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Post by StokieNath on Apr 16, 2016 21:37:30 GMT
After commiting myself to move to the US, I've still got a huge decision to make, leaving my family behind, feels horrible...
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Post by mumf on Apr 16, 2016 21:43:25 GMT
Difficult in that respect , but very easy in others .
Given the the opportunity I would have had no hesitation . America has a lot more to offer than the UK . More space , better opportunities and a better quality of life .
just do eet...Your family can still come to visit .
mumf
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Post by crapslinger on Apr 16, 2016 21:49:47 GMT
After commiting myself to move to the US, I've still got a huge decision to make, leaving my family behind, feels horrible... I have the same dilemma, very difficult decision takes a lot of balls, however we only have one chance at life sometimes you have to be selfish as horrible as it feels now.
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Post by samba :) on Apr 16, 2016 22:27:51 GMT
After commiting myself to move to the US, I've still got a huge decision to make, leaving my family behind, feels horrible... You're committed now.. Just think what would All the family you're leaving do if they were in your shoes and the effect it would have on you
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Post by maninasuitcase on Apr 16, 2016 22:32:31 GMT
Always look forward. Never look back. Don't ever feel guilty about wanting to better yourself. Family will alway be there opportunities will not.
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Post by mumf on Apr 17, 2016 0:05:20 GMT
I dont wish to sound harsh or cruel , but when sfance decided to blight the population of the US in a similar fashion half the population of Newcastle under Lyme put at least a pound in the jar to ensure his safe passage .
A one way ticket of course ....I put £20 in , which was a weeks wages at the time .
mumf
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Post by elystokie on Apr 17, 2016 2:44:28 GMT
I dont wish to sound harsh or cruel , but when sfance decided to blight the population of the US in a similar fashion half the population of Newcastle under Lyme put at least a pound in the jar to ensure his safe passage . A one way ticket of course ....I put £20 in , which was a weeks wages at the time . mumf Sfance told me they did the same for you mumf? Apparently so many people contributed so much money you had enough to buy a house so you stayed? ;)
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Post by harryburrows on Apr 17, 2016 3:43:27 GMT
Difficult in that respect , but very easy in others . Given the the opportunity I would have had no hesitation . America has a lot more to offer than the UK . More space , better opportunities and a better quality of life . just do eet...Your family can still come to visit . mumf My son and his family just told me yesterday they are coming home after 4 years from Australia, they have a fantastic life , live near the Sydney beaches , great life style good salary. Just homesick and miss the family too much . I think he's mental
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Post by elystokie on Apr 17, 2016 3:55:14 GMT
Difficult in that respect , but very easy in others . Given the the opportunity I would have had no hesitation . America has a lot more to offer than the UK . More space , better opportunities and a better quality of life . just do eet...Your family can still come to visit . mumf My son and his family just told me yesterday they are coming home after 4 years from Australia, they have a fantastic life , live near the Sydney beaches , great life style good salary. Just homesick and miss the family too much . I think he's mental Apparently 50% that go there don't stay long term.
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Post by harryburrows on Apr 17, 2016 4:03:02 GMT
My son and his family just told me yesterday they are coming home after 4 years from Australia, they have a fantastic life , live near the Sydney beaches , great life style good salary. Just homesick and miss the family too much . I think he's mental Apparently 50% that go there don't stay long term. Is it 50% , that's an interesting stat .
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Post by elystokie on Apr 17, 2016 4:11:36 GMT
Apparently 50% that go there don't stay long term. Is it 50% , that's an interesting stat . That's what I heard, think it was on one of those 'Wanted Down Under' programmes, definitely on the tv anyway.
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Post by harryburrows on Apr 17, 2016 4:24:04 GMT
Is it 50% , that's an interesting stat . That's what I heard, think it was on one of those 'Wanted Down Under' programmes, definitely on the tv anyway. My sons permanent residency came through this week so he's got 5 years to change his mind
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Post by elystokie on Apr 17, 2016 4:49:41 GMT
That's what I heard, think it was on one of those 'Wanted Down Under' programmes, definitely on the tv anyway. My sons permanent residency came through this week so he's got 5 years to change his mind That's handy, if he can't settle back here he's at least got choices, which is more than a lot of people have. If my kids emigrate I'm probably going with 'em, it wasn't until one of them went travelling that I realised how much I miss them and furthermore what I put my own parents through when I fucked off to join the navy.
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Post by Timmypotter on Apr 17, 2016 5:01:09 GMT
I did 6 months in Sydney in my mid 20s and had the option to stay on permanently. Aus is a great place but it's just so far away. And not just far away from here - it's far away from everywhere. It's a 5 hour flight from Sydney to Perth! The idea that if you needed to get back for a family emergency it'd take more than a day was not nice. I guess this wouldn't be so much of an issue depending on where in the states you're going.
And that said my cousin moved to San Fran 5 years ago and I don't think he'll ever come back. He is from Biddle Mo though so it's understandable.
