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Post by chigstoke on Apr 26, 2022 15:53:03 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit. Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly. Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back. It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost. I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience. I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends. It took me a year to find a new job mate, start next Month I felt exactly the same as you, if it wasn’t for family, friends, Stoke, learning Spanish and the missus, I’d have topped myself by now Keep looking, ping your CV all around the gaff, you are good enough, you are qualified enough and you do work hard enough. I’ve seen people who aren’t as good as me at my job, are less qualified and don’t work as hard, get jobs because of who they know. The right place will come sooner than you think, and because that organisation has gave you the opportunity, you’ll love the job and fly to new heights. All the Stoke family has got faith in you pal👍🏻 What a lovely message, thank you mate.
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Post by chigstoke on May 6, 2022 16:04:47 GMT
Mini Update
Heard back off of a job I applied for this week, finally.
No dice, no interview.
Was for an Admin job, I've nearly 5 years continuous experience before my current job so was a wounder which I've let put a downer on the week.
Still other applications in that I'm yet to hear back from, trying to keep my head up. When the right one comes along...
On another note, I'm looking at hiring a Personal Trainer. I'd like to lose more weight and eventually get back into doing weights again. I've been a 'big guy' for a while weight wise. I can lift good weight but I've no definition at all visible because of body fat currently. So though I can 'see' weightlifting progress, I can't 'see' it on my body physically. And the effect on my mental health at this moment would be good I think.
At my brothers wedding next year so I must make it a mission to look shit hot.
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Post by felonious on May 6, 2022 16:20:07 GMT
Mini Update Heard back off of a job I applied for this week, finally. No dice, no interview. Was for an Admin job, I've nearly 5 years continuous experience before my current job so was a wounder which I've let put a downer on the week. Still other applications in that I'm yet to hear back from, trying to keep my head up. When the right one comes along... On another note, I'm looking at hiring a Personal Trainer. I'd like to lose more weight and eventually get back into doing weights again. I've been a 'big guy' for a while weight wise. I can lift good weight but I've no definition at all visible because of body fat currently. So though I can 'see' weightlifting progress, I can't 'see' it on my body physically. And the effect on my mental health at this moment would be good I think. At my brothers wedding next year so I must make it a mission to look shit hot. That's a shame Chig but keep plugging away there'll be something out there. As for the weights isn't muscle heavier than fat? Wouldn't you be better initially aiming at something aerobic? It's a great time of the year to start the process especially if you can get out there walking, smelling the flowers
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Post by Rednwhitenblue on May 6, 2022 16:30:11 GMT
Mini Update Heard back off of a job I applied for this week, finally. No dice, no interview. Was for an Admin job, I've nearly 5 years continuous experience before my current job so was a wounder which I've let put a downer on the week. Still other applications in that I'm yet to hear back from, trying to keep my head up. When the right one comes along... On another note, I'm looking at hiring a Personal Trainer. I'd like to lose more weight and eventually get back into doing weights again. I've been a 'big guy' for a while weight wise. I can lift good weight but I've no definition at all visible because of body fat currently. So though I can 'see' weightlifting progress, I can't 'see' it on my body physically. And the effect on my mental health at this moment would be good I think. At my brothers wedding next year so I must make it a mission to look shit hot. Hard luck on the job front, something will come up. On the PT front, I can heartily recommend it. Did a 10 week session, two sessions a week last year and it was great. Didn't do it to lose weight (I'm in great shape already ) but mainly for the buzz you inevitably get from the high intensity physical exercise and seeing yourself tone up a bit. Now I think about it, I might do the same again this summer too.
