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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Apr 16, 2022 7:49:21 GMT
Proud of everyone for posting such emotive thoughts on here. Some truly powerful (and tragic) stories. There is something about a messageboard like this that is quite surreal. Most of us have never met the guy who responds to our post, yet the solace one receives by posting on the oatcake is so real.
Some of the stories on here put into perspective my comparitively minor issues. However, as a 30 year old bachelor who is fortunate enough to live a luxurious, privileged life, I can't pretend there isn't a lonely soul there desperate to find love and be loved - I've never really had that. No one knows this. I got so caught up with the "casual" lifestyle and dating/shagging as many women as I could over the years that things become emotionless and as a result I've always been reluctant to commit but in recent months I have found myself longing for everything Ive always pretended I haven't wanted. I hope these next few months I can find someone I want to be with longer term.
I've never told anyone this and no one would ever know it but loneliness affects all of us I guess.
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Post by heworksardtho on Apr 16, 2022 10:19:58 GMT
Proud of everyone for posting such emotive thoughts on here. Some truly powerful (and tragic) stories. There is something about a messageboard like this that is quite surreal. Most of us have never met the guy who responds to our post, yet the solace one receives by posting on the oatcake is so real. Some of the stories on here put into perspective my comparitively minor issues. However, as a 30 year old bachelor who is fortunate enough to live a luxurious, privileged life, I can't pretend there isn't a lonely soul there desperate to find love and be loved - I've never really had that. No one knows this. I got so caught up with the "casual" lifestyle and dating/shagging as many women as I could over the years that things become emotionless and as a result I've always been reluctant to commit but in recent months I have found myself longing for everything Ive always pretended I haven't wanted. I hope these next few months I can find someone I want to be with longer term. I've never told anyone this and no one would ever know it but loneliness affects all of us I guess. As a 61 year old I’ve lived your lifestyle and there’s someone for everyone and it will happen when you least expect it
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Post by felonious on Apr 16, 2022 12:15:15 GMT
Good Friday is always a bad emotional time for me and sad , 24 years ago on a good Friday on the A34 at Bicester junction 9 M40 a 17 year old lad run out and committed suicide and I was the first person to hit him , never shared this with anyone other than close family and best friends, didn’t have counselling but although totally tragic for him and his family it still haunts me That's awful mate so sorry to hear that but I have an idea how you feel. I drove around a bend some years back with a tractor not far behind me pulling around a parked car. On the other side of the bend a motorbike flashed past me I only had time to look into the rear mirror to see the collision. I suppose I was fortunate that as I got out of the car to go back I had to stop in order to stop oncoming traffic from piling in and then further down to the next bend. The relief I had seeing the air ambulance drop down into the field was short lived as it didn't take off again. I can't imagine it will ever leave me I found out afterwards that the parked car was trying to reverse into their drive. I now stop to let anyone reverse out of their drive.
