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Post by chigstoke on Mar 20, 2021 22:29:24 GMT
Ey up lads Just a quick one to say I’ve actually started a job I really enjoy at Stafford council and I’m getting my own place again after living back with my parents for a while. Just want to give credit to this thread as somewhere I could look when I was feeling low, my life is finally getting back on track after a tough period of time. Keep going and I’m so proud of you all Congrats mate. Nothing more satisfying than job satisfaction.
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Post by danceswithclams on Apr 2, 2021 17:37:10 GMT
Playing 6-aside in less than an hour and got 18 holes booked in for tomorrow.
The lightening of mood is noticeable and the excitement palpable.
Regular pursuits like this really do provide structure and meaning - it's a fucking travesty that both I and no doubt millions of others have been denied access to activities crucial to mental wellbeing for so long as a result of a corrupt and staggeringly incompetent government approach to the pandemic.
Fuck you Boris, fuck you Hancock, fuck you Gove - I'm gonna be imagining your faces on that Mitre Delta each time I leather it into the bottom corner later!
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 2, 2021 17:44:09 GMT
Playing 6-aside in less than an hour and got 18 holes booked in for tomorrow. The lightening of mood is noticeable and the excitement palpable. Regular pursuits like this really do provide structure and meaning - it's a fucking travesty that both I and no doubt millions of others have been denied access to activities crucial to mental wellbeing for so long as a result of a corrupt and staggeringly incompetent government approach to the pandemic. Fuck you Boris, fuck you Hancock, fuck you Gove - I'm gonna be imagining your faces on that Mitre Delta each time I leather it into the bottom corner later! Where you playing clams? Football I mean
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Post by danceswithclams on Apr 2, 2021 18:13:38 GMT
Just behind the front two 😉
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Post by Orbs on Apr 2, 2021 18:56:53 GMT
Just behind the front two 😉 Seen the latest series of unforgotten on ITV player Clams? I think you’d like it...
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 2, 2021 19:00:48 GMT
Just behind the front two 😉 Your team must be mint to be playing a floating role behind TWO strikers in 6 a side🤣
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Post by Orbs on Apr 2, 2021 19:07:52 GMT
Just behind the front two 😉 Your team must be mint to be playing a floating role behind TWO strikers in 6 a side🤣 I’m sure he plays the ‘floater’ role really well.
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Post by Orbs on Apr 8, 2021 10:49:09 GMT
very sad.
Plenty of links below if anyone needs any help.
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Post by salopstick on Apr 22, 2021 13:23:59 GMT
A bloke I served with killed himself yesterday. Ex army married with kids around 50. No fucking need
He had just split up with his Mrs and had lost one of his mates three weeks prior
I only spoke to the lad a few weeks ago asking him to join our weekly ex Welsh guards houseparty chat on a Friday.
FFS lads if you are ever down speak to your mates
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Post by The battheader chronicles on May 8, 2021 22:10:31 GMT
Ey up lads
Just a quick bump to remind any of you that need help that you’re not alone. Hopefully the win today has helped 😉
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Post by foster on May 11, 2021 0:40:47 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here.
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Post by PotterLog on May 11, 2021 1:17:21 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here. Don’t look at this thread much but thought I’d say thank you for sharing. Incredibly brave things to open up about. There’s a beauty in the way you’ve described your experience despite the horrible tragedy of it. Condolences and kind thoughts for tomorrow.
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 11, 2021 4:19:25 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here. so, so sorry to hear of your loss. It takes a great amount of bravery to cope with such loss but I know from reading your posts over the years (and in particular this one) that you’ve got the balls to do it. RIP to your brave and lovely lady and take care x
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Post by The battheader chronicles on May 11, 2021 10:29:22 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here. Hey man thinking of you today x
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Post by Orbs on May 11, 2021 13:36:03 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here. Blimey Fozzie, what a time you're having of it mate. I'm not sure where you live but there are loads of places in Stoke that could help (see below) You're obviously going to have your bad and slightly better days but please post if you're struggling. It's Ok to not be Ok.
