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Post by offthewall on May 20, 2011 15:02:35 GMT
I always thought I would never do one of these.
A couple of years ago I started a thread on here asking for advice regarding my Dad's Alzheimers, to all those who tried to help and sent their good wishes, I thank you. We eventually got him settled in a wonderful care home with some of the best carers you could ever hope to get.
My wonderful Dad lost his battle with this disease about 36 hours ago, thank heavens. The last 3 years plus have been a living hell for all of our family and proved too much for my Mum just 12 months ago.
My Dad was from Northern Ireland but married a Cheadle girl whilst over here in the RAF in the 50's, he began going to Stoke and took me from the early 70's, it was our time together. Now I take my son.
At Wembley my son and I sang 'Abide with me' load and proud as we will next week at the funeral.
One match V Arsenal (first game of the season, i think) it really did kick off, first in the boothern right where i was, then outside the paddock at the end of the match. I manged to get myself in a road on my own with 200 deranged Arse supporters who were hitting each other in a frenzy. I was busy practicing my cockney accent and eventually made it to where we always parked. From the corner shop entrance, out stepped Dad, right into the middle of the melee....all he said was "Alright Son" whilst staring straight at these London thugs. He was fearless.
If you ever think that football is ever about Pulis, Wags, big wages or whatever then i for one think your wrong, forever going to Stoke for me will be about the love my father showed me and how proud my mother was of coming from where some of the warmest people in the world come from.
If I can be half as good a father as he was, i'll have done alright. Goodnight Dad. X
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Post by madeinstoke on May 20, 2011 15:04:56 GMT
sorry to hear of your loss mate.
Rest In Peace Sir, goodnight god bless.xx
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Post by digger on May 20, 2011 15:05:09 GMT
rip mate
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Post by StokieBoy31 on May 20, 2011 15:07:07 GMT
R.I.P
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Post by redblue on May 20, 2011 15:07:18 GMT
Sorry to here of your sad lost, condolances to you and all your family.
May your dad rest in Peace
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Post by mark71 on May 20, 2011 15:07:21 GMT
Fantastic post mate. Alzheimer's is an awful disease and i fully understand your comments.
RIP.
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Post by liathroid on May 20, 2011 15:08:57 GMT
RIP
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Post by vodka on May 20, 2011 15:10:05 GMT
sorry offthewall
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Post by frasier45 on May 20, 2011 15:11:48 GMT
Godbless him
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Post by RINGO STARR on May 20, 2011 15:12:28 GMT
R.I.P
As a football supporter who attends games with his Dad each week, I can't imagine going to the game without him. My Dad's in his early 60's and his still working and healthy but I read things like this, and see things on the telly or in the paper that make you realize that one day illness and old age are around the corner.
It must be a bloody awful thing to witness and to handle and you have my utmost respect as well as my sympathy for the last three years and your recent loss.
For me, football is all about attending the game with my old man after a week at work, and an afternoon away from the wife and daughter. My time! A pint and a chin wag before, during and after the game. Without the old man there, the standard of football or league that we play it in would seem worthless.
R.I.P
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Post by simpson93 on May 20, 2011 15:13:09 GMT
off the wall, so sorry to hear about your dad and i total agree, football is all about being proud of where your from, lets hope sunday thay can do it for you dad,
Condolances to you and your family,
we'll be with you, every step along the way!
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Post by luke45 on May 20, 2011 15:13:17 GMT
Really sorry to hear of your loss David, condolonces to you and your family.
R.I.P
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Post by stokerob2 on May 20, 2011 15:13:56 GMT
R.I.P. My thoughts go out to you and your family x
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Post by theloudest on May 20, 2011 15:14:41 GMT
R.I.P
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Post by sufolkstokie on May 20, 2011 15:16:28 GMT
I know how distressing it is to see your dad whom you looked up to, change due to an awful illness.
May you and your family now find peace and comfort.
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Post by stokerob2 on May 20, 2011 15:16:33 GMT
R.I.P As a football supporter who attends games with his Dad each week, I can't imagine going to the game without him. My Dad's in his early 60's and his still working and healthy but I read things like this, and see things on the telly or in the paper that make you realize that one day illness and old age are around the corner. It must be a bloody awful thing to witness and to handle and you have my utmost respect as well as my sympathy for the last three years and your recent loss. For me, football is all about attending the game with my old man after a week at work, and an afternoon away from the wife and daughter. My time! A pint and a chin wag before, during and after the game. Without the old man there, the standard of football or league that we play it in would seem worthless. R.I.P Completely Agree.
