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Post by thehartshillbadger on Sept 25, 2022 19:34:13 GMT
So I’m an ex welsh guard. A mate of mine was sick of only having reunions at funerals decided to start a walking group. We meet up one a year have a weekend on the piss. Hire a bunk house and go for a walk on the Saturday. Yesterday we did Snowdon. So good to meet up have a beer. The craic and a bit of phys. With old buddies and comrades. Massive event for all invoked Do something with your mates Brilliant for the head I must say since I split with the Mrs I don’t go out much as most of our friends are mutual so its a bit awkward for them I guess. I sometimes make accuses not to meet up which is daft because when I do I have a great time
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Post by chigstoke on Sept 25, 2022 21:39:23 GMT
Had a lovely couple hours saturday morning with a workmate from my old job for a catch up. We basically just grabbed a coffee (or water in my case) and just shot the breeze for a couple hours. I don’t usually do the whole keeping actively in touch with old workmates thing, but she helped us through a lot of stuff while I was there and honestly, so incredibly happy to be able to call her a friend, and a really bloody good one at that. There’s nothing better than building that rapport and just clicking with someone over different things. Just like I’ve got mates who we share our support with over Stoke, over gaming or other stuff. Wish I could put into words directly to her how thankful I am, and indeed I wish I could do the same for all my mates, but I just wouldn’t know what to say without being a rambling bellend, so you lot get it instead
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Post by maninasuitcase on Sept 25, 2022 21:44:54 GMT
So I’m an ex welsh guard. A mate of mine was sick of only having reunions at funerals decided to start a walking group. We meet up one a year have a weekend on the piss. Hire a bunk house and go for a walk on the Saturday. Yesterday we did Snowdon. So good to meet up have a beer. The craic and a bit of phys. With old buddies and comrades. Massive event for all invoked Do something with your mates Brilliant for the head Got an afternoon planned up town with my old buddies who used to go to the robin hood in longton. A chance for a few bevvies and a catch up. Giving the match a miss to see them. Be good to have a chilled stress free afternoon.
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Post by chiprockets on Sept 25, 2022 21:46:57 GMT
Is there anyone to talk to by message or live chat? Will be online for another couple of hours watching NFL, more than welcome to message , and I welcome it
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Post by maninasuitcase on Sept 25, 2022 21:49:31 GMT
So I’m an ex welsh guard. A mate of mine was sick of only having reunions at funerals decided to start a walking group. We meet up one a year have a weekend on the piss. Hire a bunk house and go for a walk on the Saturday. Yesterday we did Snowdon. So good to meet up have a beer. The craic and a bit of phys. With old buddies and comrades. Massive event for all invoked Do something with your mates Brilliant for the head I must say since I split with the Mrs I don’t go out much as most of our friends are mutual so its a bit awkward for them I guess. I sometimes make accuses not to meet up which is daft because when I do I have a great time Its easily done Badger. I was in that boat once. Then i realised that the friends who wanted to be there for me came and dragged me out. Im glad to say they are my besties and we still go out for a brew or two. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith, snd thats when you find your true friends.
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Post by mtrstudent on Sept 26, 2022 4:33:29 GMT
I must say since I split with the Mrs I don’t go out much as most of our friends are mutual so its a bit awkward for them I guess. I sometimes make accuses not to meet up which is daft because when I do I have a great time Its easily done Badger. I was in that boat once. Then i realised that the friends who wanted to be there for me came and dragged me out. Im glad to say they are my besties and we still go out for a brew or two. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith, snd thats when you find your true friends. I had a similar thing with an ex, some mates could handle it and some couldn't. I saved about 3 friendships out of maybe 8-9 but that's way better than zero and I'm glad I tried. The rest of us are on talking terms at least. I'd encourage you to go for it badge if you think there's a chance even one of them is worth having as your mate. But I also felt awkward and kinda too lazy to organise at first. I regret those wasted weeks.
