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Post by mattador78 on Dec 23, 2016 12:29:23 GMT
just looking forward to Jan 2nd. I think I have a good idea of why you find this time of year difficult from what you have posted before trent.
I just thought I'd bring up the topic of Seasonal Affective Disorder. I hope you don't mind mate. I know my worst days are in the winter and if SAD is making this time of the year worse for you (than it might be), it could be worth looking into. Here's a useful 7 pages from MIND:-
Seasonal affective disorder
Just a thought. Anyway come back soon - we are all out of decent movie and TV threads!
My mrs has an under active thyroid and it throws up similar symptoms
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Post by Skankmonkey on Dec 23, 2016 12:34:25 GMT
I think I have a good idea of why you find this time of year difficult from what you have posted before trent.
I just thought I'd bring up the topic of Seasonal Affective Disorder. I hope you don't mind mate. I know my worst days are in the winter and if SAD is making this time of the year worse for you (than it might be), it could be worth looking into. Here's a useful 7 pages from MIND:-
Seasonal affective disorder
Just a thought. Anyway come back soon - we are all out of decent movie and TV threads!
My mrs has an under active thyroid and it throws up similar symptoms I didn't realise that - thanks for the info. My thyroid is slowly on the way out - it's still producing adequate thyroxine just now but it will be something I'll have to watch out for.
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Post by elystokie on Dec 23, 2016 14:20:40 GMT
My mrs has an under active thyroid and it throws up similar symptoms I didn't realise that - thanks for the info. My thyroid is slowly on the way out - it's still producing adequate thyroxine just now but it will be something I'll have to watch out for. I read somewhere that sea kelp helps regulate the thyroid, bit of family history of problems in that area so I take a tablet a day as a precaution, could be a blood type thing, can't remember.
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Post by Skankmonkey on Dec 23, 2016 14:33:35 GMT
I didn't realise that - thanks for the info. My thyroid is slowly on the way out - it's still producing adequate thyroxine just now but it will be something I'll have to watch out for. I read somewhere that sea kelp helps regulate the thyroid, bit of family history of problems in that area so I take a tablet a day as a precaution, could be a blood type thing, can't remember. I've been going for regular blood tests since 2012. It came to light as a result of looking for something else. My sluggardly thyroid is kept going by a hyperactive pituitary hormone. It hasn't got worse or better. I'll bear the kelp in mind though.
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Post by mattador78 on Dec 23, 2016 15:46:33 GMT
I didn't realise that - thanks for the info. My thyroid is slowly on the way out - it's still producing adequate thyroxine just now but it will be something I'll have to watch out for. I read somewhere that sea kelp helps regulate the thyroid, bit of family history of problems in that area so I take a tablet a day as a precaution, could be a blood type thing, can't remember. Crispy seaweed from the chinese tonight then and i ll tell her its for health purposes 👍
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Post by murphthesurf on Dec 23, 2016 16:15:52 GMT
I read somewhere that sea kelp helps regulate the thyroid, bit of family history of problems in that area so I take a tablet a day as a precaution, could be a blood type thing, can't remember. Crispy seaweed from the chinese tonight then and i ll tell her its for health purposes 👍 I thought what they call 'crispy seaweed' in Chinese restaurants is usually finely-shredded cabbage that has been deep fried????
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Post by mattador78 on Dec 23, 2016 16:44:45 GMT
Crispy seaweed from the chinese tonight then and i ll tell her its for health purposes 👍 I thought what they call 'crispy seaweed' in Chinese restaurants is usually finely-shredded cabbage that has been deep fried???? God knows but its tasty
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Post by Skankmonkey on Dec 23, 2016 17:01:02 GMT
Crispy seaweed from the chinese tonight then and i ll tell her its for health purposes 👍 I thought what they call 'crispy seaweed' in Chinese restaurants is usually finely-shredded cabbage that has been deep fried???? That was my understanding as well.
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Post by mattador78 on Dec 23, 2016 17:15:37 GMT
I thought what they call 'crispy seaweed' in Chinese restaurants is usually finely-shredded cabbage that has been deep fried???? That was my understanding as well. Mrs says the bastards she would have em under trades description act and boycott it if it wasnt so tasty
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Post by blurtonboy on Dec 23, 2016 17:43:38 GMT
Family?
