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Post by chigstoke on Feb 14, 2023 23:00:51 GMT
Never mind fellas, I think she's more than likely ghosted us See if she replies tomorrow, but I know how this goes 95% of the time, so I'm going to safely file this one in the 'probably fucked' category if I hear nothing Cause you do absolutely have to account for someone actually having a life and being busy. I'm not that stupid! Good thing is that the more it happens, the easier it gets to brush off being, err, brushed off yourself! It's like a reverse russian roulette, the chamber is all bullets but one. Eventually, you'll hit that empty chamber. Shit analogies bought to you by me.
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Post by cobhamstokey on Feb 15, 2023 14:50:47 GMT
Never mind fellas, I think she's more than likely ghosted us See if she replies tomorrow, but I know how this goes 95% of the time, so I'm going to safely file this one in the 'probably fucked' category if I hear nothing Cause you do absolutely have to account for someone actually having a life and being busy. I'm not that stupid! Good thing is that the more it happens, the easier it gets to brush off being, err, brushed off yourself! It's like a reverse russian roulette, the chamber is all bullets but one. Eventually, you'll hit that empty chamber. Shit analogies bought to you by me. Chin up mate. It’s not the end of the world I’m happily married (i’m hoping the mrs feels the same) but that was after a long time being single. Though marriage has its ups and downs it’s nice having that special someone to come home too, but there are times when you think what you’d be doing if you were still single and I have to say the alternative really isn’t that bad. I’m not saying I’d want to go back as I wasn’t a ladies man by a long stretch (the odd success here and there) but if there’s one thing I regret (and I’m no oil painting) and that’s that I should have been more confident around the ladies and ignored my mates banter and pisstaking and not taken things too personally. All said and done if you don’t have any confidence in yourself why should the ladies. One thing I used to joke about was myself to the stage that I’d put myself down. Though it’s good that you can take the piss out of yourself it’s key not to overdo it or the ladies look on you as a little brother rather than a prospective fella. I guess what I’m trying to say is be yourself and don’t sell yourself short as your as good as the next man (better in many cases I’m sure). Never try to be something your not as you come across as being a very genuine nice guy. It’ll happen in time and when you least expect it. I wish I’d listened to my advice now when I was younger.
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Post by chigstoke on Feb 15, 2023 16:07:50 GMT
Never mind fellas, I think she's more than likely ghosted us See if she replies tomorrow, but I know how this goes 95% of the time, so I'm going to safely file this one in the 'probably fucked' category if I hear nothing Cause you do absolutely have to account for someone actually having a life and being busy. I'm not that stupid! Good thing is that the more it happens, the easier it gets to brush off being, err, brushed off yourself! It's like a reverse russian roulette, the chamber is all bullets but one. Eventually, you'll hit that empty chamber. Shit analogies bought to you by me. Chin up mate. It’s not the end of the world I’m happily married (i’m hoping the mrs feels the same) but that was after a long time being single. Though marriage has its ups and downs it’s nice having that special someone to come home too, but there are times when you think what you’d be doing if you were still single and I have to say the alternative really isn’t that bad. I’m not saying I’d want to go back as I wasn’t a ladies man by a long stretch (the odd success here and there) but if there’s one thing I regret (and I’m no oil painting) and that’s that I should have been more confident around the ladies and ignored my mates banter and pisstaking and not taken things too personally. All said and done if you don’t have any confidence in yourself why should they? One thing I used to joke about was myself to the stage that I’d put myself down. Though it’s good that you can take the piss out of yourself it’s key not to overdo it or the ladies look on you as a little brother rather than a prospective fella. I guess what I’m trying to say is be yourself and don’t sell yourself short as your as good as the next man (better in many cases I’m sure). Never try to be something your not as you come across as being a very genuine nice guy. It’ll happen in time and when you least expect it. I wish I’d listened to my advice now when I was younger. Oh aye, not the end of the world cobs at all. And FWIW, i do portray a vastly more confident image to people these days. At the end of the day mate, i lived life without knowing these people and quite frankly I can live my without knowing them after the fact as well. I do what I do and I keep going. But appreciate the words of wisdom as ever mate.