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Post by salopstick on Sept 26, 2022 8:12:33 GMT
So I’m an ex welsh guard. A mate of mine was sick of only having reunions at funerals decided to start a walking group. We meet up one a year have a weekend on the piss. Hire a bunk house and go for a walk on the Saturday. Yesterday we did Snowdon. So good to meet up have a beer. The craic and a bit of phys. With old buddies and comrades. Massive event for all invoked Do something with your mates Brilliant for the head Absolutely this. I went round Castleton and Edale with 6 lads last weekend. Had a right laugh. Love that area. Did it on my bike
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Post by clarkeda on Sept 30, 2022 7:41:50 GMT
Is anyone else just thoroughly fed up at the minute.
My mortgage is expecting to go up £300 a month which I’m having to buy out of to protect myself from the expected 6% interest rates that are forecasted, utilities are up £150 and then there is inflation on top of that for the everyday items. Everything just feels so negative
And all the messaging just feels super negative in the media, online and on here (not blaming as I’m doing the same).
I know I am very fortunate to be in the position I’m in with the job I’ve got compared to others but it just feels so damn depressing and bleak.
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Post by knype on Sept 30, 2022 8:00:53 GMT
Is anyone else just thoroughly fed up at the minute. My mortgage is expecting to go up £300 a month which I’m having to buy out of to protect myself from the expected 6% interest rates that are forecasted, utilities are up £150 and then there is inflation on top of that for the everyday items. Everything just feels so negative And all the messaging just feels super negative in the media, online and on here (not blaming as I’m doing the same). I know I am very fortunate to be in the position I’m in with the job I’ve got compared to others but it just feels so damn depressing and bleak. yep, some tough times coming but after speaking to my parents about it, they went through a lot worse. We will all have to buckle up and ride it out, it won't be forever, the problem nowadays is all of the media / news channels have it on repeat so it feels like there is no getting away from it.
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Post by noustie on Sept 30, 2022 8:38:04 GMT
Is anyone else just thoroughly fed up at the minute. My mortgage is expecting to go up £300 a month which I’m having to buy out of to protect myself from the expected 6% interest rates that are forecasted, utilities are up £150 and then there is inflation on top of that for the everyday items. Everything just feels so negative And all the messaging just feels super negative in the media, online and on here (not blaming as I’m doing the same). I know I am very fortunate to be in the position I’m in with the job I’ve got compared to others but it just feels so damn depressing and bleak. Genuinely I'm the same but got dealt a massive fresh dose of perspective yesterday on looking on my facebook. My in-laws are refugees from the 50's fleeing Tibet mainly into Nepal - my brother in law married a lass from Germany who turned out to be a basket case making him work illegally for Eur50 a week and would beat him if he didn't. He fled with no papers so is now in a asylum seekers camp somewhere in France living in a tent where he'll probably stay for anything from 6 months to a year on the hope he is allowed to stay there formally. Just hope the daft twat doesn't get on a boat because we can't afford a holiday in Rwanda!
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Post by chigstoke on Oct 4, 2022 13:43:44 GMT
How’s everyone doing?
These past two days have felt rough for me. With no underlying reason as to why. I just feel absolutely fed up and drained of everything.
Trapping my sciatic nerve seemed to be the start, though it’s now untrapped and I am back training. But I really can’t bring myself to crack even the slightest smile at something, and in turn it’s making me feel isolated and alone. I’ve been riding a high these past 3 months or so but i feel like I’ve come crashing down in flames in the space of two days, even with the weight falling off.
I’ll be at the gym this evening, doubling up as taking any anger out on the machines I might be feeling in addition to fitness. But fuck me it’s just pure negativity at the moment, and the news doesn’t help which I try to shut myself away from. I just wish I could nail down the exact thing making me feel like piss.
Sunday and a 4-0 loss didn’t bloody help either did it!