Hate them, love them, thats about 99.99% Of my problems.
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Post by jimigoodwinsbeard on Dec 23, 2016 18:12:21 GMT
The referral went as i thought, the counsellor told my wife it was like pulling teeth to get him to talk. He did say that 2 events have upset him, finding out his grandad died on facebook (3mths after the event) and his cousin being sectioned for a night and the aftermath of the family all being upset. Counsellor asked him numerous questions, all "dunno" answers, he said he didnt understand some of the questions he was asking? He would as he is an intelligent lad! Counsellor said he has no immediate concerns, going again in couple weeks. My wife says she has to go down the tough love route? Counsellor asked what kept him going, dunno same reply. Wife asked hom after and he said his mates at school and when he gets home chatting on socoal media to them. Why not tell the counsellor then? We askes him what he expected...'doctor tells me i've got depression and give me some pills'. Its a start at least. Any progress, mate? Hope all goes really well for you and your lad in 2017. Hopefully this time next year, it will be no more than an unpleasant memory from which you have all moved on. Not really. He had second meeting on weds. Counsellor says nothing really can do at moment as he doesnt really speak when they have a session, he tells him he's ok and is at happiest when at school, still has issues with his sister (they are chalk and cheese and 7yrs apart). Counsellor has said no more sessions planned due to non-response, need to keep eye on his weight. There are good days and bad days with him, as with his mum really, we started going badminton on tuesday and he told his mum that he really enjoyed it, so will keep that up (keeps me active for hour as well!!). Hes gonna join gym with his uncle after xmas so hopefully that will keep him a bit more focused. We'll get there hopefully, can see it being a long long road (especially when he leaves school and hasnt got stuff to do each day?), but hes my stepson and I have to just try to help him, if and when he asks me. And i'll be there for him and my wife whatever happens. Thanks for the advice, its appreciated.
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Post by mattador78 on Dec 23, 2016 19:03:42 GMT
Any progress, mate? Hope all goes really well for you and your lad in 2017. Hopefully this time next year, it will be no more than an unpleasant memory from which you have all moved on. Not really. He had second meeting on weds. Counsellor says nothing really can do at moment as he doesnt really speak when they have a session, he tells him he's ok and is at happiest when at school, still has issues with his sister (they are chalk and cheese and 7yrs apart). Counsellor has said no more sessions planned due to non-response, need to keep eye on his weight. There are good days and bad days with him, as with his mum really, we started going badminton on tuesday and he told his mum that he really enjoyed it, so will keep that up (keeps me active for hour as well!!). Hes gonna join gym with his uncle after xmas so hopefully that will keep him a bit more focused. We'll get there hopefully, can see it being a long long road (especially when he leaves school and hasnt got stuff to do each day?), but hes my stepson and I have to just try to help him, if and when he asks me. And i'll be there for him and my wife whatever happens. Thanks for the advice, its appreciated. Top man merry christmas to you and yours
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2016 1:59:26 GMT
just looking forward to Jan 2nd. Hang in pal. Hope everyone makes it through the Christmas shitshow. Remember, it's not real. The only real thing is you and being yourself.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Dec 24, 2016 7:23:47 GMT
just looking forward to Jan 2nd. Hang in pal. Hope everyone makes it through the Christmas shitshow. Remember, it's not real. The only real thing is you and being yourself. Everyone should read your statement above at least once just as a reminder not to get too dragged into what others are doing and focus on what's important. Well said.