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Post by felonious on Apr 16, 2022 12:20:52 GMT
So it’s been a while. How’s everyone getting on? Not long till spring now🤞🏻 Personally, my mrs still hasn’t moved out as she’s waiting for her new house to be finished, right pain in the arse, although she’s not here that much. We had a “heart to heart” the other night as she thought I was already seeing someone else, chance would be a fine thing!🤣. I’m taking a sabbatical from women for a while, it’s good for the soul. Thankfully we thrashed a few things out and think we’re both good on what we want. It’s been very tough though I won’t lie. Having friends to rally around has been a big pick me up. Remember to talk to friends, family, work colleagues if you’re having a tough time, works absolute wonders. Good luck all, hope everybody is well. PM me for a laugh if you want😉 Was out for a walk with my daughter this evening along the River Kelvin. Chewing the fat about this, that and the other. We touched on the subject of her mother, my ex, for a moment. Then both of us went… naaaaah. There’s better things in life to spend time on. And there is. Life is simply awesome. So much to do. So many things to enjoy. Don’t dwell on the things that haven’t worked out. Look for something that lifts your soul. A few years back at Kelvingrove I had a walk along the Kelvin. I must admit I wasn't expecting to see trout fishing just off Glasgow city centre Nor was I expecting to drop on the bowling green where Belle and Sebastian chill out Lovely spot
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Post by cobhamstokey on Apr 16, 2022 12:45:58 GMT
Proud of everyone for posting such emotive thoughts on here. Some truly powerful (and tragic) stories. There is something about a messageboard like this that is quite surreal. Most of us have never met the guy who responds to our post, yet the solace one receives by posting on the oatcake is so real. Some of the stories on here put into perspective my comparitively minor issues. However, as a 30 year old bachelor who is fortunate enough to live a luxurious, privileged life, I can't pretend there isn't a lonely soul there desperate to find love and be loved - I've never really had that. No one knows this. I got so caught up with the "casual" lifestyle and dating/shagging as many women as I could over the years that things become emotionless and as a result I've always been reluctant to commit but in recent months I have found myself longing for everything Ive always pretended I haven't wanted. I hope these next few months I can find someone I want to be with longer term. I've never told anyone this and no one would ever know it but loneliness affects all of us I guess. As a 61 year old I’ve lived your lifestyle and there’s someone for everyone and it will happen when you least expect it How right you are. Having been single for a long time before meeting the woman of my dreams (most of the time I have to say it’s nice being married but never get too hung up on it. Being single isn’t so bad if you have a good group of friends. I thought the same about kids and being a father. Never happened but sometimes you have to look at yourself and think actually life isn’t so bad. Apologies if that sounds a bit soppy.
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Post by danceswithclams on Apr 16, 2022 12:51:54 GMT
As a 61 year old I’ve lived your lifestyle You're 61 and still up to your nuts in guts? Check out George Clooney here 😂
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Post by partickpotter on Apr 16, 2022 13:34:37 GMT
Was out for a walk with my daughter this evening along the River Kelvin. Chewing the fat about this, that and the other. We touched on the subject of her mother, my ex, for a moment. Then both of us went… naaaaah. There’s better things in life to spend time on. And there is. Life is simply awesome. So much to do. So many things to enjoy. Don’t dwell on the things that haven’t worked out. Look for something that lifts your soul. A few years back at Kelvingrove I had a walk along the Kelvin. I must admit I wasn't expecting to see trout fishing just off Glasgow city centre Nor was I expecting to drop on the bowling green where Belle and Sebastian chill out Lovely spot That’s my home patch!
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 16, 2022 13:40:12 GMT
A few years back at Kelvingrove I had a walk along the Kelvin. I must admit I wasn't expecting to see trout fishing just off Glasgow city centre Nor was I expecting to drop on the bowling green where Belle and Sebastian chill out Lovely spot That’s my home patch!
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Post by partickpotter on Apr 16, 2022 14:00:54 GMT
Everyone’s welcome. If you’re up in Glasgow let me know.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 16, 2022 14:01:51 GMT
Everyone’s welcome. If you’re up in Glasgow let me know. See you next month😉 I’ll be there for the Royal College of Ophthalmologist Annual Conference at SECC. Riveting stuff
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Post by felonious on Apr 16, 2022 15:28:48 GMT
Everyone’s welcome. If you’re up in Glasgow let me know. See you next month😉 I’ll be there for the Royal College of Ophthalmologist Annual Conference at SECC. Riveting stuff Poor Partick I reckon he thought he was safe when he made that offer
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 16, 2022 15:32:07 GMT
See you next month😉 I’ll be there for the Royal College of Ophthalmologist Annual Conference at SECC. Riveting stuff Poor Partick I reckon he thought he was safe when he made that offer Nobody’s safe in Glasgow mate😉
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Post by partickpotter on Apr 17, 2022 3:04:08 GMT
Poor Partick I reckon he thought he was safe when he made that offer Nobody’s safe in Glasgow mate😉 Unfortunately I’m up north that week! Spending time on Islay and Jura. Never been on those islands before and looking forward to it.