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Post by chigstoke on May 6, 2022 16:39:06 GMT
Mini Update Heard back off of a job I applied for this week, finally. No dice, no interview. Was for an Admin job, I've nearly 5 years continuous experience before my current job so was a wounder which I've let put a downer on the week. Still other applications in that I'm yet to hear back from, trying to keep my head up. When the right one comes along... On another note, I'm looking at hiring a Personal Trainer. I'd like to lose more weight and eventually get back into doing weights again. I've been a 'big guy' for a while weight wise. I can lift good weight but I've no definition at all visible because of body fat currently. So though I can 'see' weightlifting progress, I can't 'see' it on my body physically. And the effect on my mental health at this moment would be good I think. At my brothers wedding next year so I must make it a mission to look shit hot. That's a shame Chig but keep plugging away there'll be something out there. As for the weights isn't muscle heavier than fat? Wouldn't you be better initially aiming at something aerobic? It's a great time of the year to start the process especially if you can get out there walking, smelling the flowers Sorry Fel, I think I worded my PT bit wrong!
I do actually still walk around the block or Longton Park with a mate, sometimes a jog as well. Usually a walk though because we use it as good chance to catch up on each other's weeks.
But HIIT tends to lead to faster fat loss and increase in metabolism which is my hope with a PT (correct me if I've got that horribly wrong).
I've decided to myself that there isn't any point kidding myself. I need to lose weight. I'm a stone down from last November but I've stagnated. The first step is acknowledgement, the second step is putting words into actions.
Tired of being the unfit and big guy of the group of mates I hang around with. Sometimes I feel royally embarassed. Ofc, they don't care what I look like, they're all good lads and we support each other. But I'm 17st 9 and 5'8. It's not sustainable. And I've no shame in saying those stats publically.
I must take accountability, and it starts now. Onwards and fucking upwards
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Post by chigstoke on May 6, 2022 16:42:41 GMT
Mini Update Heard back off of a job I applied for this week, finally. No dice, no interview. Was for an Admin job, I've nearly 5 years continuous experience before my current job so was a wounder which I've let put a downer on the week. Still other applications in that I'm yet to hear back from, trying to keep my head up. When the right one comes along... On another note, I'm looking at hiring a Personal Trainer. I'd like to lose more weight and eventually get back into doing weights again. I've been a 'big guy' for a while weight wise. I can lift good weight but I've no definition at all visible because of body fat currently. So though I can 'see' weightlifting progress, I can't 'see' it on my body physically. And the effect on my mental health at this moment would be good I think. At my brothers wedding next year so I must make it a mission to look shit hot. Hard luck on the job front, something will come up. On the PT front, I can heartily recommend it. Did a 10 week session, two sessions a week last year and it was great. Didn't do it to lose weight (I'm in great shape already ) but mainly for the buzz you inevitably get from the high intensity physical exercise and seeing yourself tone up a bit. Now I think about it, I might do the same again this summer too. The PT I'm looking at works at the gym I used to go to before I moved to a different one.
I've seen first hand how great him and his missus are with clients, and some of the transformations have been incredible.
Of course, it's about what you put in as well.
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 6, 2022 17:08:10 GMT
That's a shame Chig but keep plugging away there'll be something out there. As for the weights isn't muscle heavier than fat? Wouldn't you be better initially aiming at something aerobic? It's a great time of the year to start the process especially if you can get out there walking, smelling the flowers Sorry Fel, I think I worded my PT bit wrong I do actually still walk around the block or Longton Park with a mate, sometimes a jog as well. Usually a walk though because we use it as good chance to catch up on each other's weeks.
But HIIT tends to lead to faster fat loss and increase in metabolism which is my hope with a PT (correct me if I've got that horribly wrong).
I've decided to myself that there isn't any point kidding myself. I need to lose weight. I'm a stone down from last November but I've stagnated. The first step is acknowledgement, the second step is putting words into actions. Tired of being the unfit and big guy of the group of mates I hang around with. Sometimes I feel royally embarassed. Ofc, they don't care what I look like, they're all good lads and we support each other. But I'm 17st 9 and 5'8. It's not sustainable. And I've no shame in saying those stats publically. I must take accountability, and it starts now. Onwards and fucking upwards Sorry to hear you didn’t get the job. I always thought you’d naturally lose weight if you excercise which isn’t the case. I was 4st overweight so joined Slimming World and loved it. It’s inspiring and a great journey plus you meet some lovely people. I lost 3 and a half stone in a year and it’s so great hearing nice things from people about how much healthier you look (i’m no oil painting so they couldn’t use great/good looking etc ) Give it a go you’ll never look back.
