeks later I had the phone call and found out that it was not cancerous but was a giant cell tumor that destroys the bone and tissue around it and although they are very aggressive there is only a small chance they can spread to the lungs. It was a relief but I was still worried as amputation was not out of the question. The day I got the call I tried to get back on to the sofa after going to the toilet with help from my girlfriend and my leg just broke. I was taken to Stoke hospital where they told me the tumor had caused most of my femur to crumble. After being put into a cast I spent two weeks in there before being discharged. The treatment for my tumor then started with me having denosumab injections every week at the start and then monthly which they hoped would stop the tumor growing and hopefully even shrink it. The side effects are not great at all though but it had to be done. Many meetings and scans were to be done at Birmingham and in time I was told that the only way they could remove the tumor was to take away my knee and half of my femur as the damage was to bad to repair. I would be fitted with an endoprostetic and I would have the chance to walk again. I had hope again but it would be a year to the day from when I broke my leg until surgery. A handover of the company that were making my prosthesis meant that my drawings were lost so the original date for surgery was cancelled. At this point I was loosing hope and there were times when I felt like I couldn't go on with it anymore as the pain and being stuck in a cast for so long not being able to do anything started to hit home. I carried on for my kids and my family at this point and they are the only thing that kept me going. They won't ever realise how much their faces saved me. I had surgery on the 31st of August this year and it was a success. I spent a week at Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and two days after surgery I could put weight on my leg although it hurt it felt good to walk again. I got home and things were tougher than I thought they would be. It's strange because I felt great it had gone but couldn't get my head around how much things would have to change with a prosthetic leg under my skin. Add to that the fact I had to learn to walk again. I was struggling to sleep and being on painkillers for the past year wasn't making things any easier. Again my family picked me up and got me through. I had a week of intense physio three weeks ago at Birmingham and after walking with crutches in a cast for a year I was now cast free, crutch free for small distances and had a leg that actually worked. Things are still hard to get used to but I feel like I've done the hard bit now and things will only get better. Hartshill badger told me to put my story on here and I felt like I had to incase it could help anyone else who might be going through tough times. If there's ever a pain or something not right with you get it seen to. I put it off for too long and nearly lost my leg. That's the main point but the other is that no matter how bad things are at the minute they do get better. It's hard work and it hurts to talk about sometimes but speak to people around you because my family and friends got me through this. They tell me I was the one who got through it but that's not true at all as they truly did get me through the hardest times. All the nights I lay here thinking it would be easier to not be here were just thoughts because I'm still here and I can walk again and I'll be watching the potters before the end of this season. Thankyou for reading if you have got this far. All the best Middle, your post puts a lot of things in perspective Thankyou BigJohn
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Post by gawa on Nov 13, 2023 0:58:01 GMT
Best of luck with the rest of your rehab middleoftheboothen. Seems like you've had a real rough 18 months, compounded by the premature sacking of the legendary Michael Oneill.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 13, 2023 10:03:56 GMT
Best of luck with the rest of your rehab middleoftheboothen. Seems like you've had a real rough 18 months, compounded by the premature sacking of the legendary Michael Oneill. Cheers mate and haha brilliant. Yes mate I miss him like mad and it has been the hardest thing I've had to deal with 🤣
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Post by foster on Nov 13, 2023 10:27:54 GMT
Took me a while to put this on here but here goes. In around march last year I had pain in my right knee which felt like I had pulled something or damaged ligaments etc. I thought I had done it at work and it would pass but over the next few weeks and months it got worse and the swelling got bigger and bigger. In the end I went to the doctors and he booked me in for a MRI scan a month later. By the time of the scan I could barely walk in to have it done. A day later my doctor's rung me up to say they thought it was bone cancer and that the tumor was big and aggressive. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to listen to made worse by the fact my one year old was staring at me at the time. I was referred to Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and was sent there for a biopsy a few weeks later. Then followed a two week wait for the results and I could now hardly get up as my leg would not move and the pain was unbearable. Two weeks later I had the phone call and found out that it was not cancerous but was a giant cell tumor that destroys the bone and tissue around it and although they are very aggressive there is only a small chance they can spread to the lungs. It was a relief but I was still worried as amputation was not out of the question. The day I got the call I tried to get back on to the sofa after going to the toilet with help from my girlfriend and my leg just broke. I was taken to Stoke hospital where they told me the tumor had caused most of my femur to crumble. After being put into a cast I spent two weeks in there before being discharged. The treatment for my tumor then started with me having denosumab injections every