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Post by cobhamstokey on Feb 15, 2023 16:52:32 GMT
Chin up mate. It’s not the end of the world I’m happily married (i’m hoping the mrs feels the same) but that was after a long time being single. Though marriage has its ups and downs it’s nice having that special someone to come home too, but there are times when you think what you’d be doing if you were still single and I have to say the alternative really isn’t that bad. I’m not saying I’d want to go back as I wasn’t a ladies man by a long stretch (the odd success here and there) but if there’s one thing I regret (and I’m no oil painting) and that’s that I should have been more confident around the ladies and ignored my mates banter and pisstaking and not taken things too personally. All said and done if you don’t have any confidence in yourself why should they? One thing I used to joke about was myself to the stage that I’d put myself down. Though it’s good that you can take the piss out of yourself it’s key not to overdo it or the ladies look on you as a little brother rather than a prospective fella. I guess what I’m trying to say is be yourself and don’t sell yourself short as your as good as the next man (better in many cases I’m sure). Never try to be something your not as you come across as being a very genuine nice guy. It’ll happen in time and when you least expect it. I wish I’d listened to my advice now when I was younger. Oh aye, not the end of the world cobs at all. And FWIW, i do portray a vastly more confident image to people these days. At the end of the day mate, i lived life without knowing these people and quite frankly I can live my without knowing them after the fact as well. I do what I do and I keep going. But appreciate the words of wisdom as ever mate. They were heartfelt mate. The good guys always win in the end.
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Post by chigstoke on Feb 17, 2023 21:31:45 GMT
Evening guys!
Hope everyone's had a good week so far. Roll on tomorrow and hopefully another Stoke win. So reflecting on my previous couple posts, I've deleted the chat with the girl I saw on Monday, fuck it. I've got one last date lined up for next weekend with someone else. I've got her number, so I've already deleted the apps, and that felt good to do so. If that one goes tits up, then I'm going to fuck off the entire dating thing for the remainder of the PT at a minimum. So bring on the gym, bring on the next 5 months of training, and bring on the results of the hard work I'm putting in. Bring on the holiday to Greece, and bring on looking good in a suit for my brothers wedding, cause that was always the goal.
Because that's worth more to me than any 'date'. I've got good people around me, and this thread is always going to be here to ask for advice (and give advice) whenever it's ever needed.
It's too much of a drain really, mentally and financially in the long run to do it repeatedly. My time and energy is better spent elsewhere on other things. Pay day next week, new gym clothes shall be ordered because mine are now too big (again)!
New focus - feeling good and looking the best version of me. So bring it on fuckers!
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 17, 2023 22:23:36 GMT
Evening guys! Hope everyone's had a good week so far. Roll on tomorrow and hopefully another Stoke win. So reflecting on my previous couple posts, I've deleted the chat with the girl I saw on Monday, fuck it. I've got one last date lined up for next weekend with someone else. I've got her number, so I've already deleted the apps, and that felt good to do so. If that one goes tits up, then I'm going to fuck off the entire dating thing for the remainder of the PT at a minimum. So bring on the gym, bring on the next 5 months of training, and bring on the results of the hard work I'm putting in. Bring on the holiday to Greece, and bring on looking good in a suit for my brothers wedding, cause that was always the goal. Because that's worth more to me than any 'date'. I've got good people around me, and this thread is always going to be here to ask for advice (and give advice) whenever it's ever needed. It's too much of a drain really, mentally and financially in the long run to do it repeatedly. My time and energy is better spent elsewhere on other things. Pay day next week, new gym clothes shall be ordered because mine are now too big (again)! New focus - feeling good and looking the best version of me. So bring it on fuckers! Well in Chiggers! What really comes across in this post is your new found confidence, it’s great to see and the effort you’ve put in to make yourself better is clearly giving you a more positive outlook in life. And dunna worry about the birds, a cracker will turn up eventually
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Post by chigstoke on Feb 17, 2023 22:43:50 GMT
Evening guys! Hope everyone's had a good week so far. Roll on tomorrow and hopefully another Stoke win. So reflecting on my previous couple posts, I've deleted the chat with the girl I saw on Monday, fuck it. I've got one last date lined up for next weekend with someone else. I've got her number, so I've already deleted the apps, and that felt good to do so. If that one goes tits up, then I'm going to fuck off the entire dating thing for the remainder of the PT at a minimum. So bring on the gym, bring on the next 5 months of training, and bring on the results of the hard work I'm putting in. Bring on the holiday to Greece, and bring on looking good in a suit for my brothers wedding, cause that was always the goal. Because that's worth more to me than any 'date'. I've got good people around me, and this thread is always going to be here to ask for advice (and give advice) whenever it's ever needed. It's too much of a drain really, mentally and financially in the long run to do it repeatedly. My time and energy is better spent elsewhere on other things. Pay day next week, new gym clothes shall be ordered because mine are now too big (again)! New focus - feeling good and looking the best version of me. So bring it on fuckers! Well in Chiggers! What really comes across in this post is your new found confidence, it’s great to see and the effort you’ve put in to make yourself better is clearly giving you a more positive outlook in life. And dunna worry about the birds, a cracker will turn up eventually Nice one Badger. Oh yeah mate for sure, absolutely a new found confidence. Every week it just gets better. I sometimes think about the situation I'd be in today had I have not reached out to the PT when I did. If you'd shown me my progress picture from last Saturday and said 'that's you in 6 months', I'd have just laughed at you. Aye not going to, not worth it. It's merely the cherry on top of the cake when it happens. I mean this isn't a blanket ban, for the apps it absolutely is, but if I end up meeting someone in person I won't discount it. Onwards and upwards as they say.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Feb 18, 2023 10:09:49 GMT
Concentrate on the original goal you set.