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Post by Orbs on May 6, 2022 19:58:58 GMT
That's a shame Chig but keep plugging away there'll be something out there. As for the weights isn't muscle heavier than fat? Wouldn't you be better initially aiming at something aerobic? It's a great time of the year to start the process especially if you can get out there walking, smelling the flowers Sorry Fel, I think I worded my PT bit wrong I do actually still walk around the block or Longton Park with a mate, sometimes a jog as well. Usually a walk though because we use it as good chance to catch up on each other's weeks.
But HIIT tends to lead to faster fat loss and increase in metabolism which is my hope with a PT (correct me if I've got that horribly wrong).
I've decided to myself that there isn't any point kidding myself. I need to lose weight. I'm a stone down from last November but I've stagnated. The first step is acknowledgement, the second step is putting words into actions. Tired of being the unfit and big guy of the group of mates I hang around with. Sometimes I feel royally embarassed. Ofc, they don't care what I look like, they're all good lads and we support each other. But I'm 17st 9 and 5'8. It's not sustainable. And I've no shame in saying those stats publically. I must take accountability, and it starts now. Onwards and fucking upwards Nicely dodged Chig. Watch out for Fel trying to get you into running. It’s probably all a ruse to try and bum you around Consall. Seriously, got to keep plugging away mate. Something will drop soon 👍🏻👍🏻
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Post by chigstoke on May 6, 2022 20:08:21 GMT
Sorry Fel, I think I worded my PT bit wrong I do actually still walk around the block or Longton Park with a mate, sometimes a jog as well. Usually a walk though because we use it as good chance to catch up on each other's weeks.
But HIIT tends to lead to faster fat loss and increase in metabolism which is my hope with a PT (correct me if I've got that horribly wrong).
I've decided to myself that there isn't any point kidding myself. I need to lose weight. I'm a stone down from last November but I've stagnated. The first step is acknowledgement, the second step is putting words into actions. Tired of being the unfit and big guy of the group of mates I hang around with. Sometimes I feel royally embarassed. Ofc, they don't care what I look like, they're all good lads and we support each other. But I'm 17st 9 and 5'8. It's not sustainable. And I've no shame in saying those stats publically. I must take accountability, and it starts now. Onwards and fucking upwards Nicely dodged Chig. Watch out for Fel trying to get you into running. It’s probably all a ruse to try and bum you around Consall. Seriously, got to keep plugging away mate. Something will drop soon 👍🏻👍🏻
Cheers mate, plug away I shall
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 6, 2022 20:11:19 GMT
Nicely dodged Chig. Watch out for Fel trying to get you into running. It’s probably all a ruse to try and bum you around Consall. Seriously, got to keep plugging away mate. Something will drop soon 👍🏻👍🏻
Cheers mate, plug away I shall Don’t give up mate, if you want it enough it’ll happen. That’s always been my problem, I got sick of trying but came out the other side triumphant. Good luck 👍🏻
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Post by sd22 on May 6, 2022 20:25:50 GMT
I went from 11st 10 to 14st 10 in just over a year (intentionally) I’m now at 12st 12. Hoping to lose a bit of % and keep the strength I built.
Being in the gym will do wonders for your mental health, it will take about 3 months to notice a difference yourself, even if other people notice. But once you see that first difference, it’s like crack(so I’m told!) you can’t get enough of it.
Just make sure you make a lifestyle out of it, fuck ‘diets’.