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Post by harryburrows on Apr 17, 2016 7:25:18 GMT
My sons permanent residency came through this week so he's got 5 years to change his mind That's handy, if he can't settle back here he's at least got choices, which is more than a lot of people have. If my kids emigrate I'm probably going with 'em, it wasn't until one of them went travelling that I realised how much I miss them and furthermore what I put my own parents through when I fucked off to join the navy. If your kids decide to emigrate they may be going to get away from you
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Post by nik80 on Apr 17, 2016 7:34:41 GMT
Can only speak for myself but I always feel it's better to try and hold your hands up if it doesn't work out rather than cocooning yourself and living in ignorance. Suppose regret's a two way street but I'd rather learn from an experience than spend the rest of my days wondering what if...
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Post by Linx on Apr 17, 2016 9:17:59 GMT
Thirty years ago I had the choice between taking up an MA at a university in Ohio (linked to a teaching assistantship, so it would have cost me nowt and I would have earned a bit of dosh) or starting my career in England. Sick of being a poor student, I opted for the latter and have always regretted it.
Go for it, is my advice. The USA is only a plane ride away and your family will love the cheap holidays they get from visiting you!
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Post by manmarking on Apr 17, 2016 9:22:14 GMT
I'd like to emigrate one day but not further afield than Europe. Go for it - you only live once and transatlantic flights are plentiful and relatively cheap. Also, you can always come back but you can't always go out so seize the opportunity
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Post by Gods on Apr 17, 2016 10:38:48 GMT
I think the USA is a great place to live if you have a good job. Relatively low taxes and in turn free from nanny state 'one size fits all' approach you have to public services in much of Europe. If you don't though I think it can be tough.
For me the best thing about the USA is it's nature and scenery, its national parks are stunning.
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Post by Rick Grimes on Apr 17, 2016 12:43:35 GMT
Thought about it often and the US is very appealing but I can't see it happening, the Mrs wouldn't leave her family anyway.
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Post by manmarking on Apr 17, 2016 12:59:26 GMT
Thought about it often and the US is very appealing but I can't see it happening, the Mrs wouldn't leave her family anyway. Hang on, I thought we already emigrated to Thailand mate?!
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Post by felonious on Apr 17, 2016 13:37:49 GMT
Difficult in that respect , but very easy in others . Given the the opportunity I would have had no hesitation . America has a lot more to offer than the UK . More space , better opportunities and a better quality of life . just do eet...Your family can still come to visit . mumf My son and his family just told me yesterday they are coming home after 4 years from Australia, they have a fantastic life , live near the Sydney beaches , great life style good salary. Just homesick and miss the family too much . I think he's mental Chip off the old block?
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Post by elystokie on Apr 17, 2016 15:30:36 GMT
That's handy, if he can't settle back here he's at least got choices, which is more than a lot of people have. If my kids emigrate I'm probably going with 'em, it wasn't until one of them went travelling that I realised how much I miss them and furthermore what I put my own parents through when I fucked off to join the navy. If your kids decide to emigrate they may be going to get away from you :) :)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2016 17:26:28 GMT
My daughter lives in Liverpool, I would find it easier to go to the USA being honest =)
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Post by Billy the kid on Apr 17, 2016 17:49:06 GMT
Dont be a mard arse get yourself gone. If its not right you can always come back. The alternative is you will live your life thinking what if?
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Post by felonious on Apr 17, 2016 17:57:21 GMT
I don't think you should commit yourself until Donald Trump is safely back in Scotland.
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Post by harryburrows on Apr 17, 2016 18:54:48 GMT
I think the USA is a great place to live if you have a good job. Relatively low taxes and in turn free from nanny state 'one size fits all' approach you have to public services in much of Europe. If you don't though I think it can be tough. For me the best thing about the USA is it's nature and scenery, its national parks are stunning. Totally agree I spent a lot of time working there during the 80s , almost bought a business in west palm beach unfortunately it fell through right at the end so came home . Like you say if you are prosperous it's a great life but there are no safety nets
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Post by LL Cool Dave on Apr 17, 2016 19:52:02 GMT
It's something I would have considered and definitely should have done a few years ago, but having just (finally) given my mum her first Grandchild a couple of years ago, personally I couldn't put her through the trauma of taking the Grandkid thousands of miles away, it'd break her heart.
At best, I could engineer myself towards living in Spain or the Canaries during the winter and spend my spring and summers here. That'd do me.
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Post by Gods on Apr 17, 2016 20:15:41 GMT
I think the USA is a great place to live if you have a good job. Relatively low taxes and in turn free from nanny state 'one size fits all' approach you have to public services in much of Europe. If you don't though I think it can be tough. For me the best thing about the USA is it's nature and scenery, its national parks are stunning. Totally agree I spent a lot of time working there during the 80s , almost bought a business in west palm beach unfortunately it fell through right at the end so came home . Like you say if you are prosperous it's a great life but there are no safety nets Yes I lived in Minnesota for a year at one point and I now travel to California about once every 3 months with work. I also travel to Texas from time to time. But you are right about no safety nets. They call Texas the "You're on your own" state. Personally I think it makes for a very edgy and exciting place but I can see if you are down on your luck it won't be much fun though!
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Post by neworleanstokie on Apr 17, 2016 21:37:04 GMT
27 years - no regrets whatsoever mate.
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