Thanks TV68, i can relate to what you have said. It's the little things that hurt, i went for the phone yesterday after the match to ring him to discuss the game and how briliant we were. Just noticed his name in my phone address book, that sort of thing wrecks me at the moment. Just want to fast forward to the time when it doesn't hurt so much.
These sort of things will stay with you a long time. Sadly you cant ffwd the time. Its a process that needs to be worked through. Xmas is killing me already and im a lot longer on from yourself. its been estimated that an adult child will take on average 7 years to fully come to terms with a parents death, especially if its the last surviving parent. Some may think it excessive but for me, several years is the least that some one so precious deserves. Everyone is different though. The worst time comes after the funeral, after all the initial activity. It really is true just how much people such as extended family & friends withdraw support after the funeral. I cant sugar coat it, it will be very tough year for you and the time of year doesn't help either.
I read a lot in the months that followed, there's a lot of time to contemplate things & you will find yourself asking the big questions such as is there anything afterwards, is there a meaning to it all. One particular book that helped me a lot was The Last Frontier by Julia Assante. I wish I had owned it in the days before my mother's passing. It might not be for you but I can recommend it to you, its available on Amazon UK.
Condolences mate. Occasions like Saturday are bitter-sweet. Oddly enough, my dad passed away the day before another memorable game v City - when Crouchie scored "that" goal. So every time it gets re-played (as Saturday's goals will be), it's tinged with sadness and joy at the same time.
My deepest and most sincere condolences, Dexter, to you and all family and close friends. Memories are like the Autumn harvest... when you're feeling peckish for your dad's love, just take a few out and nibble on them. They're great comfort food.
RIP Dexter's Dad. (Oldstokie doffs flat cap in respect.)
I started this thread on saturday after my dad passed away and mentioned that he played for Stoke in the mid 50s. Since the weekend i have been going through his old photos and newspaper cuttings and came across his original contract when he signed for Stoke in 1955. His wage was £9 per week with £4 extra if playing in the first team. How things have evolved !
Really sad to hear your news. My dad and I were regular season ticket holders (more so at Victoria ground in the Butler Street), unfortunately last year he was taken into care because of Vascular Dementia. He is physically sound and only aged 69, anyway with all the fantastic happenings at our club over the past few years, I feel lost that I cannot just speak to him about it as I know he would be so chuffed as he lived for Stoke City. This may seem silly to some fans but it does take some shine off what are good times to follow Stoke. Really brings it home to make the most of times with family and friends following the mighty potters!