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Post by Orbs on Apr 17, 2022 6:48:35 GMT
Nobody’s safe in Glasgow mate😉 Unfortunately I’m up north that week! Spending time on Islay and Jura. Never been on those islands before and looking forward to it. Oh riiiiight…. The old ‘Islay and Jura’ excuse… 😆😆
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Post by partickpotter on Apr 17, 2022 6:49:35 GMT
Unfortunately I’m up north that week! Spending time on Islay and Jura. Never been on those islands before and looking forward to it. Oh riiiiight…. The old ‘Islay and Jura’ excuse… 😆😆
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 17, 2022 6:55:30 GMT
Unfortunately I’m up north that week! Spending time on Islay and Jura. Never been on those islands before and looking forward to it. Oh riiiiight…. The old ‘Islay and Jura’ excuse… 😆😆 That’s a new one on me😉 It’s the week before I’ll be there, I’m working on the preparations for the conference so I’m sure he won’t be in “Islay and Jura” then😀
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Post by partickpotter on Apr 17, 2022 6:59:53 GMT
Oh riiiiight…. The old ‘Islay and Jura’ excuse… 😆😆 That’s a new one on me😉 It’s the week before I’ll be there, I’m working on the preparations for the conference so I’m sure he won’t be in “Islay and Jura” then😀
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Post by Orbs on Apr 17, 2022 7:39:19 GMT
Oh riiiiight…. The old ‘Islay and Jura’ excuse… 😆😆 That’s a new one on me😉 It’s the week before I’ll be there, I’m working on the preparations for the conference so I’m sure he won’t be in “Islay and Jura” then😀 It’ll be Eigg and Canna by then I’m sure… 😉
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Post by partickpotter on Apr 18, 2022 8:06:57 GMT
That’s a new one on me😉 It’s the week before I’ll be there, I’m working on the preparations for the conference so I’m sure he won’t be in “Islay and Jura” then😀 It’ll be Eigg and Canna by then I’m sure… 😉 Funny you should mention Eigg, I am intending to head there at some point. Scene of one of the worst massacres on British soil. But it’s the Sgurr of Eigg that has my attention, plus the chance to do some sea kayaking.
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Post by superjw on Apr 18, 2022 8:56:59 GMT
Proud of everyone for posting such emotive thoughts on here. Some truly powerful (and tragic) stories. There is something about a messageboard like this that is quite surreal. Most of us have never met the guy who responds to our post, yet the solace one receives by posting on the oatcake is so real. Some of the stories on here put into perspective my comparitively minor issues. However, as a 30 year old bachelor who is fortunate enough to live a luxurious, privileged life, I can't pretend there isn't a lonely soul there desperate to find love and be loved - I've never really had that. No one knows this. I got so caught up with the "casual" lifestyle and dating/shagging as many women as I could over the years that things become emotionless and as a result I've always been reluctant to commit but in recent months I have found myself longing for everything Ive always pretended I haven't wanted. I hope these next few months I can find someone I want to be with longer term. I've never told anyone this and no one would ever know it but loneliness affects all of us I guess. I'm happily married with 2 great kids who are still young, but I often feel lonely. I'm a very introverted person so I'm not fussed about my own company and tbh my social battery runs out very fast. But loneliness does bite sometimes. As you say it can affect us all in some form or another
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Post by mtrstudent on Apr 18, 2022 15:14:56 GMT
I can't pretend there isn't a lonely soul there desperate to find love and be loved - I've never really had that. No one knows this. I got so caught up with the "casual" lifestyle and dating/shagging as many women as I could over the years that things become emotionless and as a result I've always been reluctant to commit but in recent months I have found myself longing for everything Ive always pretended I haven't wanted. I hope these next few months I can find someone I want to be with longer term. Good luck mate. I went through that not that long ago. Until recently I didn't understand just being with one person, it seemed boring. Looking back at one relationship we were perfect for each other and knowing I hurt her is a deep wound. I think of that and wonder how she's doing almost every day. She made me laugh a lot. Sounds like you don't have any trouble picking up women, you'll just have to learn to work out which ones would work long term!