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Post by potterinleeds on Dec 24, 2016 16:57:01 GMT
Any progress, mate? Hope all goes really well for you and your lad in 2017. Hopefully this time next year, it will be no more than an unpleasant memory from which you have all moved on. Not really. He had second meeting on weds. Counsellor says nothing really can do at moment as he doesnt really speak when they have a session, he tells him he's ok and is at happiest when at school, still has issues with his sister (they are chalk and cheese and 7yrs apart). Counsellor has said no more sessions planned due to non-response, need to keep eye on his weight. There are good days and bad days with him, as with his mum really, we started going badminton on tuesday and he told his mum that he really enjoyed it, so will keep that up (keeps me active for hour as well!!). Hes gonna join gym with his uncle after xmas so hopefully that will keep him a bit more focused. We'll get there hopefully, can see it being a long long road (especially when he leaves school and hasnt got stuff to do each day?), but hes my stepson and I have to just try to help him, if and when he asks me. And i'll be there for him and my wife whatever happens. Thanks for the advice, its appreciated. All the best, mate. As you say, it's a long road, but again, it sounds from what you have said that you are making small, positive steps. I hope 2017 brings many more positive developments.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2016 5:41:12 GMT
Culled from the Grand Old Team thread:
Nice tweetstrom from JK Rowling
I’ve had so many lovely messages wishing me a merry Christmas. Thank you! 1/12 I’ve also heard from people who are going through very tough times. These always seem worse at Christmas. 2/12 At this time of year, we’re bombarded with images of perfect lives, which bear as little relation to reality as tinsel does to gold. 3/12 If you’re lucky enough to be with the people you love, warm and safe, with enough to eat, I’m sure you feel as blessed as I do. 4/12 But if your life is currently full of difficulties; if you aren’t where you want to be, either literally or figuratively, 5/12 remember that extraordinary transformations are possible. Everything changes. Nothing is forever. 6/12 Thinking back to my worst Christmas, I found it hard to believe that my unhappiness would pass. I was truly afraid of the future. 7/12 You never know what the future holds. Astonishing reversals of fortune happen every minute. 8/12 So if you’re sad, or lonely, or bereaved, or ill, separated from your loved ones or in any other way suffering this Christmas, 9/12 I send you love and wish you luck and better times. Millions of us have been where you are now. 10/12
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Post by chuffedstokie on Dec 25, 2016 7:55:20 GMT
Culled from the Grand Old Team thread: Nice tweetstrom from JK Rowling I’ve had so many lovely messages wishing me a merry Christmas. Thank you! 1/12 I’ve also heard from people who are going through very tough times. These always seem worse at Christmas. 2/12 At this time of year, we’re bombarded with images of perfect lives, which bear as little relation to reality as tinsel does to gold. 3/12 If you’re lucky enough to be with the people you love, warm and safe, with enough to eat, I’m sure you feel as blessed as I do. 4/12 But if your life is currently full of difficulties; if you aren’t where you want to be, either literally or figuratively, 5/12 remember that extraordinary transformations are possible. Everything changes. Nothing is forever. 6/12 Thinking back to my worst Christmas, I found it hard to believe that my unhappiness would pass. I was truly afraid of the future. 7/12 You never know what the future holds. Astonishing reversals of fortune happen every minute. 8/12 So if you’re sad, or lonely, or bereaved, or ill, separated from your loved ones or in any other way suffering this Christmas, 9/12 I send you love and wish you luck and better times. Millions of us have been where you are now. 10/12 A brief read of this puts things into some perspective.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Jan 10, 2017 22:16:00 GMT
Well into 2017 now and hopefully all went well for Oatcake dwellers. I tried but failed to grab some time with my son over my week off but he's well and truly leading a fulfilled life these days. Our couple of recent pre Christmas meetings after 6 years apart at least went some way to re igniting our relationship. Hopefully 2017 will present more opportunities to build on re establishing some sort of bond. Here's to better times ahead and whatever that may hold. Belated Happy new year.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 10, 2017 22:26:42 GMT
Well into 2017 now and hopefully all went well for Oatcake dwellers. I tried but failed to grab some time with my son over my week off but he's well and truly leading a fulfilled life these days. Our couple of recent pre Christmas meetings after 6 years apart at least went some way to re igniting our relationship. Hopefully 2017 will present more opportunities to build on re establishing some sort of bond. Here's to better times ahead and whatever that may hold. Belated Happy new year. Hope things go well with your son and that you maintain a level of contact that suits you both.
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Post by Skankmonkey on Feb 25, 2017 13:17:44 GMT
Trump.