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 6, 2022 20:37:43 GMT
I went from 11st 10 to 14st 10 in just over a year (intentionally) I’m now at 12st 12. Hoping to lose a bit of % and keep the strength I built. Being in the gym will do wonders for your mental health, it will take about 3 months to notice a difference yourself, even if other people notice. But once you see that first difference, it’s like crack(so I’m told) you can’t get enough of it. Just make sure you make a lifestyle out of it, fuck ‘diets’. It’s all about balance. You need healthy eating not diet with excercise and you’ll have it cracked.
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Post by sd22 on May 6, 2022 20:48:32 GMT
I went from 11st 10 to 14st 10 in just over a year (intentionally) I’m now at 12st 12. Hoping to lose a bit of % and keep the strength I built. Being in the gym will do wonders for your mental health, it will take about 3 months to notice a difference yourself, even if other people notice. But once you see that first difference, it’s like crack(so I’m told) you can’t get enough of it. Just make sure you make a lifestyle out of it, fuck ‘diets’. It’s all about balance. You need healthy eating not diet with excercise and you’ll have it cracked. Exactly! Like before holiday I will do 2-3 weeks of no carbs. But for the rest of my life, I’ll continue with good weight training exercise, walking with my 40% protein 40% fat and 20% carb ‘diet’ I just adjust calories depending on gaining losing or maintaining. Find the balance that works for you, not for these 8 week fads
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 6, 2022 20:50:56 GMT
It’s all about balance. You need healthy eating not diet with excercise and you’ll have it cracked. Exactly Like before holiday I will do 2-3 weeks of no carbs. But for the rest of my life, I’ll continue with good weight training exercise, walking with my 40% protein 40% fat and 20% carb ‘diet’ I just adjust calories depending on gaining losing or maintaining. Find the balance that works for you, not for these 8 week fads Diets never work. What i would say with SW though is that you can eat a hell of a lot it just teaches you to eat the right things.
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Post by sd22 on May 6, 2022 21:07:04 GMT
Exactly Like before holiday I will do 2-3 weeks of no carbs. But for the rest of my life, I’ll continue with good weight training exercise, walking with my 40% protein 40% fat and 20% carb ‘diet’ I just adjust calories depending on gaining losing or maintaining. Find the balance that works for you, not for these 8 week fads Diets never work. What i would say with SW though is that you can eat a hell of a lot it just teaches you to eat the right things. 100% can’t go wrong with whole, natural foods.
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Post by mickmillslovechild on May 6, 2022 22:23:20 GMT
Exactly Like before holiday I will do 2-3 weeks of no carbs. But for the rest of my life, I’ll continue with good weight training exercise, walking with my 40% protein 40% fat and 20% carb ‘diet’ I just adjust calories depending on gaining losing or maintaining. Find the balance that works for you, not for these 8 week fads Diets never work. What i would say with SW though is that you can eat a hell of a lot it just teaches you to eat the right things. I was gonna mention SW as a mate of my mine lost about 6 stone through it and, as you say, it's less of a "diet" and more of a schooling in how to eat properly. She still eats crap sometimes but because her meals aren't full of fat, sugar, salt etc. which are mostly unnecessary anyway, (and also, it's stuff like spag bol, chicken and chips and stuff, not salads and avocado on toast for breakfast) she's kept it all off over 2 years later. I intially thought it was a fad diet like WW, Cambridge and the like (they know full well you won't keep it up so will keep coming back, paying each time) but it's genuinely pretty impressive. As she said, you can buy all their books online, so they're not even forcing you to pay up to go to their weekly meetings to access their information and advice if you don't want to. It's definitely down to making a lifestyle of just eating properly, rather than just a 6 week crash diet and you put it all back on a month later.