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Post by foster on Oct 4, 2022 14:50:51 GMT
How’s everyone doing? These past two days have felt rough for me. With no underlying reason as to why. I just feel absolutely fed up and drained of everything. Trapping my sciatic nerve seemed to be the start, though it’s now untrapped and I am back training. But I really can’t bring myself to crack even the slightest smile at something, and in turn it’s making me feel isolated and alone. I’ve been riding a high these past 3 months or so but i feel like I’ve come crashing down in flames in the space of two days, even with the weight falling off. I’ll be at the gym this evening, doubling up as taking any anger out on the machines I might be feeling in addition to fitness. But fuck me it’s just pure negativity at the moment, and the news doesn’t help which I try to shut myself away from. I just wish I could nail down the exact thing making me feel like piss. Sunday and a 4-0 loss didn’t bloody help either did it! Understand you totally there mate. Sunday was a shit day and I skipped the gym because of it. In all honesty by that point I'd had too many beers and just couldn't be arsed. I was also a miserable argumentative fucker for the rest of the day. With regards to above posts and 'mates' I lost nearly all mine when I stopped playing footy and got divorced. I did get a new bird though so I didn't particularly care at the time. 6 years later and I still have my best mate here who rips the piss out of me because I never go out, but I hardly have the time with work and 2 kids to raise. I do miss the banter with the lads though. I have my UK mates that I rarely see but I often do think I should get out more and join a club or something. I just prefer to stay home and have some beers alone while playing a game or watching a series or something. I know it's not the best but I've been doing it for years now and I'm kind of stuck in my ways. As for you, have you got a bird? If you're going the gym shouldn't you be flaunting that 6 (1) pack about? Maybe try something more sociable like a team sport? I had it in mind to go to the gym (as I try to go daily) about 3 hours ago but I'm still here messaging on this board That's how difficult I find it to motivate myself, but I'm going to push through it, even if it means going during rush hour and doing an hour on the bike with netflix instead of weights. Anyway, Chin up mate and take it a day at a time. You can't expect to bench 100kg every day. Some days will just have to be leg day. Just get to the gym mate. That's the first thing. Maybe have a beer with a friend after and then watch a champions league game. Sounds like a decent evening to me.
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Post by prestwichpotter on Oct 4, 2022 15:03:17 GMT
How’s everyone doing? These past two days have felt rough for me. With no underlying reason as to why. I just feel absolutely fed up and drained of everything. Trapping my sciatic nerve seemed to be the start, though it’s now untrapped and I am back training. But I really can’t bring myself to crack even the slightest smile at something, and in turn it’s making me feel isolated and alone. I’ve been riding a high these past 3 months or so but i feel like I’ve come crashing down in flames in the space of two days, even with the weight falling off. I’ll be at the gym this evening, doubling up as taking any anger out on the machines I might be feeling in addition to fitness. But fuck me it’s just pure negativity at the moment, and the news doesn’t help which I try to shut myself away from. I just wish I could nail down the exact thing making me feel like piss. Sunday and a 4-0 loss didn’t bloody help either did it! I'm a terrible sleeper, I used to just sit in bed staring at the wall or scroll through work emails to pass the time. I've started to get up and dressed at 05:00 and out at sunrise, sometimes on my bike, sometimes for a bit of a jog or sometimes just to walk the streets. It's such a great time of the day and really helps clears your head for the day ahead. Not for everyone I know especially if you're someone who's late to bed and/or likes their sleep but I find it really helps me out of that hamster wheel of work, sleep and ferrying kids around 24 hours a day........
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Post by felonious on Oct 4, 2022 16:21:00 GMT
How’s everyone doing? These past two days have felt rough for me. With no underlying reason as to why. I just feel absolutely fed up and drained of everything. Trapping my sciatic nerve seemed to be the start, though it’s now untrapped and I am back training. But I really can’t bring myself to crack even the slightest smile at something, and in turn it’s making me feel isolated and alone. I’ve been riding a high these past 3 months or so but i feel like I’ve come crashing down in flames in the space of two days, even with the weight falling off. I’ll be at the gym this evening, doubling up as taking any anger out on the machines I might be feeling in addition to fitness. But fuck me it’s just pure negativity at the moment, and the news doesn’t help which I try to shut myself away from. I just wish I could nail down the exact thing making me feel like piss. Sunday and a 4-0 loss didn’t bloody help either did it! Mate exercise is never smooth there'll always be a niggle or something to set you back you're just going to accept that it's part of the process but there will be plenty of gym days ahead when it goes smoothly. Don't beat yourself up three months of exercise is a fantastic return. It's nothing to do with the change in the weather or the darker nights is it? We've now moved to winter training at the running club as from last week. The bonus of course as alluded to in one of the responses to your posts is that there's plenty of company and chat with group sports and a trip to the pub for an hour afterwards if we want it. On the subject of Sunday I have to thank one of my training partners for taking me up to Chester on marathon support. I was taking photos when we were a bit shit and then more photos when we were a lot shit and then had a nice lunch before setting back home to find out the result Chin up after a couple of hard sessions it'll all be on the back burner.