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Post by noustie on Apr 20, 2022 8:49:30 GMT
Proud of everyone for posting such emotive thoughts on here. Some truly powerful (and tragic) stories. There is something about a messageboard like this that is quite surreal. Most of us have never met the guy who responds to our post, yet the solace one receives by posting on the oatcake is so real. Some of the stories on here put into perspective my comparitively minor issues. However, as a 30 year old bachelor who is fortunate enough to live a luxurious, privileged life, I can't pretend there isn't a lonely soul there desperate to find love and be loved - I've never really had that. No one knows this. I got so caught up with the "casual" lifestyle and dating/shagging as many women as I could over the years that things become emotionless and as a result I've always been reluctant to commit but in recent months I have found myself longing for everything Ive always pretended I haven't wanted. I hope these next few months I can find someone I want to be with longer term. I've never told anyone this and no one would ever know it but loneliness affects all of us I guess. I was a bit the same but was shit at pulling until mid 20's as had a massive complex of how difficult it was then something just clicked. After a few times it just felt hallow and even the sport of the chase just seemed entirely pointless - a couple of times towards the end I didn't go back with them and suggested meeting up later never to hear from them again despite thinking it would show me in some sort of respectful new man type lighting. They can smell thirsty fuckers a mile off and I had absolutely no idea what to do to counter it. Bored off my tits in work with a deposit for a house but nowt to put in it decided to volunteer overseas for 6 months where I could have shagged umpteen 18-21 year olds fresh out of uni but instead had my head turned by a local when I genuinely wasn't looking where we went out for the whole 6 months pretty much (starting 15 years tomorrow actually). We now both have jobs that provide a surplus in comparison to our spending; a young daughter who is beasting school and social stuff; have our moments but we're still happily married and; I get to play on the choice of three nae bad golf courses pretty much whenever the mood/ time allows. In short I'm fortunate enough given the context of this thread to be content and really appreciate what I have. Between work, school mums, after club mums and even one down the local Co-op though there are at least 5-7 women who wouldn't have looked at me 15 year ago who would now probably welcome the opportunity to help me fuck it all up. I've given up trying to understand them and instead have a respectful fear of the creation and destruction they have the capacity to bring.
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Post by scfcbiancorossi on Apr 20, 2022 12:18:25 GMT
Thanks to all those posts above in response to my thoughts. It's the best message board on the planet for a reason ☺️
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Post by chigstoke on Apr 25, 2022 12:02:35 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit.
Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly.
Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back.
It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost.
I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience.
I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends.
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Post by felonious on Apr 25, 2022 18:14:10 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit. Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly. Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back. It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost. I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience. I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends. Sorry to read that Chig I reckon we've all been in a job we've struggled with. I remember feeling that way in my first job as I got to the end of the fourth year and fortunately saw a job advertised out of the area and decided to go for it. Although they'd told me a load of bollocks about promotions, etc it had broken the cycle and the third and eventually the fourth were far more enjoyable. All I'm trying to say is there is hope, both my kids have dropped on in the last twelve months when it looked like there was nothing about. If everything else is good in your life then that's a huge bonus. Keep looking something is bound to turn up.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Apr 25, 2022 18:20:03 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit. Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly. Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back. It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost. I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience. I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends. Been there mate, I worked where I was for 23 years(I know I don’t look that old) Went from the bottom to near the top and ended up being treated as a number. “Luckily” I was made redundant last year so coined it in. I joined a bitter rival and the fun of the competition between us is a joy. At the end of the day if work is making you that miserable you need to get out. Easier said than done of course but your work life is the corner Stone of having a happy life. Just go for it with everything you’ve got, have you told your employer you’re looking to leave? I did that once and things were loads better in the short term but I continued to look for better regardless. Best of luck mate, you’re certainly not alone in your situation, far from it in fact.