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Post by yeokel on Feb 25, 2017 13:23:12 GMT
I see what you did there
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Post by trentvale68 on Feb 26, 2017 16:33:33 GMT
More daylight on the horizon as we move into March and say goodbye to winter; although it hasn't been a particularly bad one, it seems to have gone on for ever.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2017 17:06:53 GMT
More daylight on the horizon as we move into March and say goodbye to winter; although it hasn't been a particularly bad one, it seems to have gone on for ever. Feb is a very difficult month.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2017 20:53:17 GMT
I'm really depressed today, or tonight for that matter. Two reasons!
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Post by Caerwrangonpotter on Feb 26, 2017 21:01:31 GMT
While we chat about it within the forum & make sure it's a problem that we don't shy away from, then we can all help either each other or someone who we know. Hey, I suffer from depression. I still can't deal with it now, and what hurts the most is that my wonderfully understanding wife knows that their is not a lot she can do. The classic case of my worst enemy being myself.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Feb 26, 2017 21:26:29 GMT
While we chat about it within the forum & make sure it's a problem that we don't shy away from, then we can all help either each other or someone who we know. Hey, I suffer from depression. I still can't deal with it now, and what hurts the most is that my wonderfully understanding wife knows that their is not a lot she can do. The classic case of my worst enemy being myself. As unlikely a place this may seem to discuss things I've found it to be really beneficial, more so of late with a gradual reintroduction situation with my son. Port in a storm as it were.
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Post by Bojan Mackey on Feb 26, 2017 21:27:43 GMT
I'm waiting for a phonecall for a session for some high intensity behavioural therapy, as I've been diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, it's cost me my job, and indeed since I was diagnosed with it back in around November time I've felt pretty shit.
I'm 24 now and since around the age of around 10 I've always had some kind of background stress going on and I've witnessed quite a few family members passing away whilst I was only a nipper, and it's finally caught up with me and turned me into the biggest wreck I've been in my life, I'm combating it the best I can, because I know there's nothing physically wrong with me, but as anyone who suffers with this shit will attest to, your brain doesn't half try its best to make you think otherwise.
I've felt down, constantly tired, on edge, like the world I'm viewing isn't real, like a failure, but it's not defeating me, I've got a great family, a great social circle, and even though I'm at the lowest point of my life so far, I know that this is only a temporary speedbump on the motorway of living.
I've left a few posts on here before about any guys and girls out there who are suffering to seek out advice, and I'd like to emphasise that point again, you're not alone, and just because you've tried something before and it hasn't worked, doesn't mean you're beyond repair, it just means you need to try something different, we're all wired up uniquely.
Indeed I'm at the stage now where I'm royally fucked off with it, and I am better than I was around Christmas time, I was an absolute mess that was suffering between 7-8 Anxiety attacks a day, which were ruining every aspect of my life, indeed I couldn't even have a wank without feeling like I was genuinely dying, which when you're 24 and single is an aspect of your life that you don't want to be missing out on.
I've learned to deal with my trigger points, and coping behaviours that I was using during the really dark period, and now I've just got to get the help I need to rid myself of this constant background stress/panic that I realise now I've had for years and it's just never manifested itself.
To all of you suffering at the moment, be it physically or mentally, you're not on your own, and indeed if the cocky twat that I am can admit he's faulty, then you definitely can, please don't take that the wrong way either, you can fall into a trap where you feel like you're admitting defeat when you seek out some help, you're doing the opposite, you're just starting the fightback.