You don't need the affirmation from anybody else, be happy in yourself with what you've achieved.
Everything else will just fall into place.
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Post by chigstoke on Feb 18, 2023 11:16:31 GMT
Concentrate on the original goal you set. You don't need the affirmation from anybody else, be happy in yourself with what you've achieved. Everything else will just fall into place. 100%, and it’s even something the PT tells me. I don’t need 3rd party affirmation, I know I look better than ever and feel better than ever. As far as I’m concerned, that really is all that matters.
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Post by Eggybread on Feb 18, 2023 20:43:56 GMT
I personally believe that's it's a sad endictment/reflection on our society, capitalism etc that this thread is 46 pages in and will no doubt continue.
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Post by alsagerstokie on Feb 18, 2023 21:20:56 GMT
I personally believe that's it's a sad endictment/reflection on our society, capitalism etc that this thread is 46 pages in and will no doubt continue. I much prefer this than someone creating a thread about Where do we go after another defeat. Then someone creates another thread to talk about exactly the same thing. Then another one asking for our best 11 followed a day later someone creating a new thread saying what 11 would you pick now. 👍
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Post by chuffedstokie on Feb 20, 2023 8:58:36 GMT
I personally believe that's it's a sad endictment/reflection on our society, capitalism etc that this thread is 46 pages in and will no doubt continue. I doubt the reasons you state have anything to do with my wife fucking off with some wanker from the tennis club if I'm being honest.
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Post by Eggybread on Feb 20, 2023 9:50:39 GMT
I personally believe that's it's a sad endictment/reflection on our society, capitalism etc that this thread is 46 pages in and will no doubt continue. I doubt the reasons you state have anything to do with my wife fucking off with some wanker from the tennis club if I'm being honest. You're correct.
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Post by Los Alfareros on Feb 21, 2023 17:45:23 GMT
Evening all..... just checking in, don't get on much these days. As I have done before, and will keep doing, just to re affirm that whatever your mental or physical health problem is, it is not a weakness it is an illness. Seek help, and remember it takes a very strong person to admit they need help. I have known too many people with drug/alcohol/depression who won't take the first step to getting help, it is in many cases impossible to do it alone. From being diagnosed with anxiety and depression over 3 years ago, I still regularly talk to a therapist, I continue to take 20mg anti depressants a day, and work hard on my own mind and body fitness. Do not be afraid to talk to a doctor, it maybe sounds dramatic but the drugs probably saved my life. My drugs balance my chemical imbalance in my head, and have reduced my anxiety to very low levels. In short, they have allowed me to feel "normal" again. Sermon over!! Take care lads
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Post by wagsastokie on Feb 21, 2023 18:11:46 GMT
Struggling today had to have the hound put down this morning bless him collapsed on his morning hobble
Out on the piss not sure it mixes with my medication Trying to avoid other people as ready to kick off at the first tosser that pokes me
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Post by felonious on Feb 21, 2023 19:06:27 GMT
Struggling today had to have the hound put down this morning bless him collapsed on his morning hobble Out on the piss not sure it mixes with my medication Trying to avoid other people as ready to kick off at the first tosser that pokes me Sorry to hear that Wag but I'm sure you had great times together and he wanted for nothing. Ours went in the middle of last year after a fulfilled 12 years and now there's a little 5 month old git on the scene with a happy tail. Get another one when you're ready.