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Post by chuffedstokie on Apr 25, 2022 18:57:32 GMT
On this day in 2019 I was into my 5th day of a nine day induced coma and just had a third heart attack out of seven (apparently) don't ever give up. I get to see my son get married in August, counting every single day and my blessings. My ex had better not bring her new bloke with her. 🤔
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Post by chigstoke on Apr 25, 2022 22:02:53 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit. Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly. Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back. It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost. I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience. I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends. Been there mate, I worked where I was for 23 years(I know I don’t look that old) Went from the bottom to near the top and ended up being treated as a number. “Luckily” I was made redundant last year so coined it in. I joined a bitter rival and the fun of the competition between us is a joy. At the end of the day if work is making you that miserable you need to get out. Easier said than done of course but your work life is the corner Stone of having a happy life. Just go for it with everything you’ve got, have you told your employer you’re looking to leave? I did that once and things were loads better in the short term but I continued to look for better regardless. Best of luck mate, you’re certainly not alone in your situation, far from it in fact. Thanks for that mate. I can’t say as I’ve told them badger. I have previously mentioned quite a few times that the work I’m being given lacks depth or any form of challenge. Of course they say they’ll sort us out but it seemingly falls on deaf ears as the next week you’re working on the same tired bullshit you complained about in the first place. I’m hoping to hear back off of these jobs soon. 4/5 local jobs and two remote for American businesses looking for people worldwide, so I’m definitely trying to get myself out there. Oh the joys!
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Post by chigstoke on Apr 25, 2022 22:03:52 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit. Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly. Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back. It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost. I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience. I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends. Sorry to read that Chig I reckon we've all been in a job we've struggled with. I remember feeling that way in my first job as I got to the end of the fourth year and fortunately saw a job advertised out of the area and decided to go for it. Although they'd told me a load of bollocks about promotions, etc it had broken the cycle and the third and eventually the fourth were far more enjoyable. All I'm trying to say is there is hope, both my kids have dropped on in the last twelve months when it looked like there was nothing about. If everything else is good in your life then that's a huge bonus. Keep looking something is bound to turn up. Cheers Fel, much appreciated
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Post by sd22 on Apr 26, 2022 14:43:50 GMT
Been a while since I’ve wanted to post my own issues on the mental health thread. It’s minor in comparison, but I’m struggling a bit. Work is getting me down. It’d be accurate to say, I don’t like my job anymore. I’m given no tasks on our scheduling system, the jobs I do get are the standard ones I have to do weekly. Where everyone else is given opportunity, I feel I’m given nothing. I work hard, I’ve been raised on working hard. But I put so much in and get relatively nothing back. It’s really dragging me down, I dread going work and it makes miserable. If I didn’t have Stoke, Friends, Family and new music I’d be genuinely lost. I’ve applied for a load of jobs, but I’ve cemented doubt in my head about even being good enough for the jobs I’ve gone for, even though I’ve the qualifications and experience. I need to get out of this rut. Motivation is zapped and it’s a chore waking up Monday to Friday, the only reprieve is my weekends. It took me a year to find a new job mate, start next Month! I felt exactly the same as you, if it wasn’t for family, friends, Stoke, learning Spanish and the missus, I’d have topped myself by now! Keep looking, ping your CV all around the gaff, you are good enough, you are qualified enough and you do work hard enough. I’ve seen people who aren’t as good as me at my job, are less qualified and don’t work as hard, get jobs because of who they know. The right place will come sooner than you think, and because that organisation has gave you the opportunity, you’ll love the job and fly to new heights. All the Stoke family has got faith in you pal👍🏻
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