Stay strong Stokies, and indeed anyone else who reads this x
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Post by chuffedstokie on Feb 28, 2017 21:19:53 GMT
I'm waiting for a phonecall for a session for some high intensity behavioural therapy, as I've been diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, it's cost me my job, and indeed since I was diagnosed with it back in around November time I've felt pretty shit. I'm 24 now and since around the age of around 10 I've always had some kind of background stress going on and I've witnessed quite a few family members passing away whilst I was only a nipper, and it's finally caught up with me and turned me into the biggest wreck I've been in my life, I'm combating it the best I can, because I know there's nothing physically wrong with me, but as anyone who suffers with this shit will attest to, your brain doesn't half try its best to make you think otherwise. I've felt down, constantly tired, on edge, like the world I'm viewing isn't real, like a failure, but it's not defeating me, I've got a great family, a great social circle, and even though I'm at the lowest point of my life so far, I know that this is only a temporary speedbump on the motorway of living. I've left a few posts on here before about any guys and girls out there who are suffering to seek out advice, and I'd like to emphasise that point again, you're not alone, and just because you've tried something before and it hasn't worked, doesn't mean you're beyond repair, it just means you need to try something different, we're all wired up uniquely. Indeed I'm at the stage now where I'm royally fucked off with it, and I am better than I was around Christmas time, I was an absolute mess that was suffering between 7-8 Anxiety attacks a day, which were ruining every aspect of my life, indeed I couldn't even have a wank without feeling like I was genuinely dying, which when you're 24 and single is an aspect of your life that you don't want to be missing out on. I've learned to deal with my trigger points, and coping behaviours that I was using during the really dark period, and now I've just got to get the help I need to rid myself of this constant background stress/panic that I realise now I've had for years and it's just never manifested itself. To all of you suffering at the moment, be it physically or mentally, you're not on your own, and indeed if the cocky twat that I am can admit he's faulty, then you definitely can, please don't take that the wrong way either, you can fall into a trap where you feel like you're admitting defeat when you seek out some help, you're doing the opposite, you're just starting the fightback. Stay strong Stokies, and indeed anyone else who reads this x Hang on in there. My son is 25 in June and he's the one I'm gradually getting to know again after a 6 year absence. So many different challenges for us all to face on an almost daily basis. None of this is easy but it's got to be worth the effort.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2017 21:28:46 GMT
I'm waiting for a phonecall for a session for some high intensity behavioural therapy, as I've been diagnosed with GAD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, it's cost me my job, and indeed since I was diagnosed with it back in around November time I've felt pretty shit. I'm 24 now and since around the age of around 10 I've always had some kind of background stress going on and I've witnessed quite a few family members passing away whilst I was only a nipper, and it's finally caught up with me and turned me into the biggest wreck I've been in my life, I'm combating it the best I can, because I know there's nothing physically wrong with me, but as anyone who suffers with this shit will attest to, your brain doesn't half try its best to make you think otherwise. I've felt down, constantly tired, on edge, like the world I'm viewing isn't real, like a failure, but it's not defeating me, I've got a great family, a great social circle, and even though I'm at the lowest point of my life so far, I know that this is only a temporary speedbump on the motorway of living. I've left a few posts on here before about any guys and girls out there who are suffering to seek out advice, and I'd like to emphasise that point again, you're not alone, and just because you've tried something before and it hasn't worked, doesn't mean you're beyond repair, it just means you need to try something different, we're all wired up uniquely. Indeed I'm at the stage now where I'm royally fucked off with it, and I am better than I was around Christmas time, I was an absolute mess that was suffering between 7-8 Anxiety attacks a day, which were ruining every aspect of my life, indeed I couldn't even have a wank without feeling like I was genuinely dying, which when you're 24 and single is an aspect of your life that you don't want to be missing out on. I've learned to deal with my trigger points, and coping behaviours that I was using during the really dark period, and now I've just got to get the help I need to rid myself of this constant background stress/panic that I realise now I've had for years and it's just never manifested itself. To all of you suffering at the moment, be it physically or mentally, you're not on your own, and indeed if the cocky twat that I am can admit he's faulty, then you definitely can, please don't take that the wrong way either, you can fall into a trap where you feel like you're admitting defeat when you seek out some help, you're doing the opposite, you're just starting the fightback. Stay strong Stokies, and indeed anyone else who reads this x BM - you don't know me from Adam - I read the board a lot but I don't often post. I was feeling extremely low tonight and I remembered Trentvale and others talking openly and honestly about the stuff that's affected them, so I came here looking for the thread. Strange place to come looking for help, when I don't really know anyone, but... there you go. I feel like shit at the moment but your post above has helped me. Thanks.
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Post by borat on May 2, 2017 22:06:34 GMT
Just revisiting this thread after hearing about Aaron Lennon. I couldn't believe the things I posted at the start of the thread, but I was in a dark place. Im much more positive at the moment and I've got some of my confidence back. My son is 3 now and growing up to be a little star, he is the main reason I keep going. Just hope I stay positive for a while!
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