week at the start and then monthly which they hoped would stop the tumor growing and hopefully even shrink it. The side effects are not great at all though but it had to be done. Many meetings and scans were to be done at Birmingham and in time I was told that the only way they could remove the tumor was to take away my knee and half of my femur as the damage was to bad to repair. I would be fitted with an endoprostetic and I would have the chance to walk again. I had hope again but it would be a year to the day from when I broke my leg until surgery. A handover of the company that were making my prosthesis meant that my drawings were lost so the original date for surgery was cancelled. At this point I was loosing hope and there were times when I felt like I couldn't go on with it anymore as the pain and being stuck in a cast for so long not being able to do anything started to hit home. I carried on for my kids and my family at this point and they are the only thing that kept me going. They won't ever realise how much their faces saved me. I had surgery on the 31st of August this year and it was a success. I spent a week at Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and two days after surgery I could put weight on my leg although it hurt it felt good to walk again. I got home and things were tougher than I thought they would be. It's strange because I felt great it had gone but couldn't get my head around how much things would have to change with a prosthetic leg under my skin. Add to that the fact I had to learn to walk again. I was struggling to sleep and being on painkillers for the past year wasn't making things any easier. Again my family picked me up and got me through. I had a week of intense physio three weeks ago at Birmingham and after walking with crutches in a cast for a year I was now cast free, crutch free for small distances and had a leg that actually worked. Things are still hard to get used to but I feel like I've done the hard bit now and things will only get better. Hartshill badger told me to put my story on here and I felt like I had to incase it could help anyone else who might be going through tough times. If there's ever a pain or something not right with you get it seen to. I put it off for too long and nearly lost my leg. That's the main point but the other is that no matter how bad things are at the minute they do get better. It's hard work and it hurts to talk about sometimes but speak to people around you because my family and friends got me through this. They tell me I was the one who got through it but that's not true at all as they truly did get me through the hardest times. All the nights I lay here thinking it would be easier to not be here were just thoughts because I'm still here and I can walk again and I'll be watching the potters before the end of this season. Thankyou for reading if you have got this far. Well done mate. Just a shame you didn't share your news a little earlier as I'm sure you would have gotten more (if not effective) support on here. I hope all goes well moving forward and in the future. As BJR said, it puts everything into perspective and people on here really do argue over some nonsensical bollocks sometimes. All the best to you and your family for the hardship you've all endured the past couple of years.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 13, 2023 10:59:07 GMT
Took me a while to put this on here but here goes. In around march last year I had pain in my right knee which felt like I had pulled something or damaged ligaments etc. I thought I had done it at work and it would pass but over the next few weeks and months it got worse and the swelling got bigger and bigger. In the end I went to the doctors and he booked me in for a MRI scan a month later. By the time of the scan I could barely walk in to have it done. A day later my doctor's rung me up to say they thought it was bone cancer and that the tumor was big and aggressive. It was the toughest thing I've ever had to listen to made worse by the fact my one year old was staring at me at the time. I was referred to Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and was sent there for a biopsy a few weeks later. Then followed a two week wait for the results and I could now hardly get up as my leg would not move and the pain was unbearable. Two weeks later I had the phone call and found out that it was not cancerous but was a giant cell tumor that destroys the bone and tissue around it and although they are very aggressive there is only a small chance they can spread to the lungs. It was a relief but I was still worried as amputation was not out of the question. The day I got the call I tried to get back on to the sofa after going to the toilet with help from my girlfriend and my leg just broke. I was taken to Stoke hospital where they told me the tumor had caused most of my femur to crumble. After being put into a cast I spent two weeks in there before being discharged. The treatment for my tumor then started with me having denosumab injections every week at the start and then monthly which they hoped would stop the tumor growing and hopefully even shrink it. The side effects are not great at all though but it had to be done. Many meetings and scans were to be done at Birmingham and in time I was told that the only way they could remove the tumor was to take away my knee and half of my femur as the damage was to bad to repair. I would be fitted with an endoprostetic and I would have the chance to walk again. I had hope again but it would be a year to the day from when I broke my leg until surgery. A handover of the company that were making my prosthesis meant that my drawings were lost so the original date for surgery was cancelled. At this point I was loosing hope and there were times when I felt like I couldn't go on with it anymore as the pain and being stuck in a cast for so long not being able to do anything started to hit home. I carried on for my kids and my family at this point and they are the only thing that kept me going. They won't ever realise how much their faces