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Post by trentvale68 on Dec 7, 2015 0:44:15 GMT
Thanks TV68, i can relate to what you have said. It's the little things that hurt, i went for the phone yesterday after the match to ring him to discuss the game and how briliant we were. Just noticed his name in my phone address book, that sort of thing wrecks me at the moment. Just want to fast forward to the time when it doesn't hurt so much. These sort of things will stay with you a long time. Sadly you cant ffwd the time. Its a process that needs to be worked through. Xmas is killing me already and im a lot longer on from yourself. its been estimated that an adult child will take on average 7 years to fully come to terms with a parents death, especially if its the last surviving parent. Some may think it excessive but for me, several years is the least that some one so precious deserves. Everyone is different though. The worst time comes after the funeral, after all the initial activity. It really is true just how much people such as extended family & friends withdraw support after the funeral. I cant sugar coat it, it will be very tough year for you and the time of year doesn't help either.
I read a lot in the months that followed, there's a lot of time to contemplate things & you will find yourself asking the big questions such as is there anything afterwards, is there a meaning to it all. One particular book that helped me a lot was The Last Frontier by Julia Assante. I wish I had owned it in the days before my mother's passing. It might not be for you but I can recommend it to you, its available on Amazon UK.
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Post by trentvale68 on Dec 7, 2015 0:48:07 GMT
Having lost both parents now, my mum very recently, I can only sympathise. Its a horrible club we're in mate. Im fully paid up with you after losing my dad in 1982 & mum this year. We are orphans and it's a bastard at any age! It makes you realise that it really isn't the end of the world if stoke lose.
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 1:04:07 GMT
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Post by lastoftheldk on Dec 7, 2015 1:04:07 GMT
RIP
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 1:07:37 GMT
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Post by steino72 on Dec 7, 2015 1:07:37 GMT
Sounds like you had some great times with your Dad, memories, sorry for your loss, RIP....
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 3:03:10 GMT
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Post by steve66 on Dec 7, 2015 3:03:10 GMT
Deepest sympathy at a sad time, remembering the good times always puts a smile on my face when thinking of a beloved one.
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Post by ST1 Stokie on Dec 7, 2015 5:24:02 GMT
R.I.P we'll be with you
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Post by lawrieleslie on Dec 7, 2015 7:04:20 GMT
Aw Dexter very sorry to hear this and may he Rest In Peace. I too lost my Dad a few weeks ago just after the Villa win and, like you, miss the phone calls after every game.
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Post by stokietony on Dec 7, 2015 7:21:54 GMT
R.I.P :-(
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 8:24:04 GMT
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Post by WoodbineWright2@ on Dec 7, 2015 8:24:04 GMT
Sorry for your loss Dexter. It's a day we all dread. R.I.P Dexter's dad.
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 11:57:02 GMT
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Post by elystokie on Dec 7, 2015 11:57:02 GMT
Having lost both parents now, my mum very recently, I can only sympathise. Lost Mum August last year, still can't get used to not ringing her every day.
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 11:58:09 GMT
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Post by elystokie on Dec 7, 2015 11:58:09 GMT
Having lost both parents now, my mum very recently, I can only sympathise. Same here, both gone now. Lost Mum August last year, still can't get used to not ringing her every day.
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Post by Not_Nick_H on Dec 7, 2015 13:01:46 GMT
Condolences mate. Occasions like Saturday are bitter-sweet. Oddly enough, my dad passed away the day before another memorable game v City - when Crouchie scored "that" goal. So every time it gets re-played (as Saturday's goals will be), it's tinged with sadness and joy at the same time.
RIP dexter Sr.
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Post by OldStokie on Dec 7, 2015 13:03:45 GMT
My deepest and most sincere condolences, Dexter, to you and all family and close friends. Memories are like the Autumn harvest... when you're feeling peckish for your dad's love, just take a few out and nibble on them. They're great comfort food. RIP Dexter's Dad. (Oldstokie doffs flat cap in respect.) OS.
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RIP Dad
Dec 7, 2015 20:49:34 GMT
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Post by Sergeant Muttley on Dec 7, 2015 20:49:34 GMT
So sorry to hear of your Dads death Dexter,having just gone through the same a few weeks back I know exactly how you are feeling.If you need to talk to anyone just give me a pm mate.RIP dexter's dad
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Post by AlbertTatlock on Dec 7, 2015 22:02:30 GMT
Deepest sympathies to you and your family. Gouranga.
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Post by jnicollz on Dec 7, 2015 23:19:19 GMT
RIP
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Post by crownmeking on Dec 7, 2015 23:46:53 GMT
So sorry to hear of this loss... God bless your dad. 'We'll be with you' X
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Post by roostershair on Dec 8, 2015 9:30:38 GMT
Dexter. So sorry mate.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2015 9:44:48 GMT
R.I.P.
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Post by dexter on Dec 10, 2015 21:06:38 GMT
I started this thread on saturday after my dad passed away and mentioned that he played for Stoke in the mid 50s. Since the weekend i have been going through his old photos and newspaper cuttings and came across his original contract when he signed for Stoke in 1955. His wage was £9 per week with £4 extra if playing in the first team. How things have evolved !
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Post by martcliffe on Dec 11, 2015 9:26:21 GMT
Really sad to hear your news. My dad and I were regular season ticket holders (more so at Victoria ground in the Butler Street), unfortunately last year he was taken into care because of Vascular Dementia. He is physically sound and only aged 69, anyway with all the fantastic happenings at our club over the past few years, I feel lost that I cannot just speak to him about it as I know he would be so chuffed as he lived for Stoke City. This may seem silly to some fans but it does take some shine off what are good times to follow Stoke. Really brings it home to make the most of times with family and friends following the mighty potters!
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Post by rogerjonesisgod on Dec 11, 2015 10:08:11 GMT
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