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Post by cobhamstokey on Oct 4, 2022 16:23:09 GMT
How’s everyone doing? These past two days have felt rough for me. With no underlying reason as to why. I just feel absolutely fed up and drained of everything. Trapping my sciatic nerve seemed to be the start, though it’s now untrapped and I am back training. But I really can’t bring myself to crack even the slightest smile at something, and in turn it’s making me feel isolated and alone. I’ve been riding a high these past 3 months or so but i feel like I’ve come crashing down in flames in the space of two days, even with the weight falling off. I’ll be at the gym this evening, doubling up as taking any anger out on the machines I might be feeling in addition to fitness. But fuck me it’s just pure negativity at the moment, and the news doesn’t help which I try to shut myself away from. I just wish I could nail down the exact thing making me feel like piss. Sunday and a 4-0 loss didn’t bloody help either did it! Don’t be to tough on yourself mate. You’ve done brilliant to get where you are. We have these times where we can’t always be positive. Friends and family are important, never be afraid or embarrassed to offload to them or even some of us chumps on here. I’m sure you’d support your closest mates so I’m sure they’d be happy to do the same for you and offer you a shoulder if not I’m always happy to have a good PM chat if it helps. I’m on my hols at the moment that’s been a great boost and a great way to charge my batteries up doesn’t have to be expensive just nice to take time out and do nothing.
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Post by LL Cool Dave on Oct 4, 2022 17:36:27 GMT
Been a dreadful week tbh and it's all work related. Time for a long overdue change.
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Post by chigstoke on Oct 4, 2022 19:21:54 GMT
Cheers for the messages guys. If I quote reply I’ll take up the page, so I’ll whittle it down to this post. I don’t quite have the self confidence yet to do a team sport, but before the setback I was doing 6.15am circuit training (which ties into what you said prestwich nicely), I’ll be starting those again when I’m ready to start hitting lower back exercises again. I couldn’t drive or walk when I’d trapped it so I’m taking cardio and upper body weight training at a steady pace atm. Foster, no bird here mate! (And no 6 pack yet mate ). I sort of told myself I’m leaving the whole dating thing until I’m where I want to be physically from the training. Im not averse to meeting anyone mind if that ends up happening. I am actually seeing an old friend from college on Saturday which I’d completely forgot about, so that’ll be nice. I think deep down, I know I’m not on my own, it’s a classic case of never wanting to trouble people about stuff. Im one of them who bottles stuff up and does a good job of it. I need to get my head back in the game!
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Oct 4, 2022 19:26:10 GMT
Cheers for the messages guys. If I quote reply I’ll take up the page, so I’ll whittle it down to this post. I don’t quite have the self confidence yet to do a team sport, but before the setback I was doing 6.15am circuit training (which ties into what you said prestwich nicely), I’ll be starting those again when I’m ready to start hitting lower back exercises again. I couldn’t drive or walk when I’d trapped it so I’m taking cardio and upper body weight training at a steady pace atm. Foster, no bird here mate! (And no 6 pack yet mate ). I sort of told myself I’m leaving the whole dating thing until I’m where I want to be physically from the training. Im not averse to meeting anyone mind if that ends up happening. I am actually seeing an old friend from college on Saturday which I’d completely forgot about, so that’ll be nice. I think deep down, I know I’m not on my own, it’s a classic case of never wanting to trouble people about stuff. Im one of them who bottles stuff up and does a good job of it. I need to get my head back in the game! Goaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrn Chigster! You’re doing brilliantly, keep it up✊🏻
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Post by chuffedstokie on Oct 4, 2022 19:48:57 GMT
On the subject of 'proper' mates I finally got round to seeing someone who I hadn't clapped eyes on for over a decade since me and wife separated. We'd played hockey together for the best part of 35 years and he was my best man, chuck in our poor attempts at playing golf with other like minded friends from hockey and it was about time we met up. Got in the car last weekend and drove from here in Wales down to Bedfordshire, there were three of us including our goalkeeper and the reminiscing started. After about 2 minutes it was as if we'd only chatted yesterday, no questioning, no quizzing just a bloody good laugh (10 years) and god it felt good. Real mates, always there.