saved me. I had surgery on the 31st of August this year and it was a success. I spent a week at Birmingham Orthopaedic hospital and two days after surgery I could put weight on my leg although it hurt it felt good to walk again. I got home and things were tougher than I thought they would be. It's strange because I felt great it had gone but couldn't get my head around how much things would have to change with a prosthetic leg under my skin. Add to that the fact I had to learn to walk again. I was struggling to sleep and being on painkillers for the past year wasn't making things any easier. Again my family picked me up and got me through. I had a week of intense physio three weeks ago at Birmingham and after walking with crutches in a cast for a year I was now cast free, crutch free for small distances and had a leg that actually worked. Things are still hard to get used to but I feel like I've done the hard bit now and things will only get better. Hartshill badger told me to put my story on here and I felt like I had to incase it could help anyone else who might be going through tough times. If there's ever a pain or something not right with you get it seen to. I put it off for too long and nearly lost my leg. That's the main point but the other is that no matter how bad things are at the minute they do get better. It's hard work and it hurts to talk about sometimes but speak to people around you because my family and friends got me through this. They tell me I was the one who got through it but that's not true at all as they truly did get me through the hardest times. All the nights I lay here thinking it would be easier to not be here were just thoughts because I'm still here and I can walk again and I'll be watching the potters before the end of this season. Thankyou for reading if you have got this far. Well done mate. Just a shame you didn't share your news a little earlier as I'm sure you would have gotten more (if not effective) support on here. I hope all goes well moving forward and in the future. As BJR said, it puts everything into perspective and people on here really do argue over some nonsensical bollocks sometimes. All the best to you and your family for the hardship you've all endured the past couple of years. With hindsight I should have mate but it wasn't easy to talk about at the time I'll be honest. I dunno mate some of the nonsensical bollocks have kept me amused reading them over the last year I must say. Thankyou mate for that and I wish the best for you and your family for the future.
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Post by foster on Nov 13, 2023 13:05:11 GMT
Well done mate. Just a shame you didn't share your news a little earlier as I'm sure you would have gotten more (if not effective) support on here. I hope all goes well moving forward and in the future. As BJR said, it puts everything into perspective and people on here really do argue over some nonsensical bollocks sometimes. All the best to you and your family for the hardship you've all endured the past couple of years. With hindsight I should have mate but it wasn't easy to talk about at the time I'll be honest. I dunno mate some of the nonsensical bollocks have kept me amused reading them over the last year I must say. Thankyou mate for that and I wish the best for you and your family for the future. I know that sometimes when you're feeling shit you don't pay attention to others and no amount of positive comments are going to change anything when you're the one in pain. Indeed, they sometimes make it worse as you just get resentful considering you're the one dealing with the problem and others are displaying empathy but aren't in the same situation. All I felt a lot of the time when I was in a bad place was resentment and anger as I felt people should have been involved earlier. Even though I never really gave them any reason to be. In any case, it's great that you're doing better mate. I look forward to to the day that you're fully recovered 100% and we can start the banter
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Post by stokefc on Nov 13, 2023 13:46:18 GMT
You're an inspiration Middleof and so are all the people on this thread I wasn't gonna say owt as a bloke it don't seem right and you should keep it personal but seeing as you've opened up so shall i I suffered a TIA stroke at the begining of October a mini stroke but boy it knocked me off my feet As a fit 55 year old with things going well a pretty secure job especially being self employed to now being at home recuperating and hoping i get back to full recovery which may not happen i'm now feeling very insecure and my confidence rapidly deteriorating My family have been my backbone over the last month or so , i love them so much , but looking ahead i'm hoping i have a future in construction but i'm tired and weak and don't know what to do The financial side is keeping me awake at night i've got a bit of savings but that won't last long and i've never claimed benefits in all my working life and i ain't got a clue where to start to that aspect The wife keeps saying one step one step and i'll get there and she's right i probably will but at the moment i feel a shadow of the bloke i was Any way i'm gonna listen to some Trance to keep the spirits up , onwards and upwards
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Post by foster on Nov 13, 2023 15:12:38 GMT