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Post by chuffedstokie on May 7, 2022 6:24:59 GMT
Exactly Like before holiday I will do 2-3 weeks of no carbs. But for the rest of my life, I’ll continue with good weight training exercise, walking with my 40% protein 40% fat and 20% carb ‘diet’ I just adjust calories depending on gaining losing or maintaining. Find the balance that works for you, not for these 8 week fads Diets never work. What i would say with SW though is that you can eat a hell of a lot it just teaches you to eat the right things. Just as slight aside, we make all the SW snack bars at our place here in little old mid wales starting on the mint variety next week, they're all good 👍. Some even accidentally find their way home with me 😉
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 7, 2022 6:46:54 GMT
Diets never work. What i would say with SW though is that you can eat a hell of a lot it just teaches you to eat the right things. Just as slight aside, we make all the SW snack bars at our place here in little old mid wales starting on the mint variety next week, they're all good 👍. Some even accidentally find their way home with me 😉 Interesting stuff as I’ve probably paid for your xmas bonus over the last 3 years as i’m a regular purchaser. I think my faves are the fruit and nut and the choc orange. I’m not a mint man but my mrs likes them. Any new flavours in the pipeline as they like to freshen them up. I think the most recent was the honeycomb one.
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Post by partickpotter on May 7, 2022 6:52:02 GMT
It’s all about balance. You need healthy eating not diet with excercise and you’ll have it cracked. Exactly Like before holiday I will do 2-3 weeks of no carbs. But for the rest of my life, I’ll continue with good weight training exercise, walking with my 40% protein 40% fat and 20% carb ‘diet’ I just adjust calories depending on gaining losing or maintaining. Find the balance that works for you, not for these 8 week fads Exercising outdoors is such a good thing. Whether that is walking, running or cycling. Including this in your gym regime will be a really good thing.
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Post by chuffedstokie on May 7, 2022 13:30:29 GMT
Just as slight aside, we make all the SW snack bars at our place here in little old mid wales starting on the mint variety next week, they're all good 👍. Some even accidentally find their way home with me 😉 Interesting stuff as I’ve probably paid for your xmas bonus over the last 3 years as i’m a regular purchaser. I think my faves are the fruit and nut and the choc orange. I’m not a mint man but my mrs likes them. Any new flavours in the pipeline as they like to freshen them up. I think the most recent was the honeycomb one. Keep your eye out for 'Jamtastic' not released yet, very very nice, I can only manage one box at a time!.😉
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Post by cobhamstokey on May 7, 2022 13:35:56 GMT
Interesting stuff as I’ve probably paid for your xmas bonus over the last 3 years as i’m a regular purchaser. I think my faves are the fruit and nut and the choc orange. I’m not a mint man but my mrs likes them. Any new flavours in the pipeline as they like to freshen them up. I think the most recent was the honeycomb one. Keep your eye out for 'Jamtastic' not released yet, very very nice, I can only manage one box at a time.😉 sounds good
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Post by chigstoke on May 9, 2022 11:47:21 GMT
Got a phone call with the PT arranged for tomorrow after work to discuss goals and what they can do for me.
Looking forward to it!
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Post by partickpotter on May 9, 2022 12:18:29 GMT
Got a phone call with the PT arranged for tomorrow after work to discuss goals and what they can do for me. Looking forward to it! Here’s another thought for you. Do some volunteering. I was out with a Green Spaces group yesterday where I spent a good few hours digging as part of a community effort to improve some rough ground. Bloody hard work, but good exercise in a good cause.
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Post by Rednwhitenblue on May 9, 2022 13:20:03 GMT
Got a phone call with the PT arranged for tomorrow after work to discuss goals and what they can do for me. Looking forward to it! Nice one. Completely agree about the diets thing too. Waste of time. Don't even think of it as a change of eating habits either, because then there's something to regress back to, it's just the way it is from now on. Exercise and healthy eating = you don't get out of shape.
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Post by danceswithclams on May 11, 2022 19:14:57 GMT
Our cat passed away suddenly today and it's hit me much harder than I would ever have thought.
He wasn't even my own pet - I inherited him when I acquired the current Mrs Clams and, having never had a pet as such before, grew to love the massive, curmudgeonly, ball of fur over the past 7 years or so.