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Post by vokeswagen on May 11, 2021 21:54:10 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here. A very brave post and I can’t imagine how awful it must’ve been to write, let alone experience that mate. Very sorry to hear, and hope your loved ones bring you some comfort and support. I’m sure they will. There are organisations out there who specialise in bereavement and grief support and I’d recommend you contact them if/when you need. They will have specialist knowledge and experience that might be helpful. Take care mate.
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on May 11, 2021 22:33:06 GMT
Anyone else on here going through any kind of traumatic life experience at the moment? I'm a little reluctant to share but I've not posted as much on here as I used to over the past 10 months due to personal circumstances. A few months back I went through a really dark period and had a wake up call once I had a kind of 'what's the point in living' thought. At that time I decided I had to do something about it and have seen a therapist a few times just to get things off my chest. Now it seems that there's a tough time ahead and although I'm better prepared than last time (and sure I won't hit rock bottom again), I know it's going to be hell. Rationally I know I have a lot to be grateful for, job, kids, girlfriend, but when you have something traumatic and life changing staring you in the face it's tough keeping it together. All in all, after divorcing 4 years ago, then losing my (then) job, then losing all my money, then having to switch off my mothers life support, it's been a total up and down rollercoaster ride of emotions. Anyway, if anything, I guess this post may comfort others who are going through a tough period, in that they're not alone. So...as expected, the last 2 years have been hell. Especially the last few months, hence my lack of time on here. My best friend, my boys mother, and the most important person in my life (other than the kids) just passed away at 41 years of age, in my arms at home. It was a cruel, slow, painful, drawn out death. Totally undeserved of such an amazing selfless person who's loved by everyone who knows her. In the end her death was how she wanted it to be. To pass away with me, her mother and her closest friends beside her. But it wasn't easy and she took the hard way to make it happen. The funeral is tomorrow. It's hell now and I've been a wreck for the past days, but I will survive, I won't give up on life.. ..and neither should anyone on here. Heartbreaking story. Absolutely dreadful. RIP, stay strong (which you are) and know that your fellow oatcake brothers are with you, supporting you. It was incredibly brave of you to post on here, looking forward to exchanging banterous posts with you again very soon 😊
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Post by Orbs on May 12, 2021 15:20:55 GMT
Very sorry for your loss foster, stay strong mate. Spoke to my GP this morning after about 2 and a half years of putting it off. Requested the female doctor who I'd had before to make it easier. Wrote down everything I wanted to say before because I knew I'd be feeling okay on the day. Didn't shirk away from any details, wrote exactly how my mind works and covered everything, including suicidal thoughts. It was a hard conversation and made worse having to be over the phone. Doctor offered me medication or CBT or a combination of the two. She was really good with me and referred me to the latter with Healthy Minds. I said I didn't fancy medication just yet. The moral of the story is I feel much better from even booking the appointment, never mind having it this morning. Can't believe I haven't done it sooner but I guess mental illness does that to you. I watched a video of a young girl being saved from jumping on social media shortly after and I burst into tears. Thought I'd share my positive experience with it being Awareness Week, even though I usually cringe at these initiatives. If things are really bad then please call your doctor. Ultimately, I decided I just can't be bothered to live like this for the rest of my life and it was time to do something about it. Top stuff Tommy. Nice one. If you're local then loads of great links below to offer extra help and support.