You're an inspiration Middleof and so are all the people on this thread I wasn't gonna say owt as a bloke it don't seem right and you should keep it personal but seeing as you've opened up so shall i I suffered a TIA stroke at the begining of October a mini stroke but boy it knocked me off my feet As a fit 55 year old with things going well a pretty secure job especially being self employed to now being at home recuperating and hoping i get back to full recovery which may not happen i'm now feeling very insecure and my confidence rapidly deteriorating My family have been my backbone over the last month or so , i love them so much , but looking ahead i'm hoping i have a future in construction but i'm tired and weak and don't know what to do The financial side is keeping me awake at night i've got a bit of savings but that won't last long and i've never claimed benefits in all my working life and i ain't got a clue where to start to that aspect The wife keeps saying one step one step and i'll get there and she's right i probably will but at the moment i feel a shadow of the bloke i was Any way i'm gonna listen to some Trance to keep the spirits up , onwards and upwards Stopped reading there as I knew it was bullshit Seriously though, sounds like a tough time mate. I struggled for about two years not even being able to buy decent bread and arguing over a few quid here and there and trying to get out of paying for school PE kits for the kids that only cost a fiver for the year. I was totally broke and the standard bills were pretty much my earnings so whenever anything unforeseen came in I was bricking it. Stressed, anxious, nervous, etc. No holidays or day trips with the kids for those 2 years either. What you have in your favour is your wife and family mate. As you say, it's one step at a time and although things might be tough for a period, it'll all work out and get better eventually. Also, as you say, what got me through it was trance. Whenever I felt down I just stuck on some trance. No matter what trance, no matter how pants, it made me dance.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Nov 13, 2023 16:52:39 GMT
That’s true, unbelievable you’re saying that after what you’ve suffered but I guess the point is there is always someone worse off. Best of luck mate👍🏻 Definitely mate 👍 there are people in far worse positions than I am who don't have the support I have had and when you're going through something like that you need all the support you can get. It really does make a huge difference. That was a tough old read but huge applause from here for staying with it, many would have chosen a different outcome I suspect. Stay with it you're doing fantastic. 👍
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 13, 2023 20:28:33 GMT
With hindsight I should have mate but it wasn't easy to talk about at the time I'll be honest. I dunno mate some of the nonsensical bollocks have kept me amused reading them over the last year I must say. Thankyou mate for that and I wish the best for you and your family for the future. I know that sometimes when you're feeling shit you don't pay attention to others and no amount of positive comments are going to change anything when you're the one in pain. Indeed, they sometimes make it worse as you just get resentful considering you're the one dealing with the problem and others are displaying empathy but aren't in the same situation. All I felt a lot of the time when I was in a bad place was resentment and anger as I felt people should have been involved earlier. Even though I never really gave them any reason to be. In any case, it's great that you're doing better mate. I look forward to to the day that you're fully recovered 100% and we can start the banter Yeah I know what you mean mate and alot of the time you don't want to say anything because you don't want to pester anyone else with your problems but it really is better to talk to someone. Cheers mate and start the banter now for me mate I'm not arsed 🤣
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 13, 2023 20:30:58 GMT
I know that sometimes when you're feeling shit you don't pay attention to others and no amount of positive comments are going to change anything when you're the one in pain. Indeed, they sometimes make it worse as you just get resentful considering you're the one dealing with the problem and others are displaying empathy but aren't in the same situation. All I felt a lot of the time when I was in a bad place was resentment and anger as I felt people should have been involved earlier. Even though I never really gave them any reason to be. In any case, it's great that you're doing better mate. I look forward to to the day that you're fully recovered 100% and we can start the banter Yeah I know what you mean mate and alot of the time you don't want to say anything because you don't want to pester anyone else with your problems but it really is better to talk to someone. Cheers mate and start the banter now for me mate I'm not arsed 🤣 Here we go………..😉
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 13, 2023 20:33:22 GMT
You're an inspiration Middleof and so are all the people on this thread I wasn't gonna say owt as a bloke it don't seem right and you should keep it personal but seeing as you've opened up so shall i I suffered a TIA stroke at the begining of October a mini stroke but boy it knocked me off my feet As a fit 55 year old with things going well a pretty secure job especially being self employed to now being at home recuperating and hoping i get back to full recovery which may not happen i'm now feeling very insecure and my confidence rapidly deteriorating My family have been my backbone over the last month or so , i love them so much , but looking ahead i'm hoping i have a future in construction but i'm tired and weak and don't know what to do The financial side is keeping me awake at night i've got a bit of savings but that won't last long and i've never claimed benefits in all my working life and i ain't got a clue where to start to that aspect The wife keeps saying one step one step and i'll get there and she's right i probably will but at the moment i feel a shadow of the bloke i was Any way i'm gonna listen to some Trance to keep the spirits up , onwards and upwards Bloody hell mate I hope you make a full recovery Asap. Things will work out mate with work try not to worry although I know that's easier said than done. I am a bench joiner myself and I worry that I won't be able to go back to it and that's all I've ever known but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. There's nothing harder than what you've already gone through mate and you have come through that. You've got your family and your music mate and everything else will sort itself out.