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Post by Cupid Stunt on May 20, 2011 15:20:48 GMT
R.I.P. Alzheimer's is horrible and I can't imagine what it must be like to have a family member suffer from it. Stay strong.
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Post by stiggerstackle on May 20, 2011 15:23:26 GMT
RIP mate, so sorry to hear.
Totally agree with you about what being a football supporter is really all about - when I was a teenager (and an arsehole) me and my old man had fuck all to say to each other for about 6 years - the footy was always one thing we had that brought us together.
He's taken me to the match since I was 5, now I'm 38 and its me taking him to the match every week.
I'm currently looking for another season ticket closeby so I can carry on the tradition with my little 'un.
All the best mate.
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Post by DansViews on May 20, 2011 15:24:19 GMT
Sorry to hear of your loss, Alzheimers is a terrible disease, and a real strain on the whole family. I lost my nan last year, thank god she is in a better place now, and we can finally remember all the good times we had.
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Post by Lakeland Potter on May 20, 2011 15:25:41 GMT
David, so sorry to hear the news. As you may know my father had Alzheimer's for the last three years of his life and I know how distressing a disease it is for the whole family. Time is a great healer though and I have no doubt that as time passes you'll all get great comfort from being able to remember your dad in his prime.
You and the whole family take care and we will, of course, see you next season.
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Post by Yorkshirepotter on May 20, 2011 15:26:58 GMT
Beautiful post mate.
RIP to your Dad
Best wishes to you and your family, I hope the memories of the good times with your Dad help you all get through this.
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Post by chessie on May 20, 2011 15:32:06 GMT
RIP Well put, football for me is not about just the club, be it players, manager, chairman etc. It's about the beautiful people I've met & have yet to meet, some who I call friends. These wonderful past few seasons wouldn't mean half as much without these people. Even the darkest days of the past were made bearable by having my friends there. Sometimes football is secondary to what was/is going on in their lives. Politics, religion (well anything) are topics we talk about in great length. admittedly most of the time we ain't got the foggiest what we're on about, but that never stops us. So anyway offthewall, chin up & all that, hopefully you'll have mates like me who'll help you get over this sad time Best wishes Chessie (Pete)
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Post by castlerockstokie on May 20, 2011 15:35:04 GMT
Very sorry the hear your news. Best wishes to you and your family for the future.
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Post by march4 on May 20, 2011 15:37:22 GMT
God bless mate, to you and your family.
May your Dad rest in peace.
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Post by Huddysleftfoot on May 20, 2011 15:40:35 GMT
Sincere and heartfelt condolences to you and your family.
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Post by Kingswaystokie on May 20, 2011 15:41:18 GMT
What a lovely post and tribute to your Dad. Although I lost my old man many years ago, I still remember him lifting me over the turnstiles at the Vic and me sitting on his knee to watch the game. My late Mum was in the next seat and I always wondered why the flask of coffee smelt funny at half time, they used to like a drop of rum in it !
My son has been a proper stokie for many years, his lad should just about old enough to go next season, conner wait to see my Grandson becoming red and white.
Supporting our great club stems from all our parents getting us involved, your Dad sounded like a cracker.
Dunner worry, he will be watching from a special grandstand in the sky.
RIP Mucker.
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Post by stokiemark on May 20, 2011 15:43:14 GMT
god bless mate and R.I.P to a fellow stokie
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Post by chell_rosey on May 20, 2011 16:01:18 GMT
sorry to hear of your loss mate. Rest In Peace Sir, goodnight god bless.xx RIP your Dad, mate. He sounds like some man.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2011 16:15:17 GMT
A very touching post and RIP to your dad.
I think it was Man City who started a remembrance thing before the final game of the season for all the supporters who had passed away in the last year. I think they read the names out or put the names on the big screen.
I wonder if we could do something similar? Would be a fitting tribute.
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Post by southstanddan on May 20, 2011 16:16:04 GMT
Cant imagine going through what you have, all the best
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