He was 12 years old and showed no signs of underlying illness and was incredibly active for a cat of his age. Today though, I got a call from the better half who was clearly in distress as her constant companion (who'd been with her since she rescued him as an abandoned kitten all those years ago) had suffered some sort of seizure.
Just an hour before I'd patted him on the head as I do every morning when leaving for work and he did his usual thing of chasing after me up the hallway and blocking the front door in an attempt to stop me leaving. Less than 2 hours after we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put him to sleep.
Mrs Clams is beside herself and I'm putting on a brave face for her sake. In reality though, I feel like Tyson Fury has landed a devastating blow to my stomach.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 11, 2022 19:25:51 GMT
Our cat passed away suddenly today and it's hit me much harder than I would ever have thought. He wasn't even my own pet - I inherited him when I acquired the current Mrs Clams and, having never had a pet as such before, grew to love the massive, curmudgeonly, ball of fur over the past 7 years or so. He was 12 years old and showed no signs of underlying illness and was incredibly active for a cat of his age. Today though, I got a call from the better half who was clearly in distress as her constant companion (who'd been with her since she rescued him as an abandoned kitten all those years ago) had suffered some sort of seizure. Just an hour before I'd patted him on the head as I do every morning when leaving for work and he did his usual thing of chasing after me up the hallway and blocking the front door in an attempt to stop me leaving. Less than 2 hours after we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put him to sleep. Mrs Clams is beside herself and I'm putting on a brave face for her sake. In reality though, I feel like Tyson Fury has landed a devastating blow to my stomach. It’s nice to see a compassionate side to you Clams I have to say. To some people the loss of a pet, especially cats means nothing to them. I’ve grown to love cats since I had a couple of rescue brothers in 2012 and while they’re both alive and kicking they were taken by my departed ex mrs a couple of months back and it’s left a real hole in my life as daft as it sounds. So much as for a few weeks after I was still annoyed about having to feed them when I got in, but they weren’t there when I got home😟 Pets of any kind really can become just as important as friends and family at times, they’re there to listen to all your bad shit and don’t answer back. They just help you to calm down and relax. So don’t think something like this is anything to be embarrassed about, it’s hard for a while
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Post by Rednwhitenblue on May 11, 2022 19:41:25 GMT
Our cat passed away suddenly today and it's hit me much harder than I would ever have thought. He wasn't even my own pet - I inherited him when I acquired the current Mrs Clams and, having never had a pet as such before, grew to love the massive, curmudgeonly, ball of fur over the past 7 years or so. He was 12 years old and showed no signs of underlying illness and was incredibly active for a cat of his age. Today though, I got a call from the better half who was clearly in distress as her constant companion (who'd been with her since she rescued him as an abandoned kitten all those years ago) had suffered some sort of seizure. Just an hour before I'd patted him on the head as I do every morning when leaving for work and he did his usual thing of chasing after me up the hallway and blocking the front door in an attempt to stop me leaving. Less than 2 hours after we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put him to sleep. Mrs Clams is beside herself and I'm putting on a brave face for her sake. In reality though, I feel like Tyson Fury has landed a devastating blow to my stomach. You shouldn't be surprised that it's got to you so much, they're part of the family, so the loss will be keenly felt. Understandably so. Our two, litter mates, are the same age and have grown up as the kids have, so they feel very much at the heart of family life. We're all conscious that the cats aren't as young and "bonkers" as they were once and we know there'll come a time when something happens and a difficult decision has to be made. What you have to tell yourself is that you and Mrs Clams gave him the best life he could possibly have had, especially as a rescue cat that would have struggled and suffered as a feral cat and you couldn't really have done any more than that. It's a sad day though when a much loved pet dies.
