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Post by french toast on Jan 10, 2009 2:16:59 GMT
me ex is taking back random blokes to my chids house whilst she is asleep is there anything i can do?
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Post by french toast on Jan 10, 2009 2:23:39 GMT
my child is 3 months old
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Post by french toast on Jan 10, 2009 2:48:17 GMT
they wont help, will they, slut, it would be hard anyway, but my daughter is involved
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Post by Northy on Jan 10, 2009 7:43:26 GMT
local authority issue, could be "unfit to be a mother" but can you take the responsibilty on when out to work? Would you welcome her going into foster care?
May just shake your ex up a bit if social services come calling, but she may also se it as you been arsey and try and deny you access?
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Post by Rebelliousjukebox on Jan 10, 2009 11:17:49 GMT
I'd have thought, in reality, that Social Services, or for that matter the Police, would only be interested if there was any genuine reason to suspect that any of the blokes concerned posed a danger to your child.
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Post by stokiemac on Jan 10, 2009 11:34:52 GMT
I dont know the details or anything but is there no way to arrange that when she goes out you could have your Daughter for the evening both stopping you worrying and letting you have some time with her?
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Post by french toast on Jan 10, 2009 11:41:05 GMT
i was pissed last night just foeget this thread, until the next time, shes a good mum really, apart from stopping me seeing the little un from time to timed, she wouldnt let any harm come to my kid, cheers anyway people
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Post by frasiertruffles on Jan 10, 2009 12:43:04 GMT
She has the right to take people back to her home stokie.
and i was only there an hour or so ;D
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Post by mermaidsal on Jan 10, 2009 13:31:37 GMT
i was pissed last night just foeget this thread, until the next time, shes a good mum really, apart from stopping me seeing the little un from time to timed, she wouldnt let any harm come to my kid, cheers anyway people Well, ok but if there is a problem it's honestly worth taking the time to talk to a CAB legal adviser just so you know where you stand and what the moves are if something does go wrong, I just find it's always that much easier when you know the score. |
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Post by frasiertruffles on Jan 10, 2009 14:40:44 GMT
Sorry stokie it was a silly joke. You listen to aunt Sally she's the sensible one............ .......sometimes  |
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Post by wizzardofdribble on Jan 11, 2009 12:55:25 GMT
Not a lot you can do about it..a really difficult one this...unless these men pose a 'serious-risk' to your daughter..then call Social Services..but otherwise they wouldn't get involved and The Police do anything they can not to get involved in 'domestics'...
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Post by BrenSCFC on Jan 11, 2009 13:19:19 GMT
My (un asked for) advice would actually be to try not to get too drunk while you are where are at.. We've all been there (well most of us) and the last thing you need when you are hurting is the confusion of being pissed.. Hope I dont sound like your dad.
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Post by st0kecity on Jan 11, 2009 13:33:44 GMT
Stokie, you sound like you still have a lot of feelings for this woman, and you need to try and put them to one side for the sake of your little girl.
I know its hard, especially when you have had a drink and you feel a bit low. She has her own life now, as you do yours and you both need to try and get on with things individually for the sake of your daughter.
Its all a bit raw for you at the moment, but it will get better, and regardless what happens in the future you will always be her Daddy. Keep smiling mate
x
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Post by french toast on Jan 11, 2009 19:33:23 GMT
cheers everyone, yes i do still have feelings for her, but its quite a difficult situation because my family and mates stay out of it, because i have told them, yet her family and friends are always involved, yet it has jack shit to do with them, it pisses me off these people judging me when they aint even tried to walk in my shoes, but never mind times a great healer and all that, it just feels like everything is on top of me at the moment and i need to sort it all out now, not tomorrow- but everything has to be a long process
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Post by frasiertruffles on Jan 11, 2009 21:08:51 GMT
It'll take years mate. My ex is still bitter after 13year  |
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