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 13, 2023 20:34:29 GMT
Definitely mate 👍 there are people in far worse positions than I am who don't have the support I have had and when you're going through something like that you need all the support you can get. It really does make a huge difference. That was a tough old read but huge applause from here for staying with it, many would have chosen a different outcome I suspect. Stay with it you're doing fantastic. 👍 Thankyou Chuffed 👍
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 13, 2023 20:48:57 GMT
You're an inspiration Middleof and so are all the people on this thread I wasn't gonna say owt as a bloke it don't seem right and you should keep it personal but seeing as you've opened up so shall i I suffered a TIA stroke at the begining of October a mini stroke but boy it knocked me off my feet As a fit 55 year old with things going well a pretty secure job especially being self employed to now being at home recuperating and hoping i get back to full recovery which may not happen i'm now feeling very insecure and my confidence rapidly deteriorating My family have been my backbone over the last month or so , i love them so much , but looking ahead i'm hoping i have a future in construction but i'm tired and weak and don't know what to do The financial side is keeping me awake at night i've got a bit of savings but that won't last long and i've never claimed benefits in all my working life and i ain't got a clue where to start to that aspect The wife keeps saying one step one step and i'll get there and she's right i probably will but at the moment i feel a shadow of the bloke i was Any way i'm gonna listen to some Trance to keep the spirits up , onwards and upwards Reading your post kind of aligns with my experiences. I’ve never suffered a debilitating health issues although I have a couple which could do with sorting out but in the way you felt lost with trying to get back into work and losing touch with the social aspect. I was made redundant during Covid very early on, I scrabbled around looking for work, firstly in my area of expertise, then I became more desperate and started applying for literally anything to bring in some money. I was always called over qualified whatever that means. I spent 14 months at home applying for jobs to no avail and got more and more depressed. I got a payout for 22 years but it didn’t matter. I was desperate to get back into work, the money almost meant nothing despite keeping me going. Just as the money was down to the last 1k I got a call from an old colleague to work in the sector I’d always known and bit his hand off. 2 1/2 years later I’m still there and loving it. I guess the moral of the story is just don’t stop trying, ever. The time I was at my wits end I got into the Oatcake and I can honestly say the altercations, laughs and humour got me through a very difficult time so I’d urge anybody feeling down on their luck or feeling like nobody cares to post more on here, particularly this thread. I promise it’ll make you smile and make you more positive about things. Onwards and upwards
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Post by bigjohnritchie on Nov 13, 2023 20:54:03 GMT
You're an inspiration Middleof and so are all the people on this thread I wasn't gonna say owt as a bloke it don't seem right and you should keep it personal but seeing as you've opened up so shall i I suffered a TIA stroke at the begining of October a mini stroke but boy it knocked me off my feet As a fit 55 year old with things going well a pretty secure job especially being self employed to now being at home recuperating and hoping i get back to full recovery which may not happen i'm now feeling very insecure and my confidence rapidly deteriorating My family have been my backbone over the last month or so , i love them so much , but looking ahead i'm hoping i have a future in construction but i'm tired and weak and don't know what to do The financial side is keeping me awake at night i've got a bit of savings but that won't last long and i've never claimed benefits in all my working life and i ain't got a clue where to start to that aspect The wife keeps saying one step one step and i'll get there and she's right i probably will but at the moment i feel a shadow of the bloke i was Any way i'm gonna listen to some Trance to keep the spirits up , onwards and upwards Reading your post kind of aligns with my experiences. I’ve never suffered a debilitating health issues although I have a couple which could do with sorting out but in the way you felt lost with trying to get back into work and losing touch with the social aspect. I was made redundant during Covid very early on, I scrabbled around looking for work, firstly in my area of expertise, then I became more desperate and started applying for literally anything to bring in some money. I was always called over qualified whatever that means. I spent 14 months at home applying for jobs to no avail and got more and more depressed. I got a payout for 22 years but it didn’t matter. I was desperate to get back into work, the money almost meant nothing despite keeping me going. Just as the money was down to the last 1k I got a call from an old colleague to work in the sector I’d always known and bit his hand off. 2 1/2 years later I’m still there and loving it. I guess the moral of the story is just don’t stop trying, ever. The time I was at my wits end I got into the Oatcake and I can honestly say the altercations, laughs and humour got me through a very difficult time so I’d urge anybody feeling down on their luck or feeling like nobody cares to post more on here, particularly this thread. I promise it’ll make you smile and make you more positive about things. Onwards and upwards AND you are a major, major contributor to the humour Badger, thanks..... A bit myopic, boring, a time-waster, but you try your best, that's all we can ask. ( no need to thank me)