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Post by southstanddan on Oct 4, 2022 19:54:31 GMT
Been a dreadful week tbh and it's all work related. Time for a long overdue change. Whilst I’m sure there are better jobs out there I’m fortunate that I actually enjoy going to work, generally always have. If it’s getting you down out of work it’s definitely time to move on mate.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Oct 4, 2022 20:02:56 GMT
Been a dreadful week tbh and it's all work related. Time for a long overdue change. Whilst I’m sure there are better jobs out there I’m fortunate that I actually enjoy going to work, generally always have. If it’s getting you down out of work it’s definitely time to move on mate. Couldn’t agree more, I did it after 25 years with the same company. I’ve been with my current one in the same sector for just over 12 months and they’re a much smaller company but the culture and team vibe make it some much more enjoyable and the pay is way better too. Should have done it years ago, the effect on my mental health has been a revelation. But……. It is very difficult to drag yourself away from what you know and it was only fate really that led to my move personally, it’s not easy but there is absolutely no harm in looking and going for interviews.
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Post by LL Cool Dave on Oct 4, 2022 20:16:42 GMT
Whilst I’m sure there are better jobs out there I’m fortunate that I actually enjoy going to work, generally always have. If it’s getting you down out of work it’s definitely time to move on mate. Couldn’t agree more, I did it after 25 years with the same company. I’ve been with my current one in the same sector for just over 12 months and they’re a much smaller company but the culture and team vibe make it some much more enjoyable and the pay is way better too. Should have done it years ago, the effect on my mental health has been a revelation. But……. It is very difficult to drag yourself away from what you know and it was only fate really that led to my move personally, it’s not easy but there is absolutely no harm in looking and going for interviews. Good advice, thanks. Definitely can identify with the smaller company vibe thing. Ours got took over a few years ago and is part of a massive international business now and most things have got progressively worse and less enjoyable, aside from the pay and benefits which to be fair are OK.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Oct 4, 2022 20:21:36 GMT
Couldn’t agree more, I did it after 25 years with the same company. I’ve been with my current one in the same sector for just over 12 months and they’re a much smaller company but the culture and team vibe make it some much more enjoyable and the pay is way better too. Should have done it years ago, the effect on my mental health has been a revelation. But……. It is very difficult to drag yourself away from what you know and it was only fate really that led to my move personally, it’s not easy but there is absolutely no harm in looking and going for interviews. Good advice, thanks. Definitely can identify with the smaller company vibe thing. Ours got took over a few years ago and is part of a massive international business now and most things have got progressively worse and less enjoyable, aside from the pay and benefits which to be fair are OK. I’d take a slight drop in wage for a good work/life balance any day of the week despite the situation we all find ourselves in. If you’re happy in your work it’s easier to make lifestyle/financial adjustments etc. When it’s shit it’s all you think about and you tend to let the important stuff like living your life pass you by. Sorry to be so gloomy if that’s how it appears, I’m not trying to be
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Post by LL Cool Dave on Oct 4, 2022 20:31:29 GMT
Good advice, thanks. Definitely can identify with the smaller company vibe thing. Ours got took over a few years ago and is part of a massive international business now and most things have got progressively worse and less enjoyable, aside from the pay and benefits which to be fair are OK. I’d take a slight drop in wage for a good work/life balance any day of the week despite the situation we all find ourselves in. If you’re happy in your work it’s easier to make lifestyle/financial adjustments etc. When it’s shit it’s all you think about and you tend to let the important stuff like living your life pass you by. Sorry to be so gloomy if that’s how it appears, I’m not trying to be Not at all. We can afford for me to take a slight drop for the right job. Work/life balance on the face of it for me seems ok as I wfh, pick my youngest up from school, can pretty much book whatever time I want off etc but it's no use if you're in a grump all the time when you're off is it?