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Post by vokeswagen on May 12, 2021 15:50:46 GMT
Very sorry for your loss foster, stay strong mate. Spoke to my GP this morning after about 2 and a half years of putting it off. Requested the female doctor who I'd had before to make it easier. Wrote down everything I wanted to say before because I knew I'd be feeling okay on the day. Didn't shirk away from any details, wrote exactly how my mind works and covered everything, including suicidal thoughts. It was a hard conversation and made worse having to be over the phone. Doctor offered me medication or CBT or a combination of the two. She was really good with me and referred me to the latter with Healthy Minds. I said I didn't fancy medication just yet. The moral of the story is I feel much better from even booking the appointment, never mind having it this morning. Can't believe I haven't done it sooner but I guess mental illness does that to you. I watched a video of a young girl being saved from jumping on social media shortly after and I burst into tears. Thought I'd share my positive experience with it being Awareness Week, even though I usually cringe at these initiatives. If things are really bad then please call your doctor. Ultimately, I decided I just can't be bothered to live like this for the rest of my life and it was time to do something about it. Thanks for sharing mate, a very brave thing to do, and glad that you’re feeling better for talking to the GP. Here’s hoping this is the beginning of the path to the top of the hill, and that you have wonderful views from here on
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Post by pricey21 on May 30, 2021 19:20:21 GMT
Hope everyone is OK. Has anybody ever tried these?
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Post by Orbs on Jun 22, 2021 9:00:08 GMT
Hope everyone is OK. Has anybody ever tried these? Nope - any good? Bumped for anyone who needs the links ATM.
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Post by pricey21 on Jun 22, 2021 19:23:42 GMT
Hope everyone is OK. Has anybody ever tried these? Nope - any good? Bumped for anyone who needs the links ATM. I've been taking them for a bout 3 weeks now but not really noticed a lot of difference.
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Post by Orbs on Sept 5, 2021 16:42:06 GMT
Just case anyone needs the links ATM.
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Post by NassauDave on Sept 6, 2021 3:18:25 GMT
Keep up the good work all.
This is important.
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Post by mickeythemaestro on Sept 6, 2021 8:21:12 GMT
I had never noticed this thread before. Possibly a good idea to pin it to the top of the board?
Some very humbling stories on here. Puts things into a lot of perspective. But by far the most important recurring message is TALK to someone and keep battling.
I always find when things are going to shit and I feel down that I start singing the Big Break theme song in my head (out loud if nobody is around, can't sing for shit!!).
"It's only a game soooo put up a real good fight, I'm gonna be snookering you tonight" Helps me anyway. Good luck.
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Post by Goonie on Sept 6, 2021 17:58:27 GMT
Link for your local primary care mental health team if you live in Staffordshire should anyone need it - self refer online or by phone Talking always helps staffsandstokewellbeing.nhs.uk/
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Post by zerps on Sept 6, 2021 18:08:46 GMT
Nope - any good? Bumped for anyone who needs the links ATM. I've been taking them for a bout 3 weeks now but not really noticed a lot of difference. I developed a supplement addiction hoping to feel like I was in the void in the late 90’s. I can confirm that most don’t do anything.
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Post by zerps on Sept 6, 2021 18:10:07 GMT
Hope everyone is OK. Has anybody ever tried these? Try cbd mate. That definitely lifts the mood.
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Post by mickeythemaestro on Sept 7, 2021 21:04:56 GMT
Just knocking this up to the top. Most important thread on here if yoos ask me.
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Post by danceswithclams on Sept 7, 2021 22:01:26 GMT
I always find when things are going to shit and I feel down that I start singing the Big Break theme song in my head (out loud if nobody is around, can't sing for shit!!). "It's only a game soooo put up a real good fight, I'm gonna be snookering you tonight" Helps me anyway. Good luck. Written and performed by none other than Captain Sensible (of The Dammed fame) no less. I once convinced a young impressionable student* to come back to mine** and be sexually appalling with me by using the line "I'm gonna be snookering you tonight". The most impressive thing about this however is that she was far too young to remember Davidson & Virgo's prime time BBC One snooker-based antics - she probably just thought I was a bit of a card/autistic and went "fuck it, I'll do him anyway" 😂 *I was a student myself (albeit a slightly older one) so it wasn't anything untoward. **which was in Sheffield, which we all know is the home of snooker (although I'm not sure if this had any bearing on the situation).
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