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 13, 2023 20:55:35 GMT
Reading your post kind of aligns with my experiences. I’ve never suffered a debilitating health issues although I have a couple which could do with sorting out but in the way you felt lost with trying to get back into work and losing touch with the social aspect. I was made redundant during Covid very early on, I scrabbled around looking for work, firstly in my area of expertise, then I became more desperate and started applying for literally anything to bring in some money. I was always called over qualified whatever that means. I spent 14 months at home applying for jobs to no avail and got more and more depressed. I got a payout for 22 years but it didn’t matter. I was desperate to get back into work, the money almost meant nothing despite keeping me going. Just as the money was down to the last 1k I got a call from an old colleague to work in the sector I’d always known and bit his hand off. 2 1/2 years later I’m still there and loving it. I guess the moral of the story is just don’t stop trying, ever. The time I was at my wits end I got into the Oatcake and I can honestly say the altercations, laughs and humour got me through a very difficult time so I’d urge anybody feeling down on their luck or feeling like nobody cares to post more on here, particularly this thread. I promise it’ll make you smile and make you more positive about things. Onwards and upwards AND you are a major, major contributor to the humour Badger, thanks..... A bit myopic, boring, a time-waster, but you try your best, that's all we can ask. ( no need to thank me) Charming🤣
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Post by cheadlepotter on Nov 13, 2023 21:30:12 GMT
Great news middleoftheboothen that you’re getting through all of that in the most positive way you can. I’ve nearly lost all of my ability to walk, can furniture balance around the house but it’s wheels for outside, and the support of my family and friends has been invaluable and the kids always keep you going too. The support on this thread, albeit from people we’re unlikely to meet, is brilliant. The best thread on this board.
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Post by gawa on Nov 13, 2023 21:33:44 GMT
I know that sometimes when you're feeling shit you don't pay attention to others and no amount of positive comments are going to change anything when you're the one in pain. Indeed, they sometimes make it worse as you just get resentful considering you're the one dealing with the problem and others are displaying empathy but aren't in the same situation. All I felt a lot of the time when I was in a bad place was resentment and anger as I felt people should have been involved earlier. Even though I never really gave them any reason to be. In any case, it's great that you're doing better mate. I look forward to to the day that you're fully recovered 100% and we can start the banter Yeah I know what you mean mate and alot of the time you don't want to say anything because you don't want to pester anyone else with your problems but it really is better to talk to someone. Cheers mate and start the banter now for me mate I'm not arsed 🤣 I think he was pulling your leg there tbh mate.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 13, 2023 21:35:20 GMT
Yeah I know what you mean mate and alot of the time you don't want to say anything because you don't want to pester anyone else with your problems but it really is better to talk to someone. Cheers mate and start the banter now for me mate I'm not arsed 🤣 I think he was pulling your leg there tbh mate. Pull the other one!
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Post by gawa on Nov 13, 2023 21:40:52 GMT
I think he was pulling your leg there tbh mate. Pull the other one! I can't. It seems to already be in your mouth.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Nov 13, 2023 21:42:05 GMT
I can't. It seems to already be in your mouth. Fnarrr fnarrrr Viz style
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Post by Orbs on Nov 13, 2023 23:20:35 GMT
Crikey lads. I’ve just caught up with this thread as I’ve been away for the weekend. Inspirational is a word that’s used out of context all the time but it certainly applies here with these latest posts. Bravo for having the courage to share your stories. Hopefully doing so has been a help. Keep it up and encourage others to talk about what’s happening in their lives too. It’s not easy and we can all do with support and encouragement from time to time to help us through the difficult times. Nothing wrong with offering advice to each other (especially if it involves taking the piss at the same time.)
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Post by middleoftheboothen on Nov 14, 2023 9:09:20 GMT
Yeah I know what you mean mate and alot of the time you don't want to say anything because you don't want to pester anyone else with your problems but it really is better to talk to someone. Cheers mate and start the banter now for me mate I'm not arsed 🤣 I think he was pulling your leg there tbh mate. I agree mate and it was daft of me to have such a knee-jerk reaction 😁
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