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Post by NassauDave on Oct 4, 2022 20:41:34 GMT
How’s everyone doing? These past two days have felt rough for me. With no underlying reason as to why. I just feel absolutely fed up and drained of everything. Trapping my sciatic nerve seemed to be the start, though it’s now untrapped and I am back training. But I really can’t bring myself to crack even the slightest smile at something, and in turn it’s making me feel isolated and alone. I’ve been riding a high these past 3 months or so but i feel like I’ve come crashing down in flames in the space of two days, even with the weight falling off. I’ll be at the gym this evening, doubling up as taking any anger out on the machines I might be feeling in addition to fitness. But fuck me it’s just pure negativity at the moment, and the news doesn’t help which I try to shut myself away from. I just wish I could nail down the exact thing making me feel like piss. Sunday and a 4-0 loss didn’t bloody help either did it! Whatever you do, find someone to talk this through with. Keep the exercise thing going. As rough as you feel, it still helps a lot. The world is a pretty negative place right now, but things will pick up. They always do. Supporting Stoke depresses me more than anything to be honest🙃
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Post by chigstoke on Oct 4, 2022 20:48:13 GMT
Cheers for the messages guys. If I quote reply I’ll take up the page, so I’ll whittle it down to this post. I don’t quite have the self confidence yet to do a team sport, but before the setback I was doing 6.15am circuit training (which ties into what you said prestwich nicely), I’ll be starting those again when I’m ready to start hitting lower back exercises again. I couldn’t drive or walk when I’d trapped it so I’m taking cardio and upper body weight training at a steady pace atm. Foster, no bird here mate! (And no 6 pack yet mate ). I sort of told myself I’m leaving the whole dating thing until I’m where I want to be physically from the training. Im not averse to meeting anyone mind if that ends up happening. I am actually seeing an old friend from college on Saturday which I’d completely forgot about, so that’ll be nice. I think deep down, I know I’m not on my own, it’s a classic case of never wanting to trouble people about stuff. Im one of them who bottles stuff up and does a good job of it. I need to get my head back in the game! Goaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrn Chigster! You’re doing brilliantly, keep it up✊🏻 Fully intend on it mate, just two kilos off of 3 stone off now, in just over 4 months all being well. So close to 89kg now (weighed 93.1 this morning). By Christmas, I would love to be at least 85kg.
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Post by thehartshillbadger on Oct 4, 2022 20:51:07 GMT
Goaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrn Chigster! You’re doing brilliantly, keep it up✊🏻 Fully intend on it mate, just two kilos off of 3 stone off now, in just over 4 months all being well. So close to 89kg now (weighed 93.1 this morning). By Christmas, I would love to be at least 85kg.
Wow that’s amazing, brilliant dedication. I wish I had your heart for fitness. Maybe soon
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Post by chigstoke on Oct 4, 2022 21:23:13 GMT
Fully intend on it mate, just two kilos off of 3 stone off now, in just over 4 months all being well. So close to 89kg now (weighed 93.1 this morning). By Christmas, I would love to be at least 85kg.
Wow that’s amazing, brilliant dedication. I wish I had your heart for fitness. Maybe soon It is a slog badger, it’s hard work and calorie counting, though now easy, can be mentally draining, there’s a fine line to be balanced. Like most have always told me mate, if you want it, you can get it, I’m sure you’d smash it mate if it’s something you’re looking at for the future.
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Post by Rednwhitenblue on Oct 10, 2022 15:48:01 GMT
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Post by lordb on Oct 10, 2022 16:04:48 GMT
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