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Post by Rednwhitenblue on May 11, 2022 19:44:47 GMT
Our cat passed away suddenly today and it's hit me much harder than I would ever have thought. He wasn't even my own pet - I inherited him when I acquired the current Mrs Clams and, having never had a pet as such before, grew to love the massive, curmudgeonly, ball of fur over the past 7 years or so. He was 12 years old and showed no signs of underlying illness and was incredibly active for a cat of his age. Today though, I got a call from the better half who was clearly in distress as her constant companion (who'd been with her since she rescued him as an abandoned kitten all those years ago) had suffered some sort of seizure. Just an hour before I'd patted him on the head as I do every morning when leaving for work and he did his usual thing of chasing after me up the hallway and blocking the front door in an attempt to stop me leaving. Less than 2 hours after we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put him to sleep. Mrs Clams is beside herself and I'm putting on a brave face for her sake. In reality though, I feel like Tyson Fury has landed a devastating blow to my stomach. It’s nice to see a compassionate side to you Clams I have to say. To some people the loss of a pet, especially cats means nothing to them. I’ve grown to love cats since I had a couple of rescue brothers in 2012 and while they’re both alive and kicking they were taken by my departed ex mrs a couple of months back and it’s left a real hole in my life as daft as it sounds. So much as for a few weeks after I was still annoyed about having to feed them when I got in, but they weren’t there when I got home😟 Pets of any kind really can become just as important as friends and family at times, they’re there to listen to all your bad shit and don’t answer back. They just help you to calm down and relax. So don’t think something like this is anything to be embarrassed about, it’s hard for a while Well said. Can you get another one, Badger, or does work commitment mean it'd be too difficult?
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Post by thehartshillbadger on May 11, 2022 19:46:17 GMT
It’s nice to see a compassionate side to you Clams I have to say. To some people the loss of a pet, especially cats means nothing to them. I’ve grown to love cats since I had a couple of rescue brothers in 2012 and while they’re both alive and kicking they were taken by my departed ex mrs a couple of months back and it’s left a real hole in my life as daft as it sounds. So much as for a few weeks after I was still annoyed about having to feed them when I got in, but they weren’t there when I got home😟 Pets of any kind really can become just as important as friends and family at times, they’re there to listen to all your bad shit and don’t answer back. They just help you to calm down and relax. So don’t think something like this is anything to be embarrassed about, it’s hard for a while Well said. Can you get another one, Badger, or does work commitment mean it'd be too difficult? I can get another or two but it’s difficult with work at the minute, I’m literally all over the world. Calms down in August so hopefully sort it then
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Post by butlerstbob on May 11, 2022 19:58:52 GMT
Our cat passed away suddenly today and it's hit me much harder than I would ever have thought. He wasn't even my own pet - I inherited him when I acquired the current Mrs Clams and, having never had a pet as such before, grew to love the massive, curmudgeonly, ball of fur over the past 7 years or so. He was 12 years old and showed no signs of underlying illness and was incredibly active for a cat of his age. Today though, I got a call from the better half who was clearly in distress as her constant companion (who'd been with her since she rescued him as an abandoned kitten all those years ago) had suffered some sort of seizure. Just an hour before I'd patted him on the head as I do every morning when leaving for work and he did his usual thing of chasing after me up the hallway and blocking the front door in an attempt to stop me leaving. Less than 2 hours after we had to make the heartbreaking decision to put him to sleep. Mrs Clams is beside herself and I'm putting on a brave face for her sake. In reality though, I feel like Tyson Fury has landed a devastating blow to my stomach. I feel your pain clams.... We had our first rescue cat for 17-18 years(I originally hated the idea of a cat) but we became so close as the years went by, every time I turned in the garden he would be there, great company when the wife was out or working away and someone to talk to especially as we don't have kids... We had to have him put to sleep in the easter of the first lockdown but to make it worse the little ginger nut was like a spring kitten on the vets car park on that sad day, and it broke me and the wife and the house was never the same... I always feel a little piece of my heart went with him! Cats have totally changed me and by the sounds of it some of you guys too. I never know what to say at times like these... All the best to you and your better half👍
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