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Post by Orbs on Feb 21, 2023 23:07:10 GMT
Struggling today had to have the hound put down this morning bless him collapsed on his morning hobble Out on the piss not sure it mixes with my medication Trying to avoid other people as ready to kick off at the first tosser that pokes me That’s sad Wags 😢- So sorry to hear this. I’m presuming it’s your dog in your profile pic. Looks a proper dude 🙂
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Post by wagsastokie on Feb 21, 2023 23:39:18 GMT
Struggling today had to have the hound put down this morning bless him collapsed on his morning hobble Out on the piss not sure it mixes with my medication Trying to avoid other people as ready to kick off at the first tosser that pokes me That’s sad Wags 😢- So sorry to hear this. I’m presuming it’s your dog in your profile pic. Looks a proper dude 🙂 No that’s the original dog bless her she passed at fourteen a few years back The one today was Russell the Labrador took him in as a rescue couple of years before wags went The daftest softest friend you could of ever wished for 😢
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Post by cvillestokie on Feb 22, 2023 0:37:04 GMT
That’s sad Wags 😢- So sorry to hear this. I’m presuming it’s your dog in your profile pic. Looks a proper dude 🙂 No that’s the original dog bless her she passed at fourteen a few years back The one today was Russell the Labrador took him in as a rescue couple of years before wags went The daftest softest friend you could of ever wished for 😢 It’s such a difficult decision to have to make. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that.
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Post by knype on Feb 22, 2023 18:48:56 GMT
Just had a cracking few nights away in Liverpool. What a city it is, not been for years but will definitely go back soon.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 22, 2023 18:54:16 GMT
Just had a cracking few nights away in Liverpool. What a city it is, not been for years but will definitely go back soon. Certainly up there as one of the best cities in the U.K. that’s for sure. Go pretty regularly
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Post by iancransonsknees on Feb 22, 2023 19:22:42 GMT
Haven't been for a bit but it's a great city for eating, drinking and generally gallivanting.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 22, 2023 19:42:05 GMT
Haven't been for a bit but it's a great city for eating, drinking and generally gallivanting. Do love it there, as you say, for gallivanting but started going to some more nearby towns over the last couple of years with equal enjoyment. Bridgenorth for example is a cracking little town, under an hour away, loads of pubs and places to eat and a good selection of hotels and Airbnb.
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Post by iancransonsknees on Feb 22, 2023 19:45:28 GMT
Haven't been for a bit but it's a great city for eating, drinking and generally gallivanting. Do love it there, as you say, for gallivanting but started going to some more nearby towns over the last couple of years with equal enjoyment. Bridgenorth for example is a cracking little town, under an hour away, loads of pubs and places to eat and a good selection of hotels and Airbnb. Do you pay?
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 22, 2023 19:45:58 GMT
Do love it there, as you say, for gallivanting but started going to some more nearby towns over the last couple of years with equal enjoyment. Bridgenorth for example is a cracking little town, under an hour away, loads of pubs and places to eat and a good selection of hotels and Airbnb. Do you pay? I used to😉
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 22, 2023 19:46:47 GMT
Do love it there, as you say, for gallivanting but started going to some more nearby towns over the last couple of years with equal enjoyment. Bridgenorth for example is a cracking little town, under an hour away, loads of pubs and places to eat and a good selection of hotels and Airbnb. Do you pay? Mickey Flanagan tickets at the O2 with 5 star hotel is todays treat…..
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Post by Orbs on Feb 22, 2023 20:14:01 GMT
Mickey Flanagan tickets at the O2 with 5 star hotel is todays treat….. It’s either you’ve got a huge widge or she’s mentally unhinged? I really can’t decide which it is 🤔
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Post by iancransonsknees on Feb 22, 2023 20:18:53 GMT
Mickey Flanagan tickets at the O2 with 5 star hotel is todays treat….. It’s either you’ve got a huge widge or she’s mentally unhinged? I really can’t decide which it is 🤔 She's got a huge widge and he's mentally unhinged.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 22, 2023 20:18:59 GMT
Mickey Flanagan tickets at the O2 with 5 star hotel is todays treat….. It’s either you’ve got a huge widge or she’s mentally unhinged? I really can’t decide which it is 🤔 Well I can confirm I don’t have a huge widge (or one doesn’t like to blow one’s own trumpet) so she must be beserk! I like a challenge. Chigster thinks he’s got a challenge, nothing compared to working a woman out🤣 Only kidding Chig, you’re doing amazing as is Knype👍🏻
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Feb 22, 2023 20:19:51 GMT
It’s either you’ve got a huge widge or she’s mentally unhinged? I really can’t decide which it is 🤔 She's got a huge widge and he's mentally unhinged. Probably closer to the mark in reality mate🤣
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